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To wonder why she can’t not comment for one day!

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Succumbes · 25/12/2024 13:53

Omg my dsis can’t not comment on my weight for one day. It’s Christmas Day and so far I’ve already had “oh what do you weigh now you must be max 10st” “oh you’ve no arse” “what size clothes are you in now” plus a few others I can’t remember. Why do people feel the need to do this? I mean I’d rather people just kept their gob shut. My sister is overweight herself but has recently lost some but I haven’t commented although I think she’d secretly like me too. It’s not my place to say anything. She’s always been quite competitive when it comes to weight so I don’t know why I expected her to say nothing especially when I haven’t seen her for a while and have probably lost another half stone. I’ve also caught her a few times looking me up and down which makes me majorly uncomfortable.
AIBU to feel annoyed? It’s Christmas Day after all.

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MumChp · 25/12/2024 14:16

Home!
No way I would spend my time with her.

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Succumbes · 25/12/2024 14:13

Oh and just to add my dsis is a notorious yo yo dieter. She loses the same two stone or so multiple times then gains it back. I have no judgment about this it’s just a fact but at the same time I don’t feel the need to comment.

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Succumbes · 25/12/2024 14:09

I’m in no way deliberately trying to wind her up by not commenting on her weight loss. I don’t feel comfortable talking about anyone’s weight so why should I comment?

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Jennyathemall · 25/12/2024 14:03

Succumbes · 25/12/2024 13:59

To be fair she’s not being nasty she says it lightheartedly but still it annoys the F out of me. I don’t like attention and have lost weight for me for my health etc and a side effect of that is I look and feel better in my clothes but I dare to wear something that is a little tight (as opposed to oversized or baggy) I can feel that she will comment or that’s she’s looking at me in a weird way.

Yes she is being nasty. Just disguising it as a passing comment and if you call her out on it she’ll put it back on you as over reacting. She obviously has a competitive issues and is constantly comparing herself to you. She’s desperate to “better” than you basically.

BananaSpanner · 25/12/2024 14:01

If you’ve otherwise got a good relationship, I’m surprised you’ve not once said “well done on your weight loss”, especially if you know she’d quite like you too (which doesn’t tie in with you saying it’s not your business to comment on her).

You both sound like you’re trying to wind the other up. You buy deliberately ignoring her weight loss, her by repeatedly commenting on yours. Both childish.

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Succumbes · 25/12/2024 14:00

I haven’t told her no. I have anxiety and I’m not good with confrontation or potential confrontation hence why I have been a push over all of my life. I’m trying to work on this though.

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Succumbes · 25/12/2024 13:59

To be fair she’s not being nasty she says it lightheartedly but still it annoys the F out of me. I don’t like attention and have lost weight for me for my health etc and a side effect of that is I look and feel better in my clothes but I dare to wear something that is a little tight (as opposed to oversized or baggy) I can feel that she will comment or that’s she’s looking at me in a weird way.

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Fraaances · 25/12/2024 13:58

You should always have a cream bun handy to shove in her pie hole every time she comments.

coconutpie · 25/12/2024 13:57

cuteyfluff · 25/12/2024 13:55

Tell her to shut the fuck up

This is the only reasonable response to your sister.

HeyPrestoVinegar · 25/12/2024 13:57

Why do people feel the need to do this?
They don't. Your sister chooses to be rude and thick.
Have you told her she is not to comment on your body?

Lallybroch · 25/12/2024 13:57

I have found in the past that people who make an issue about your weight are the ones that have a problem with their own weight and project it on to others. This will repeatedly happen with her until you find a way of saying to her that her opinion doesn't count, otherwise she will always be like this.

DeadsoulsAngel · 25/12/2024 13:56

My mother did this for years.. The first thing she said when we saw each other was either ‘you’ve lost weight’ or ‘you’ve gained weight’. Funnily enough, we have no relationship now and I keep her well away from my daughter! She made one comment on my daughter’s weight when she was around 10 and hasn’t seen her since. It’s so, so damaging!

Congratulations on your weight loss, op. It’s very hard but I’m sure you look and feel great for it.

Happy Christmas! 🎄

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 25/12/2024 13:56

That would drive me nuts.

Start crying. Tell her it's been a stressful year. Followed by please stop reminding me l don't have a lovely curvy bottom like yours.

cuteyfluff · 25/12/2024 13:55

Tell her to shut the fuck up