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How much easier my life would be if I just sent my DD to the local state primary

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abgah · 26/12/2024 10:28

At the moment she's at a private primary school.

The local state primary in my village is within walking distance.. it has an ofsted ' good ' rating.

The class size is of course 30 children per class. In DDs private primary, there are 15 children per class.

We made the decision to send her to private school because we thought she'd massively benefit from smaller class size and will enjoy better facilities.

But it's such a stress to send her there, mainly because it's 30 minutes away due to traffic really. I leave the house before 8 and I'm not back until after 9 in the mornings and the same in the evenings. It's absolutely exhausting.

I have recently started a job working from the office and getting back to pick her up is very stressful. My every day is massively stressful. I pay someone to drop her off on the mornings I go to work in the office but I do all the pickups.

It's just a huge stress but she's really thriving and loves her school so much. This is not even considering the huge financial burden it is on us to send her there.

I just keep going past the local primary school and thinking, is this going to be something I look back on and regret ? It's such a huge stress on us. I hope it will be worth it.

She goes to one of the through schools and we chose it for that reason, so she can stay on for secondary school more easily.

Are any parents in similar positions or have been in similar positions ? We really are just trying to do the best for her, no matter what the sacrifice. Like all parents are.

OP posts:
abgah · 26/12/2024 10:34

She's in reception. She's been going there since nursery, so 3 years old. So I've been doing the commute for 1 year and a term.

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DarkForces · 26/12/2024 10:32

Just put her on the waiting list and wait to get a space then decide?

Whyherewego · 26/12/2024 10:31

School doesn't matter quite as much as you think. My kids switched primary school 3 times for various reasons. At that age they can make new friends and they don't have exams etc so it's really not a drama to change. If the local school would make you a lot less stressed then do that and you can always supplement with tutoring and other paid activities

Werecat · 26/12/2024 10:31

She will benefit from smaller classes, less disruption and better facilities. The question for you is whether the strain of the commute and the fees is worth that benefit. If it’s not - you can change it.

Mashroom · 26/12/2024 10:31

it will hard to take her out but financially you could pay for tutors if you need to and she could make friends locally

what year is she in ?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/12/2024 10:29

That does sound stressful. Is there any possibility of moving nearer the school?

Renamedyetagain · 26/12/2024 10:28

I wouldn't pay for primary personally, unless you're in a grammar area...