AIBU to have my little Christmas strop here rather than in real life and to ask you to share yours too?

My concern about going is because my sister is pregnant and we may be incubating whatever H has. They’ve said come so we may go but I don’t want to infect her and I’d feel bad leaving H, even if he doesn’t really want us here (in the nicest possible way)

Why do people put turkey's on so early? I don't get it. My mum used to be up at seven doing the turkey. I'm 55 so cooked plenty of Turkey and wouldnt be thinking about putting it in for a couple of hour's yet. We are aiming to eat at three as I had complaints that eating at 6 doesn't leave enough time for a buffet later. Happy to oblige but really putting a turkey on at 7 seems madness

Toddler was playing up last night and I was left to it to settle him, while thinking of the 1774763 things to do before bed to make it special for everyone.

Ended up going in and out between taking my contact lenses out- I was falling down tired and eyes killing me.

Toddlers ends up being sick over his Christmas pjs and DP accuses me of ruining Christmas and to get out. Lovely job.

Good morning and a very Merry Christmas to you all! OP, make the best of t today with the children and let your OH sleep. It is only one day and to be honest, will the kiddies miss the big family dinner with all the trimmings?.......probably not.

Now on to my strop...............OH niece has a birthday just before Christmas and traditionally, we send money. Her dad messaged on birthday morning to say XXX birthday money hasn't arrived, which account did you use? I was fucking livid and was actually on the point of sending it the evening before when our neighbour had collapsed on the drive and we had to immediately go and help - try doing CPR in the dark when it is pissing with rain! Online banking was the last thing on my mind.

Anyway, I completed the transfer and waited for an acknowledgment...........I waited and waited and waited...............still nothing. So I messaged and asked if the money had transferred and the dad just said yes........not thank you! That's the last time! Still not received a thank you from the niece either.

I'm not having a great Christmas either. DP having a bad mental health crisis so he's too erratic to be here so he's at his parents who won't have me in the house in case it sets him off. My Dd spent last night with her dad and he was meant to bring her back at 1 to spend the rest of today with me but she's having such fun with her half sister I just said keep her there a bit longer as she's enjoying herself.
So I'm just here on my own looking a mess and not had a single present yet. My DP gave all my presents away to someone who deserved them more than me. A random stranger in the park.
My dogs are cuddling me, they love their new toys.
I'm going to have a nice bath, sort my bed hair out, put some makeup on and see how I feel after. Once dd home then will do her presents and eat chocolate.
Whatever your day brings I hope everyone gets some pleasure out of it.
So it feels odd to say happy Christmas or merry Christmas when some of us are not feeling that so I guess seasons greetings to you all x

Good morning and a very Merry Christmas to you all! OP, make the best of t today with the children and let your OH sleep. It is only one day and to be honest, will the kiddies miss the big family dinner with all the trimmings?.......probably not.

Now on to my strop...............OH niece has a birthday just before Christmas and traditionally, we send money. Her dad messaged on birthday morning to say XXX birthday money hasn't arrived, which account did you use? I was fucking livid and was actually on the point of sending it the evening before when our neighbour had collapsed on the drive and we had to immediately go and help - try doing CPR in the dark when it is pissing with rain! Online banking was the last thing on my mind.

Anyway, I completed the transfer and waited for an acknowledgment...........I waited and waited and waited...............still nothing. So I messaged and asked if the money had transferred and the dad just said yes........not thank you! That's the last time! Still not received a thank you from the niece either.

Why do people put turkey's on so early? I don't get it. My mum used to be up at seven doing the turkey. I'm 55 so cooked plenty of Turkey and wouldnt be thinking about putting it in for a couple of hour's yet. We are aiming to eat at three as I had complaints that eating at 6 doesn't leave enough time for a buffet later. Happy to oblige but really putting a turkey on at 7 seems madness

Toddler was playing up last night and I was left to it to settle him, while thinking of the 1774763 things to do before bed to make it special for everyone.

Ended up going in and out between taking my contact lenses out- I was falling down tired and eyes killing me.

Toddlers ends up being sick over his Christmas pjs and DP accuses me of ruining Christmas and to get out. Lovely job.

Go to your mums as planned, he can rest and you get company.

So, it’s been a crap stressful year. Marriage has been strained by outside factors. H worked away for most of December. Things finally improving and was mildly looking forward to today. Anyway, he is ill. Properly, not leaving bedroom unwell. Not overreacting - he’s in a bad way. So I’m here by myself with three smallish children (7 and under) limited food options as we are supposed to be at my mum’s this afternoon through Boxing Day. He’s done none of the Christmas morning work so I’ve done it all (and not saying he should just upset I’m on my own spinning all the plates again). He hasn’t opened any of the presents I got him (again not saying he should have - just upset by circumstances) and he’s now asleep and I don’t know what we’re supposed to be doing.

I just don’t want to be on my own anymore. And here I am at Christmas by myself again.

Go to your mums, leave him water beside the bed x