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To think it’s weird that we try and keep the ‘magic’ alive for teen and adult children.

82 replies

Trimbleton · 25/12/2024 00:12

I mean they know Santa isn’t real so why do I feel the pressure to still do ‘Santa’ and mince pies for Santa etc. The pressure to have a ‘magical’ Christmas is fine when they are younger but why when DC grow up are we still expected to keep it alive ?

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FedUpandDownAgain · 25/12/2024 00:17

Look at the world around you. So much happening that's sad and worrying.

What does it matter if for one day the family can get together and have fun, playing and remembering innocent, childhood times?

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 25/12/2024 00:14

This is DD’s first year of ‘admitting’ she doesn’t believe but she still wanted to put the mince pie and the stocking out. I gave her the Xmas eve stuff but we didn’t do the elf leaving it in the porch thing but instead she surprised me! With matching mugs with hot chocolate and cream etc and some treats. She’s bought it all herself with her own money. I think it’s nice to develop new traditions and sorry I may have digressed from your point but I think everyone likes to try to believe in some magic!

Coasterfan · 25/12/2024 00:14

We do this as well! I just finished the mince pie and baileys and mine are 15 and 17 but they love it so why not? I also still move the bloody elf every night and he brings them a special Xmas eve breakfast as well.

I ll still do it when they are 30 and 32 if it makes them happy.

EauNeu · 25/12/2024 00:14

We're not, are we?

Presents yes but not pretending Santa is real, mince pies and so forth. If you're still doing that past the age of 14 it's possibly more for your own benefit

Thatcastlethere · 25/12/2024 00:14

I mean I always feel pressure to try and make people I love happy.. isn't that pretty normal? And it's not just for them is it? By doing it you keep the magic alive for yourself too.. the specialness of christmas

takealettermsjones · 25/12/2024 00:13

If they know Santa isn't real then I think leaving a mince pie for Santa is weird! Make new traditions 🙂

mbosnz · 25/12/2024 00:13

To me it's not 'magic',it's 'fun', and 'the spirit of Christmas'.