DH complaining about my Christmas Dinner

If I am attempting to cook anything that I am not sure what Fan oven temperature to use or how long to cook it for then the very first thing I do is GOOGLE it before I even make a start!! 🙄
These days there is really no excuse for ignorance unless of course you don't have a smart phone or the internet but thinking about that surely there might be someone in the family, Mum or Gran who could be rang for info?! 🤔

That was so mean of your DH, you managed fantastically to cook a Christmas feast whilst opening gifts and entertaining your young children. I know difficult this is!

As for the beef, I don’t think it was your fault. I’ve had a couple of really tough/unchewable joints from Tesco, usually on the Clubcard special offers. Perhaps you could buy just one more for your husband to cook as a new Year treat and see how he gets on, ungrateful git.

IF you agree to cook next year it's nut roast for everyone I'm not joking. He's so rude.
I would really fall out with him over this.

As per a previous poster, prep as much as you can prior to Christmas Day. It doesn’t have to be done Christmas Eve either. I peel and chop veg then bag it up a couple of days in advance. Potatoes can be par boiled and coated in the fat/oil of your choice, spices, etc the day before Christmas Eve. Mashed potatoes can be prepared and refrigerated ready to be heated up and cream/butter to be added on the day. Gravy can be made ahead. Everything can be pre-prepared (almost). Next year just plan what you’re having and prep ahead. It just makes it so much less hassle on the day. Your DH, however, is an arse!! Big hugs OP xxx

If my DH did that I would never cook a meal for him again. Your DH is an entitled arsehole.

What an utter git, so disrespectful. Even when I have a kitchen disaster DH is usually saying it’s fine whilst I complain (and yes some beef is just crap).

Next year I suggest you both prepare everything the day or two before Christmas. We spend time on Christmas Eve peeling and parboiling vegetables, making stuffing etc so on Christmas day it’s much easier. Then stuff is put out in dishes for people to help themselves so I’m not spending ages dishing up and remembering who wants what.

Google is your friend, so is a meat thermometer. Best advice my vegetarian friend gave me who prepares tonnes of meat dishes, particularly roasts, for her Greek husband. So much so, that I didn’t know she was vegetarian (well, pescatarian).

she looks up how long per weight and at what temp to cook things. She also has recommended loads of marinades. Tells me it helps create the juiciest meats, never dry. And she doesn’t eat it!

we go out often together for girly days/nights out. I usually order fish or shellfish because I don’t get it at home so much (never shellfish), so I never noticed.

Whatever you do next year, don't be trying to do all the prep on Christmas Day. Therein lies madness and missing time with the family. Prep absolutely every last thing the day before and then it's just a case of sticking stuff in the oven, turning on the hob etc.

He’s an ungrateful arse and he can do it all for yiu next year. I ccomoletely understand how hurtful it feels when you’ve made so much effort. I once hosted Christmas dinner for my ex’s family of 17 and when I asked him what he thought of the meal, he said he thought the turkey was too moist! No surprise that he became an ex a year or so later 😂

If he is going to complain he should cook next time.

Well on this occasion it was because the DH wasn't even in the house at the time the meal was being cooked. He was at work. It says so in the OP.

Besides, the OP said she'd tried to find out what the cooking instructions were and got confused because there was too much contradictory advice. So I provided the correct cooking times for an ordinary beef roasting joint.

did the beef write this

Obviously it should say beef not book 🙄😂

I would have told him to fuck off and to start saving for going out next year or he can have the day off and do the bloody cooking! Also I would have made it clear the book was tough because of the crap advice he supplied! What a prick!!

Sometimes I think you just need to slow cook beef. It is the only way I can make it not tough.
sorry your DH was an ass about it.
Next year let him cook the bloody beef.

Surely if it was from Tesco it had cooking instructions on it so why the texting of husband and friends and the googling?

And yes, I understand that this was BEFORE you failed to consult the internet, cook books, parents or neighbours about how to cook meat, but you could have, but you wanted to be martyred. Saint Tuff, we salute you.

And you turned her down. Because you mainly want to show how hard done by you are. Look at me with my mainly vegetarian lifestyle, cooking meat!

Cook meat, or don’t cook meat, but don’t expect praise for cooking meat if you can’t be bothered to do the most simple task of reading a cook book, and just ruin it.

If DP wasn’t working in the morning, then you would have a point. He was.

Why did you bother with the beef? Turkey should have been enough (and your husband sounds very unpleasant).

Don't accept the situation of no help, from his arrival at 2pm DH should have been playing with the kids , building toys and doing the washing up- with you focussing on the cooking.
Do not accept this kind of passive aggressive criticism- whenever I hear this sort of bullshit I quote the French proverb (in translation) "He who never does anything never makes a mistake", if you don't like it cook your own dinner.
I did a huge amount of cooking, all of which was fine accept the beef-so what is your problem? Make sure all of this is in front of all of the family members he complained about the beef to. As for the cost of the turkey crown- if he wants to bag a bargain, tell him to feel free, you didn't have the time, but he could have and should have if he wants to more closely control the cost.
Your husband sounds like a moaning, unpleasant and unappreciative type, but I know from experience that he may just not have considered the pressures you are under-you must tell him, and make it clear if he wants change, then he has to change and lighten your burdens.
On a practical note- if you want a cheaper turkey they are available at most major supermarkets online-just order the deal some of them do that come with the 15p veg etc-you can't do cheaper and neither can your hubby.
Cooking beef, especially a small joint-no more than 20 mins a pound plus 20 mins, and my secret weapon I always do a small joint from frozen-no matter what some posts say it isn't the beef-none of it from the supermarket moves around any more so it isn't inherently tough- it will be juicy pink and delicious, I promise, Put an alarm on , because 40 mins will probably be plenty-keep it warm (my grill is above my oven so I put it in there to keep warm and rest for half an hour or so while you wrangle everything else.