How many presents are too many for a child?

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AnxietyLevelMax · 25/12/2024 04:41

one child only so far - 4 yrs old (currently pregnant, so next year wont be able to afford as much for two , specially on maternity pay). I know we got a lot - about 8-9 gifts, some of them bigger and few small ones. Family member is making me feel bad about it and now i am questioning myself if we (parents) are being silly and spoiling our child
I carefully buy gifts for a few months before Christmas if the thing i want is on sale etc so the cost is spread over 5 months or so and by no means i am well off but understand i am still in more fortunate position than others, i dont mean to upset anyone by my post

aibu - its too much
not aibu - its fine

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BlueEyes90 · 25/12/2024 04:54

Of course you shouldn’t feel bad!
They’re your child - if you wanted to buy them 40 presents that’s up to you, not anybody else.

Shellybeans · 25/12/2024 04:49

Unless you’re actively asking and expecting other people to purchase the gifts, it’s really no one else’s business what you get for your child/ren, how much it costs or how many gift they get. We buy all through the year, it spreads out the cost but it does mean we probably do end up giving more than if we tried to buy everything in Nov/Dec I guess. You have the whole year to instil good values in your children, a generous Christmas in and of itself is not going to spoil them.

DarkForces · 25/12/2024 04:44

It's a great idea to spread the cost this way and 5-6 presents is fine.

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AnxietyLevelMax · 25/12/2024 04:43

Just to add - child has turned 4 just recently and gifts are toys, not much of “educational” stuff

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