Christmas cancelled

it's a shame, but these things happen. it's okay to be disappointed, of course.

Me too :( hope you're ok OP!

Me too. But OP didn't seem to think the food collection thing was unreasonable, which makes me wonder if there is a pattern of poor treatment from these people and she's conditioned to it.

Got a horrible feeling OP spent the day cooking for the entire family despite being uninvited from the Christmas celebrations due to a sudden, somewhat suspicious illness.

They are a bunch of pisstakers op.

Do not cook for them!!

Are they all genuinely ill? All happened in the last 24 hours? Headachy and ill, what all 6 of them? Sounds very odd and fishy to me.
No ways should you be cooking to feed 6 people and then sitting alone at home. I would tell them that suddenly just like them you too are feeling ill and you can arrange when everyone is well again.

OP what was the conversation regarding them still eating your food?

Was it them who said they can’t come but they’ll still collect the food and you were a bit blindsided to say no?

Or was it you offering them to take the food, so it doesn’t go to waste?

Christ, I doubt they’re carrying the plague. It’s very cheeky though.

That is very inconsiderate of them and I’m sorry for you. How can you not realise you’re ill until literally Christmas morning? And how can everyone be struck down by the same thing at the same time at once on Christmas morning? Just doesn’t add up. Sounds like they want to spend the day in bed vegging around.

Sorry your family are treating you so badly OP. If I was “so ill” that I had to leave a family member alone on Christmas Day there is no way I’d have the brass neck to expect them to cook dinner for me and yet be miraculously well enough to drive over to pick it up.

Im afraid I’m another one who thinks this is an excuse and that their Christmas is carrying on as usual but without you there. I’d be taking a good look over the last year and see if this is a pattern of behaviour from them. So sorry x

Nah fuck that, I'd sit and eat all the food to myself. Thats really rude!

Did they not invite you to theirs?

There's no way I'd be entertaining that nonsense, tbh. Inviting themselves along and moaning about what's on offer. Nope.

I'm so sorry to hear that, enjoy the day as best you can xx

Oh no. And to drive over to collect food! That’s so rude, I’m sorry.

So they’re not even concerned about you catching it as they’re willing to send someone contagious over?

I have the opposite problem, I was planning a nice quiet low key Christmas (I normally work and was looking forward to relaxing in front of the telly and having a drink this year), and one by one people have cancelled existing plans and announced they will be coming to me (since I’m already cooking a roast dinner anyway)! But then have proceeded to moan about what I’m cooking - don’t eat veg thats not green, parsnips better be fresh and not frozen (wasn’t even planning on doing parsnips), doesn’t like sprouts, only drinks diet drinks, doesn’t like nuts or ice-cream, the list goes on!! I’m just hoping there is enough turkey to go around.

Anyway, I’m sure it’ll be fine. I can still have a drink as I’m not driving, they will either eat what I cook or they won’t. Bottoms up!

This is a thread I actually wouldn't mind the Daily Mail picking up on and the CFs reading.

I'm so sorry and it does sound like they can't be bothered. Understand if people are ill but wrong they want to collect food. Just sounds as if they want you to cook dinner so they don't have to then leave you out whilst they have their family Christmas. Please don't and this is coming from the biggest people pleaser! Wondering if there's any neighbours that might welcome coming around or if you could go for a walk or a pub for a quick drink or a coffee to have some company.

Did people go around cancelling left, right and centre before Covid? I certainly don’t think so.

They are too ill to come round but they will take the food! F that! Awful behaviour.

Or invite me to join them for lunch! It sounds like their Christmas is just going to crack on as planned.

Too ill to visit but not ill to come and pick up the food for to eat ? Just with the exclusion of your company of course. I mean you could go to theirs then surely?
but I suspect there is more to the dynamics and feel this could make the stately home thread.
Whatever you do I hope it’s great and know you have literally the whole of mumsnet community rooting for you and wishing you well.

big love. ❤️

I'm so sorry your family is treating you this way. If they are well enough to eat a full Christmas dinner, then they are well enough for a bit of company. There's absolutely no way I'd be preparing food for them, I'd rather give it to someone in need who would appreciate the effort you have gone to.

The bit about BIL picking up dinner has got my back up! I’d tell them I wasn’t planning to cook and would just be freezing everything. What a bloody cheek!

Bils well enough to drive to you and collect all the food that you’ve made and then take it home?! They haven’t invited you over to them with the food? I’d be raging. There’s no way I’d be cooking if they all aren’t coming- if they’re so poorly why do they want a full roast. Also suspicious that all of them are poorly