Am I being unreasonable being uncomfortable with the age gap of my Daughter's relationship?

If he dies he dies......

As the famous quote about younger men goes

Both my siblings are married to someone 10 years age different to them. They were both previously married to people much closer to them in age and both marriages ended because they didn't want the same things in life. It really comes down to outlook of life and shared desires. I really would not say anything and let the relationship play out.

My brother married at 25 to a 35 year old lady. They divorced a year later as she wanted children and he wasn't there yet. She went back to her first husband. My brother then married again at 35 to a 19 year old he got pregnant the first time he slept with her, it takes all sorts,

😂 this is the best yet! Being a doctor actually means you marry later on average.

Although women can also be doctors!

My main concern (that I wouldn't express to her!) Would be if she wants children. Time isn't on her side but he might not be ready for that yet, however plenty of men the same age who don't want to commit, or thst string women along and then bail when it is nearly too late for kids. So if they seem stable and happy then good for them, I hope it works out.
And if fertility isn't a concern then even less of an issue provided they are on the same page.
I'm a bit confused by you not liking him jeing 'visibly' younger. The age gap and life experience is the same, would you be happier if his face looked older?

What do you mean before you do anything else. What on earth are you thinking of doing. It’s really none of your business. It’s not like she’s 17. Stop interfering and be happy that your daughter is happy.

I started my relationship when he was 32 and I was 44. 12 years later we are still together.

Lol, my mum started dating my step dad when he was 25 and she was 40. They had a baby 2 years later and married the following year. Still happy together now 16 years later.

May I please ask? What bad or negative thing do you think will arise from his being ten years younger than her?

Please put your feelings aside and just be happy for them.

The doctors I know settled down quite young. I think the job itself matures men because of what they deal with in work. It will be challenging as he completes training but if they love each other and are compatible they will find a way.

women freeze eggs these days and so on
what is the problem, unless she dies younger. Women and men of all ages die at any age.

If they marry and try for kids, from 36 to 40 she has good chances to get pregnant twice one after the other as many women do these days. If not, use the eggs in her 40s and he still will be there for the kids if some tragedy happens to her.

One of my brothers is married to a woman who is ten years older than him and honestly it's made no difference and I only remembered the age difference when reading this thread

He sounds like a good man OP and that is the only, only thing that matters here.

I go understand where you’re coming from but I know couples with similar or even bigger age gaps and it works.

I also know couples whose relationships really don’t work regardless of age gap.

Let them figure it out for themselves.
If it’s not right for them then they will soon know.

It’s none of his parents business, nor is it yours.

11yr age difference for me and DH. We’re perfectly happy, always have been, have been together for 17yrs & married for 13.

If they’re compatible and the relationship is good, then it doesn’t matter which years they were born in.

It’s not ideal but there’s plenty of other even less ideal situations she could have got herself into. She is a grown woman though so you need to leave her to it. I might possibly have a conversation with her if she wants kids and he’s not forthcoming on commitment. At 35 there’s not much time to waste

It’s lovely to see all the posts on here from women who are older than their partners and how happy they are :)

I’m another who met my 11 years younger partner at age 35. I already had kids and didn’t want more, he’s never wanted them but if he does change his mind and want them in the future, well then c’est la vie - but you can’t just life based on what ifs?

YABU, OP.
I'm 46, my husband is 75, married for 20 years.
No problems, happy, etc.
Neither of us wanted kids, either.
I think everyone is very different and they don't necessarily trumpet about it to others.
Your life, your choice (fortunately).
😁

Oh my THIS - not just on this thread but in life - a million times over

OP YABVVU

35 and 25 is perfectly acceptable with couples whatever the gender make up

I feel like you’re looking for a problem where there isn’t one. These are two full-fledged adults who are old enough to make their own decisions. As for “he may want to have experiences,” maybe he doesn’t want to have experiences. Maybe he’s already has several “experiences” and wants to settle down. Or maybe he’s one of those people who’s never really gone for the whole “dating/sleeping with lots of different people” thing and just wants to be happy and in love in a stable relationship.

People need to start minding their own business more.

If he's 25 and a qualified doctor I suspect he is probably quite mature 🙄