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Told my friend to drop him

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:18

She uses the dating apps. She’s lovely and deserves a good man. I told her none of them are from there. If they are there in small numbers. She wanted to go on a date with this one guy.
She was previously larger. Now, she’s into running and yoga and Pilates. She’s worked really hard and is now approx 50 something kg. Was once around 80 something.

Apparently he was large too. He said to her “I need to see your before pictures at some point. I promise I’ll do my best not to laugh”

She looks pretty good now and worked very hard. I really admire her. I said he sounds like an idiot and that comment would just PMO. But I’m a one stroke and you’re out kind of woman.

She is like a little sister to me though and I’m a bit too protective. She’s 27 im 29.

Thoughts?

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:34

Wolfiefan · 25/12/2024 23:30

It’s up to her to choose though isn’t it? You don’t get to tell her who she can date.

Of course not. Again it was more just me saying. Please be careful the comments a bit red flaggy but maybe it’s not? Maybe it’s just a joke and Im not processing that

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Wolfiefan · 25/12/2024 23:30

It’s up to her to choose though isn’t it? You don’t get to tell her who she can date.

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:29

NutNutmum · 25/12/2024 23:27

How about let her live her own life and butt out, you sound jealous she may get attention. FYI I met my husband online 19 years ago.

Does she know here so called best friend is bitching about her on MN and spreading gossip about her love life. 🙄

Sorry what? I’ve applauded her for her efforts. In no way would I be jealous. I just know she goes for the wrong men and gets hurt. I was just trying to explain the comment was a bit red flaggy

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NutNutmum · 25/12/2024 23:27

How about let her live her own life and butt out, you sound jealous she may get attention. FYI I met my husband online 19 years ago.

Does she know here so called best friend is bitching about her on MN and spreading gossip about her love life. 🙄

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:26

DurinsBane · 25/12/2024 23:25

50kg, unless she is very short, is not a healthy weight for an adult woman. A

She’s really short.

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DurinsBane · 25/12/2024 23:25

50kg, unless she is very short, is not a healthy weight for an adult woman. A

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:24

Pickles2025 · 25/12/2024 23:23

omg

Yeah..

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Pickles2025 · 25/12/2024 23:23

omg

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:22

Also she’s just corrected me the comment was “I promise I’ll try my best not to laugh. I was fat so I can’t really say shit can I”

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:21

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 25/12/2024 23:20

Sounds like a knob.

Yup. All seemed fine to her then he said that.

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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 25/12/2024 23:20

Sounds like a knob.

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 25/12/2024 23:19

Oh I should add I’m adhd and asc so that’s why I sound very blunt and unforgiving😂

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