Am I being unreasonable being uncomfortable with the age gap of my Daughter's relationship?

DS 17 is with his GF 21. I can't say I am thrilled about it as she's slightly older but they seem to get on okay?

OP you'll just have to leave them to it as they're both adults.

My friend is uncomfortable with the 13 year age gap of her child and their partner

but she appreciates she hasn’t a leg to stand in as its the same age between her and her partner

I have a similar age gap with my DH in same direction, same exact time frame… we are an incredible team in every way, 17 years together, 14 married, two amazing children. Very much in love and so happy. I would have been crushed if our parents had tried to interfere. Nobody did and all relationships are loving and strong.💪

So MN to be thrilled by their daughter dating a doctor 🤣

You come across as if you are most worried about what you think rather than anyone else. As you say, 25 might be too young to have children for him, especially as he will just be starting as a resident doctor (long shifts, being sent around the country to work) so it may be this isn't a relationship destined for children but again, that's for them to decide.

I think 10 years difference is okay. I wouldn’t be bothered-surprised, maybe, but not upset or worried. Some people are very mature at 25. Coincidentally I know of three couples who’ve had a 17 year age gap with the woman being older and aged around 40 on meeting the man who’d have been 23. One couple split up after 10 years of marriage, the others are still together-one couple for 29 years, the other for 12.

Agree. I would not like it. Creepy.

I agree with you that it is a bit unusual but since they’re both adults there’s not a lot you can say without upsetting your daughter

10 years either way is absolutely fine imo
It's outlook and shared values which really matter
In this context age really doesn't matter and to judge on physical appearance is incredibly shallow
I'm 60 and for example I think the police officers these days look young enough to still be at school but they're obviously not!
Keep out of it is my advice

My post says 'the doctors I know'. They may not represent the national average but they really did settle down much younger than many of our peers. And of course women can be doctors in fact they often married male doctors or physios etc My point was that the male doctors I knew were more mature in many ways than other early to mid twenty-something men. This made sense when they were dealing with life and death long before many of us.

He's a doctor, so he's obviously an intelligent bloke and he will have some insights into how the female body works. I assume that your daughter is aware of this too. So they will presumably both be aware that, if she wants children, she will need to have them sooner rather than later. Why not credit them both with the ability to navigate this issue for themselves, in whatever way they see fit?

I met dh when he was 20 me 30,it was only supposed to be a “fling”,we have been together 14 years,married for 7,2 dc’s,he is more mature than me.

Also I have dated a couple of doctors...never again! I'm happy with my boring 25 year old accountant 😄

I have just turned 36 and my husband is 25. We have just had a baby. Our relationship is as close to perfect as you can get- we adore each other, he is my best friend and my favourite person in the world.

His whole family have welcomed me with open arms.

DH is 9 years younger than me and we've been together 15 years. I don't even notice the age gap, I feel like we're the same age.

Are you sure you’re more worried about what his parents think? Or are you just projecting? If your daughters happy, you should be happy too.

When I read what the gap was, my first thought was 'young stud'. Is it the fact this might just be a sex thing for her that makes you uncomfortable? It's understandable if so, it can't be an easy thought.

Are you my mum? 🤣🤣

Im 35 and my boyfriend is 25. We’ve been together a few years though. He’s fabulous and very mature for his age. We live together and have a baby on the way! Hope our parents aren’t too concerned, bit late now if they are though!

A doctor, they do get quite a bit of female attention in their working environment, especially if they are good looking. Idk op, I think he as plenty of options going forward, I would be very surprised if he stays long term.

I have a slightly smaller age gap of 9 years, and we have been together for 30 years. DH was also in his 20s when we met. I really don’t understand why it is an issue ? It could be harder for your daughter as she may want children before he is ready, but other than that I don’t think it matters.

The age gap only really comes into play when one is in their 60s and the other approaching 80.

Your daughter has got herself a lovely sounding bloke and youre still anxious about it. This is a YOU thing - nothing to do with them.

I'm 40 and DP is 60. First got together 20 years ago. Really don't understand the issue with age gaps.
Also, I am the more mature adult in the relationship, he's a child 🤣