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To think this is just rude on christmas Day

84 replies

Lucyy97 · 25/12/2024 18:55

To invite your daughter and grand daughter round then walk dog twice and spend over 2 and half hours upstairs in bed ?

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lionloaf · 25/12/2024 21:14

Sorry to ask the obvious but does he like you/your daughter?

Headinthesand21 · 25/12/2024 21:01

Gymnopedie · 25/12/2024 20:12

It may be a row but is anyone else thinking possible affair? Grumpy all day, not being involved, going for two dog walks, one of them very long. And being a misery because he has to be at home with the family and not with his AP.

I don't think it's an impossible stretch.

Don’t be silly

Crazycactuslady · 25/12/2024 20:58

My Dad does similar sometimes, but he has severe tinnitus and sound sensitivity… I have a 4 year old. Could it be something similar?

My Dad appears agitated when sound affects him - like it’s making his head physically hurt, he will take time away from noise on a bad day with the dog/garden/log chopping etc if needed.

He absolutely won’t admit it and will not see a doctor if asked what’s up, just mutters and grumbles under his breath about ‘bloody kids’.

Manxexile · 25/12/2024 20:50

What did your mum say when you asked her why dad was acting like this?

I presume you have asked her?

Either they've had a blazing row or he's ill.

If your mum doesn't know, go and ask him yourself

MyNameIsErinQuin · 25/12/2024 20:42

If it’s out of character for him, I’d assume he was feeling ill. Walked dog as usual, needed lie down, kept out of your way so not spreading germs etc. I was feeling awful on Saturday, DH had hobby friends round. I walked dog, had a sleep, made myself quick lunch, gave dog another quick walk, had another sleep…..

Suzuki76 · 25/12/2024 20:24

My uncle was like this. He didn't really like noise, mess, being out of routine, or too much company. My aunt was responsible for inviting family round and then he'd sulk.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 25/12/2024 20:21

Very rude. Unless he is unwell.

cuteyfluff · 25/12/2024 20:15

HolyPeaches · 25/12/2024 20:03

You seem more pissed off than concerned for him…

Yeah you don't actually seem to be worried?

xyz111 · 25/12/2024 20:14

I'd go and find him and say "Dad, what's up? You've invited us over but we've barely seen you and you're in a terrible mood".

cuteyfluff · 25/12/2024 20:14

Gymnopedie · 25/12/2024 20:12

It may be a row but is anyone else thinking possible affair? Grumpy all day, not being involved, going for two dog walks, one of them very long. And being a misery because he has to be at home with the family and not with his AP.

I don't think it's an impossible stretch.

Don't be so utterly ridiculous

cuteyfluff · 25/12/2024 20:13

Lucyy97 · 25/12/2024 19:05

Yeah well he swore under his breath a few times for some unknown reason. Huffing and puffing about something. Maybe in a bad mood but it’s made the day a bit ..

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There we go then. Just chill. Some people don't christmas. It's not just him who invited you over your mum did too. May he's got stuff on his mind or yeah maybe you're pissing him off. Just leave him be.

Gymnopedie · 25/12/2024 20:12

It may be a row but is anyone else thinking possible affair? Grumpy all day, not being involved, going for two dog walks, one of them very long. And being a misery because he has to be at home with the family and not with his AP.

I don't think it's an impossible stretch.

CandyLeBonBon · 25/12/2024 20:11

What's he normally like?

johnyhadasister · 25/12/2024 20:09

Seems your relatives are very relaxed about Christmas day. I appreciate this because I hate being in strange houses for Christmas and do my own now

biscuitsandbooks · 25/12/2024 20:06

Gitfeatures · 25/12/2024 20:04

They've had a row. This is standard 'stay out of the way' behaviour.

Yep, I'd bet good money on this too. It's rude though.

Gitfeatures · 25/12/2024 20:04

They've had a row. This is standard 'stay out of the way' behaviour.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 25/12/2024 20:04

Is your dad OK - perhaps he is ill or anxious or depressed or just not coping well.

HolyPeaches · 25/12/2024 20:03

You seem more pissed off than concerned for him…

biscuitsandbooks · 25/12/2024 20:03

Whose idea was it to have you round for Christmas? Maybe he's had a row with your mum and didn't want guests?

OnlyWhenILaugh · 25/12/2024 19:48

If it's out of character I'd be concerned about him rather than accusing him of being rude.
What was your Mum's take on it?

Petrasings · 25/12/2024 19:47

You need to ask him directly. Dad you don’t seem yourself is everything okay?

CoastalCalm · 25/12/2024 19:46

My late dad used to do this , had to be cajoled into even opening his presents and once lunch was over would go for a nap - he loved his family just not a very social person

PullTheBricksDown · 25/12/2024 19:45

How's your mum been? Have you gone home again now? I'd prefer to be back in my own place under the circumstances, I must admit.

Barney16 · 25/12/2024 19:42

Perhaps he's coming down with something? Loads of bugs about.

VegTrug · 25/12/2024 19:42

Yeah @Lucyy97 You're leaving a lot of context out here. We don't know anything about your parents. How they are normally etc. Bit of a guessing game!