Husband doesn’t want me working part time even though we can afford it

Keep the full time job and pay for a cleaner.

How long is your commute? I'm guessing around 1.5 hrs each way. Having done that sort of commute in my youth, it's knackering especially in the winter months when you barely see daylight.
I don't think you said what your job is. Can you go flexi so you're doing 5 days hours over 4 days? Is it possible to work during your commute? Or work from home one or two days? All this could make a big difference to your energy levels.
Don't go part-time. Get a cleaner to come twice a week for a couple of hours each time. Or even just once a week.
Don't cook everything from scratch. Be choosy about what you spend your time cooking, and when you do cook, do a batch and freeze portions.
And make sure your DH is doing half of the household chores and cooking!

If you don't feel like your weekends are restful and you can't keep up with the housework or cooking now, I suggest you don't have children. You don't sound resilient enough for motherhood

This.

It’s not normal to be this tired from normal life, get your bloods checked, iron etc. Are you working out? Eating a wide range of fruit and veg? May you be depressed?

Generally the more you do, the more energy you have. I felt a little like that and a lifestyle change sorted it.

If you just want to be a housewife, be honest about it to yourself and your partner.

However, why would you want to be an unpaid cleaner and maid with no pension contributions, your own proper income and assets etc, in 2024? Do you benefit from it in any way? I’m just really not sure why cleaning is still a woman’s aspiration in this day and age. If one wants a show home and that’s important to them, surely a hired professional can do it to a higher standard? Cooking as a hobby/ interest I totally get, but who actually wants to do more hoovering, ironing, window cleaning, toilet scrubbing etc? Who are these people that dream of that as little girls growing up? 🤨

Would part time earnings still give a fair contribution to all the bills/social life/personal expenses/savings/etc? Or are you wanting your DH to foot those things?

So you don’t want to work at all full time, and want your husband to support you financially? And, shock horror, he doesn’t want that pressure.. I am staggered by your entitlement tbh…

You're either in a family in which both partners work to build the best setting to support everyone in it - accounting for personal skills, health and capacity, energy and personality.

Or you are in a family in which both partners are expected to contribute in the same manner, regardless of personal skills, health and capacity, energy and personality.

Personally, I see the latter as fucking miserable and lacks the space to adapt or bend in any way, but it seems to be that standard format on MN. Keep up or ship out, op.

why?

Don’t be daft - it’s not unreasonable to expect your partner to work FT as youngish adults w no kids. Why not? They are building their financial future.

If he’s not pulling his weight domestically that’s a separate issue.

Its not UR as such however you have no children and you want to cut your career back so you can do more cleaning and cooking? Meanwhile his career will flourish? Totally bonkers and doing nothing to protect yourself.
If you feel tired go the GP, if you don't like the commute then look for another job but please don't give up your job now before you have children, now is the time to establish yourself in the workplace rather than taking a step back. Don't let life pass you by. Work kept me sane when I had my children and taking a pay cut left me worse off.
Your DH sounds like a knob so I would aim for better there too.

What age are you?

If I were him, I would have second thoughts about having children with you.. as not only would you likely not contribute financially to them but also you might be conveniently too tired for night wakings and taking the kids to the playground etc

Oh, fuck, sorry, OP - I thought he doesn't want you to work EVEN part time, as my very generous husband of 20 years once "set up".
If not a joke, ditch this bastard and don't look back.
I see you have no children, like myself, should be easier.
I'm babbling here, so much outrageous stuff lately!!!
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The second sentence in your OP talked about his salary and how it meant you didn't really need to work.

Yeah but you are building your joint financial future - so whether directly or not you will be taking money off him.

It makes sense to earn more now so you can a) get your savings in order and get to a decent level so you can work PT effectively when you have pre school kids.

if you are too tired to work FT now, you do need to sort that out pre kids, because you will be flat on your back.

Exactly this. Plus, pension. By working part time you’ll have less to retire on, so he’d be picking up the slack then.

This x100

Also, don't let yourself become dependent on a man.

Take a look around at all the "he'll never leave me" newly single women who are now struggling to resume careers after being blindsided by the man they thought would financially support them indefinitely.

Well that's never a guarantee is it? You can never be sure what might suddenly need doing in the house for example e.g. new roof or if you unexpectedly have triplets instead of 1 baby. Life isn't predictable so yeah your DH would have more of a financial responsibility if you went part time even if you don't anticipate that he will. It's utterly selfish.

Exactly.

I imagine his sympathy wouldn't extend to you in pregnancy or newborn fatigue, no doubt because "there are women in Africa raising 11 children" 🙄

Really? So you’d be able to still be your part of all the bills in full? Pay your part of all holidays/days out/nights out/events/presents etc in full exactly the same as you do now on a part time wage?

Women have been working FT, running a home AND rearing children for decades.........what suddenly changed? Get a grip.

You don’t say you do mega hours so I think seeing the doc is the thing to do.

You can’t expect him to work FT and you not, cos you want to make good money right now, and build your earning power, so you can go PT when your kids are pre-school - it’s easier to make PT work for you when you are a bit higher up the ladder.

Make sure he does his fairshare of cooking, and get a cleaner.

If you don't want to work full time, and can afford not to, then you are not unreasonable.

If you can only afford part time because DH would be picking up the extra financial responsibility, then it's unreasonable.

I live alone so do all the house stuff, admin stuff etc myself. I'd feel ridiculous for going part time because I'm tired.

I also don't understand why you think you get this choice and your partner will just finance it as a lifestyle choice.