Husband doesn’t want me working part time even though we can afford it

First thing to do is contact your GP to make sure nothing is physically off (low iron will make you feel exhausted but there are other things to check as well).
Secondly, do you and DP share the house work 50/50? If not, that's what making you tired so he will have to either step up or let you work part time to compensate.

I would find it so unattractive if DH wanted to work part time and live off my salary before we had kids because he was too tired to make a salad after work.

This is a joke right ?

I think you ABU. 2 grown up adults shouldn't be making a mess that requires someone to work part time to sort.

It sounds like you really dislike your job. I would change it - don't drop your hours, keep your independence and ability to earn going.

What are you currently doing every evening and weekend?

Also, it's a lot of pressure for someone to be the main breadwinner and keep covering the bills. I'd be a bit annoyed if my husband put me in this position without good reason.

I would get your thyroid checked also OP.

Do not put yourself at such a disadvantage with a man who threatens you!.

totally unreasonable in the absence of DC. I can understand why DH wouldn't want to fund this lifestyle choice. You are two adults. there should be plenty of time to take care of cooking and cleaning. How would you think you'd manage with DC. Also, have you considered the long term impact on career, pensions etc?

If you don't have kids then no you should both work full time. Then split the cooking and cleaning or split the cooking and get a cleaner. You can't expect him to work full time while you work a lot less to flit about the house instead.

Well it depends. You work part time cook and clean fine.

You work full time and share housework 50/50. Also fine.

Money 50/50 either way!

Have you thought through the long term finances for you...eg effect on your pension?

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This post cometely nails it.

Don't even think of having children with this man unless, or until, you are 100% confident he will pull his weight on all childcare and domestic matters.

Or does he think he big man earning lots of money and you should be happy running around after him doing the domestic drudge as well as working FT?

Working PT will only weaken your position and make you more reliant on him.

I get tired quite easily and I’m honestly so exhausted
Have you had your iron levels checked?

Op, be very careful about surrendering your career and your financial freedom to such an unpleasant man.

No matter what you do, you must always be able to afford to walk away and support yourself.

The only way he would be in the right is if he takes on 50% of running the house OP.

If he doesn't then it's time for a chat about splitting the load so you get some rest. He has a choice.

I'd also mull over having kids as your workload would probably increase when you go back to work.

Or suggest he goes part time so he can pick up more house stuff. A sweeter deal working full time imo.

I frequently work overtime unpaid. It can vary any where between 1- 6 hours per week depending on how shattered I am at the end of the working day/if I feel up to working more at the weekends.

You posted this previously. I think you need to change your job rather than go part time, if you do extra hours on top of your normal hours, that won't change by going part time.

Get out now girl and don't have his kids, because he will force you to be a working mum

It's not unreasonable to want to work part time but it's also not unreasonable to not want to have someone financially dependant on you

Is this a reverse?

Just get a job that doesn't have a "few hours commute everyday" it will fix all your problems. Working part time won't fix things the way you think, especially if it's an office job because they expect you to still fit a full time job into part time hours.

Have you always been tired like this? How long has it lasted?

If you are truly exhausted by a normal work schedule and ordinary chores around the house, I would recommend contacting your GP. You may have a medical issue. Otherwise it seems very odd to want to work part time just to cope with adult life.

What would you say if he also wanted to work part time?

His response is pretty horrible but also you’re expecting him to work full time while claiming it’s too tiring for you?

What a complete 🔨

Seems reasonable to me, but then I work part time too - 4 days a week and then have time to clean, cook and do laundry etc.

It means my Dh doesn't do any of these things and that suits him, so he was more than happy for me to reduce my hours!

Two childless adults should have no problem cooking and cleaning between them.

I think yabu because you need to maintain your financial independence as much as you can. It’s so much harder to extricate yourself from an unhappy relationship if you are financially dependent.

Did you move to a longer commute for his sake?

Have you looked at your health to understand if something physical has made you more tired?

These things would help. But fundamentally, asking another person to pay for your lifestyle, or to restrict his lifestyle because you want to lower your joint income, is going to cause problems.

Changing job to somewhere nearer sounds more to the point.