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DH slagging off my Santa gifts

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needlesandhaystacks · 24/12/2024 23:15

I've had a good few glasses of wine so maybe I'm het up.

As I was getting the Santa presents out earlier DH declares, 'Is that it?' We have 2 DC, 2 and 5. I have, as always and with most things, got all the gifts. Both children have got exactly what they asked for. 2 year old won't have a proper clue anyway about quantity and 5 year old has nice things but I haven't gone overboard. We have a house full of toys, we have extended family who will be buying lots. They both get lots throughout the year.

DH questioning why they haven't got more toys. He's done absolutely nothing to contribute to getting the presents, if I'm being honest, isn't that great a dad, I literally do everything. He's saying I'm boring etc. my Christmas's must have been boring as I've got them some practical stuff too.

I just think we have years ahead of us of the kids demands etc and I don't want spoilt children; Christmas or not.

I know some children won't have half the stuff mine will get, and just because we could afford to spend more, should I have to?!?

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44PumpLane · 24/12/2024 23:34

Definitely with the "no this is only my half, do you want to get what you've bought out too"

Waste of space!

loropianalover · 24/12/2024 23:33

Tell him to go get the stuff he’s bought, wrapped, and hidden. That should bulk it up.

Poppins21 · 24/12/2024 23:31

MouldyCandy · 24/12/2024 23:25

My DH made a similar comment one year. I said, "No, this is just what I've bought. Did you want to add in what you've bought". That shut him up.

Exactly the right response. Not sure why he is being such a dick- if he want to ensure the kids have more gifts he needs to get involved in the work of it. I am sure your children will love the gifts.

AmethystRuby · 24/12/2024 23:28

just a massive sigh and head shake. i agree with you that you dont need to go overboard just because you can. so many reasons why and sounds like you've done great. dont let him make you think otherwise

CheekyHelper · 24/12/2024 23:26

What do you mean Santa gifts? Do you have gifts from you and gifts from Santa?

MouldyCandy · 24/12/2024 23:25

My DH made a similar comment one year. I said, "No, this is just what I've bought. Did you want to add in what you've bought". That shut him up.

PlantDoctor · 24/12/2024 23:21

Santa is bringing DD precisely one toy. She asked for a marble run. He also brings a stocking of little treats and accessories, but nothing crazy. We got her a few other gifts but nothing mega pricey. She's also 5 and has lots of toys already. I'm sure yours will be thrilled tomorrow, just as I hope DD will be!

AllTangledUpInTinselAndTiaras · 24/12/2024 23:18

Ohhh I'd be pissed off at that. Let him do it next year; every single bit of it from start to finish.

GettingFestiveNow · 24/12/2024 23:18

I know it's the season of goodwill, and I know you want a nice atmosphere for the sake of the kids tomorrow...

He sounds like an absolute waste of space. He does nothing and then criticises you for doing it instead. What does he contribute?

LizzoBennett · 24/12/2024 23:18

YANBU. Too many presents can be overwhelming when they're small. We have bought limited but high quality gifts for our 4YO and 1YO this year. They are being spoilt by various relatives. Space is limited.

LoyalTaupeTiger · 24/12/2024 23:17

Tell him to fuck off.

And follow it with, well you can sort next Christmas and we can see how well you do

TeenLifeMum · 24/12/2024 23:17

Great, he can do it next year then!

Sorry op, he can’t be not involved then suddenly have an opinion. Don’t let him think he can disrespect you. Type
you’re either a team or what’s the point?