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DH slagging off my Santa gifts

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needlesandhaystacks · 24/12/2024 23:15

I've had a good few glasses of wine so maybe I'm het up.

As I was getting the Santa presents out earlier DH declares, 'Is that it?' We have 2 DC, 2 and 5. I have, as always and with most things, got all the gifts. Both children have got exactly what they asked for. 2 year old won't have a proper clue anyway about quantity and 5 year old has nice things but I haven't gone overboard. We have a house full of toys, we have extended family who will be buying lots. They both get lots throughout the year.

DH questioning why they haven't got more toys. He's done absolutely nothing to contribute to getting the presents, if I'm being honest, isn't that great a dad, I literally do everything. He's saying I'm boring etc. my Christmas's must have been boring as I've got them some practical stuff too.

I just think we have years ahead of us of the kids demands etc and I don't want spoilt children; Christmas or not.

I know some children won't have half the stuff mine will get, and just because we could afford to spend more, should I have to?!?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 25/12/2024 00:24

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 25/12/2024 00:20

And throw in 'assuming we are still together next year'

Ladies please, stop putting up with shitty man babies

This. Sow some seeds of doubt for him.

He'll either get better or get nasty. Plan for nasty.

ManchesterLu · 25/12/2024 00:24

Just tell him it's too late for him to suddenly get an opinion. If he wants an opinion, he can get it earlier and actually be useful.

Screamingabdabz · 25/12/2024 00:23

If you ‘literally do everything’ what is the point of him? Why are you role modelling this for your DC?

Thevelvelletes · 25/12/2024 00:22

Remind me again your input in all of this was?
Followed by a curt fuck off!!

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 25/12/2024 00:20

And throw in 'assuming we are still together next year'

Ladies please, stop putting up with shitty man babies

ShouldIEvenBother · 25/12/2024 00:16

MouldyCandy · 24/12/2024 23:25

My DH made a similar comment one year. I said, "No, this is just what I've bought. Did you want to add in what you've bought". That shut him up.

This^ is the response. It's not too late OP.

What a cock he is.

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 25/12/2024 00:15

Tell him to fuck right off and he can do it next year!

Did you buy it all and did he contribute? Did he ever ask what you were buying?

I've got one like that. Never took any responsibility - had it been left to him they would have got nothing. Never asked if I was buying presents. Take my advice, and don't put up with it now. I wish I hadn't and I resent him enormously.

MerrilyOnhigh · 25/12/2024 00:11

I must say, if I had contributed precisely nothing to buying the presents, I wouldn't have found it hard to work out that that meant that I didn't get to have an opinion on them other than gratitude to the person who had done all the thinking and hard work. Is your husband normally stupid?

Iridescentdragon · 25/12/2024 00:10

I wish I had started out like you. I went over the top buying gift when the two dc were younger. Now we have another and I'm not working due to disability so money is tight.
You have done the right thing. Have a lovely Christmas 🎄

MarieKlepto · 25/12/2024 00:10

Two year olds don't need mountains of presents (they'll get a lot of pleasure mucking around with the wrapping paper). As for the 5 year old I'd be asking what wasn't bought from the "letter to Santa" list that he thought should have been? He wouldn't have a clue.

Iliketoplan · 25/12/2024 00:05

My 2 year old is getting a table and chairs, a tractor shaped sponge, a dinosaur toothbrush... and a few toys. Practical gifts are part of Christmas. Your DH doesn't have a clue

theelectricnorth · 25/12/2024 00:05

‘Yes, this seems a good haul from my side. When are you adding your half?’

rainbowsparkle28 · 24/12/2024 23:56

"He's done absolutely nothing to contribute to getting the presents, if I'm being honest, isn't that great a dad, I literally do everything".

Well then he can f* right off. I would be raging. How dare he. And perhaps your response should be ah okay well don't worry next year if they're so rubbish at least you won't have to endure it once you've moved out 🤨🙄

MonopolyQueen · 24/12/2024 23:53

What a dick. When my dd was 2 her favourite gift was a new spoon and fork with Peppa Pig on the handles.

It’s the excitement, not the gifts themselves, at this age.

My ds age 5 was literally hopping up and down with excitement earlier tonight, and when it was time to put out the carrot and the mince pie for Santa he was over the moon.

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/12/2024 23:53

You get to have an opinion about a task when you do that task.

I know a lot of women are married to fuckwits so I know you probably won't LTB because you're used to this but FFS, at least lose your shit at him. Lazy arsehole.

Rososos · 24/12/2024 23:50

He sounds awful and he’s projecting really. He knows he hasn’t done anything for them so he’s trying to deflect that onto you by making it seem as if you’re the one who’s fallen short. How embarrassing to comment on your partners presents for the kids when you didn’t even help choose them 😵‍💫

Did he at least financially contribute?

Moonlightstars · 24/12/2024 23:49

What a cunt.

Lwrenn · 24/12/2024 23:47

LTB

arethereanyleftatall · 24/12/2024 23:46

Give your kids the gift of a happy home and happy mum via divorce.

Mnetcurious · 24/12/2024 23:45

It’s a very easy and simple response “ ok you’re in charge of the presents next year”.

ps it sounds like plenty. Too much is wasteful, overwhelming for children and they won’t be as grateful for what they do get.

Thatcastlethere · 24/12/2024 23:43

What a bellend! I'd be telling him to go fuck himself.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 24/12/2024 23:40

He can make sure they have a nice Christmas next year when he spoils them then can't he.

BrownBoot · 24/12/2024 23:37

I’d echo the above, and would literally tell him to go fuck himself.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 24/12/2024 23:36

id go nuts if my husband said this. He can do it next year if he’s so good

what a dick

Fannyfiggs · 24/12/2024 23:35

He's not a great dad? Bin him!!

2025 has to be the year of getting rid of shit men and not taking a minute more of their incompetence / abuse / laziness / selfishness / add your own here!