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Last minute weigh in from DH irritating as hell

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Poodleville · 25/12/2024 17:09

Spent Xmas eve with DH's family, they are from the continent and it's the main celebration day for them. His mum usually packs us up with an excessive amount of leftovers.

I told DH that's fine but that I wanted our main meal today, xmas day, to not be leftovers (plus more traditional to my upbringing, when we ate his families traditional meal yesterday). I shared my Christmas meal menu plan with DH a good week ago I e. gave the opportunity to weigh in then. He also does the food shop so knew what we would and would not be having.

This afternoon he asks what we've having, says it sounds boring, because there is no meat. I had told him I was planning to cook a vegetarian roast (nut roast plus trimmings) because we'll have had so much meat the day before and sent home with us, plus we eat vegetarian food all the time so not unusual for us.

Feeling really pissed off and demotivated to cook now. I will do it for myself, to have the meal I want, but wtf.

Is it me or is his attitude rude and entitled (YANBU)?
Or am I missing something here?! (YABU)

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ThatLoudQuail · 25/12/2024 19:11

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Jk987 · 25/12/2024 17:58

If it's just the two of you then you should both have what you want. I can't imagine spending hours cooking anything at 5pm on Christmas Day!

MyLoftySwan · 25/12/2024 17:42

As a vegetarian I'd appreciate your effort so I'm on my way, what time do you want me?

phoenixrosehere · 25/12/2024 17:37

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 25/12/2024 17:34

To be fair, I'd be disappointed with a nut roast at Christmas.

If you do the food shop too and knew, wouldn’t you simply pick up something else then instead of complain?

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 25/12/2024 17:34

To be fair, I'd be disappointed with a nut roast at Christmas.

Poodleville · 25/12/2024 17:27

Thanks for comments. He's apologised for what it's worth and agreed it was a shitty comment to make especially on Chritsmas day. I would really like to kick that entitlement that surfaces around meals.

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phoenixrosehere · 25/12/2024 17:14

YANBU

It’s not like it was a surprise and he had a full week to say something or barest minimum get something else if he wasn’t keen on the choice.

I’d leave him to his own devices and enjoy what I decided on. You don’t have to eat the same foods.

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Poodleville · 25/12/2024 17:11

Otherwise had been having a lovely day, so annoyed that he's said this.

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