DH complaining about my Christmas Dinner

Your husband is a twerp
There is a lot of frankly dreadful meat about these days
The one "how to cook meat" guide that I have ever found useful is Riverford and even that doesn't get it right all the time

He's a twat but really why spend hours in the kitchen homemaking everything when your home alone with young children and not hosting for Christmas lunch (from the sounds of it). The children don't care about the food and there are plenty of pre prepped options. DH spent a grand total of 1 hour in the kitchen cooking yesterday

Oh really? That’s good to know. I’ve tried it in the slow cooker and it wasn’t good however I didn’t submerge it in liquid.

Beef is hard to cook. For the price I do t safe risk it. Lamb in the slow cooker overnight however is to die for. Do that next time.

Very good.
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What’s this got to do with the OP’s dickhead husband?

I cook most beef joints in the slow cooker fully submerged in gravy and onion now, after several leathery joints. The meat falls apart and the gravy is delicious.

I'm a qualified chef. Coincidentally, I did a smaller joint of beef bought in Tesco at half price. I definitely know how to cook and let it rest. I thought it was on the tough side for what joint it was, so this might not have been you whatsoever.
The difference is your DH is a dick and next year he'd be cooking...if there was a next year.

This is unkind, unhelpful and untrue. Who are you to tell OP her feelings are not valid? Those comments are not ‘jokes’.

are you quite ok

He has fucking arms..

Christ. I had to ask my youngest to make the table, and he did whinge that I wasn't asking his brother, but he did do it at least - and he's 11..

And the beef, next time he can cook Christmas dinner then - there's enough time after he gets back from work if he cooks the turkey the day before.

I would have told mil she could teach her son how to cook the beef!

As a MIL with adult sons myself, I’m annoyed that your MIL didn’t bollock DH for criticising your cooking after everything else you’d been doing all day.

Who does he think he is?? A fuckwit, that’s what!

Why on earth did you cook beef as well as turkey? You were making far too much work for yourself. When did you have time to enjoy Christmas Day? Next year - do the minimum. Oh and your husband is an arse.

Agree. But without the sorry at the start!

“Your turn next year, darling.”

Well you don't do it again. If he wants anything different from what you've made he makes it.

In my family you get what you are given and you are grateful.

Laughing at you? No.

I agree with other people re not doing Christmas dinner again but the reality is you won't do that, and that's what's so frustrating about so many stories on Mumsnet and everywhere else - women working themselves to the bone and being taken completely for granted, when all it would have taken to make you feel good is well-deserved compliments about the meal and how much work you've put in. Can we all stop raising sons to be like the husband in this story? As for your husband, I wouldn't cook beef for him again, ever - and if he requests it say "sorry, I decided to stop cooking beef the Christmas you made such a big deal of me overcooking it and ignored the hours of work I put into the meal in general." Twat.

Ungrateful sod.

Tell him since he was not satisfied with your lunch this year, next year he can show you how it's done. Tell his family too.

I've also had mystery tough beef despite cooking it a 100 times. Last time it came from Tesco funnily enough.

Love that @HelloWorldItsNiceToMeetYou !

He's obviously doing a shit job of being a provider if they have to buy cheap beef.
She should complain about this and ridicule him, getting their children to join in. Then when her family come over she should complain again, and her dad can give him hints and tops about how to be a better provider.

On a day when they OP had plenty of time and headspace and nothing else to cook in the same oven, she doubtless would have done a better job.

Did you miss the part where she was running around after small, over-excited children and also trying to cook a full roast turkey dinner for a large family in a small oven at the same time as cooking something she'd never cooked before?

Has nothing you've tried to cook ever gone wrong?

The fault is not with the OP. Her husband is a dick who doesn't care what effort she expended on trying to give everyone a lovely day and lovely food. He should have been full of gratitude for her being willing to host his wider family and running herself ragged to do so. Instead, he took pleasure in insulting her efforts and encouraged their children and his parents to join in making her the butt of the joke.

@TuffasOldBoots depending on the whether this is his usual behaviour or a one-off, you need to either go nuclear at him in private or LTB. Please don't ever put yourself in a position where this is likely to happen again. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, especially on Christmas Day.

No excuse for the complaining but don't Tesco joints have cooking instructions on the label?

I cook beef on average once a fortnight, and have done for around 15 years now. So that's a lot of beef. I've tried many different methods, some work beautifully, some don't. I've got it cracked. But, sometimes, the joint is just tough. Not a happy cow. It happens. And sometimes, when running round after a small child at the same time, I overdo it. Because that also happens.

Tell him to shut it, because it's just a piece of beef, and forgive yourself. And take a day off, I was exhausted just reading your post.

I think the people giving tops on cooking beef are missing the point.
Her husband was a rude ungrateful twat and belittled her in front of his family.
That is the point of the thread.