DH slagging off my Santa gifts

I would be taking a big step back next year and telling him he can organise the presents. I'm sure your kids will be more than happy with their gifts OP, and let's be honest, you probably have a far better idea of what they would like than your useless DH.

I thought everyone did this?

Just love the stories of kids who are satisfied with the small and inexpensive presents like this..That's so sweet.

That's just so lovely 🥰

My absolute favourite ever present was a Hobby Horse mum made...I caught her making it, and was agast at his beauty.. She cleverly said ''He's for my reception class'' {she was a teacher}

I begged and pleaded for a go on it when he was finished, and she said ''No, He's for the school''

When I got him on Christmas Morning, I was So delighted.

He fell to pieces, I loved him so much, but I still have his ears and eyes somewhere {made of old brown buttons}

Sometimes the very best, most treasured toys don't cost much at all.

Love it

OMG. When are we gona stop putting up with men that do the bare minimum and don’t even have the decency to be grateful.
I hope you don’t do everything else for him as well. Make sure he pulls his weight tomorrow and fucks right off with his stupid comments.

Yanbu. There were a few bits not wrapped and dh got pissy about it as I sent him back to get the wrap in the loft. I said he can do it all next year seeing as I’d done it all (like every fucking year) 🤔

A grown ass man shouldnt need training and if he does then I certainly wouldnt be making it my problem!

May I amend your post to say that next year the OP should stop anything at all for him, washing, cooking, shopping, facilitating etc or get rid.

I would be tempted to stick a pin in his big toe while he is sleeping and then pretend concern that he might have a cramp.

When my 2 were small, I needn't have bothered with the 'downstairs' presents at all as they were both always super chuffed with their wee stockings that Santa left on their beds.

One year my DD was so delighted she carried her stocking round all day and made it all bobbly. It's how we tell whose is whose when we look them out on Xmas Eve!

If you are still together next year, remind him of this conversation and delegate all of it to him.

Between the wine and the madly rushing around in the run-up to Christmas, it sounds as though this exchange has brought things into sharp relief for you.
You don't have a partner. You have another child. One who still thinks that mum makes the world revolve and everything just happens.
Enjoy Christmas with your actual children and make an early new year's resolution to either train him to be a functional adult next year, or get rid of him.

Lots of people do this

“Either pitch in or fuck off.”

I bet he was a deeply unpleasant child to parent if this is how he is about expecting children to have piles of gifts.

"oh dont worry darling, their stockings will look much fuller when you fetch out the stuff you chose, shopped for, bought and wrapped wont they?!"

OBVIOUS QUESTION:

”What did you get them?”

Yes, a lot of men must think Santa still exists when the presents turn up wrapped and what has been asked for on Christmas morning.

YABU if you let your kids believe all their presents come from santa and not you.
Bugger that, give them a stocking of small santa gifts then claim full credit for everything you've lovingly chosen, bought and wrapped for them! Never too young to learn to be grateful and appreciate their mums efforts. Especially as their dad clearly won't!

Anyone else actually not enjoy Christmas?

So I’m on my own with 3 daughters each. 15 year old never comes out her room. She sees a therapist weekly for depression, anxiety and OCD. My 10 year old is very demanding on me. Has anxiety about EVERYTHING and never gives me a moments peace. Constantly shouting, screaming and crying. My 8 year old is very chilled except she has major sensory issues and getting her dressed is a daily challenge.

I just can’t cope with all the extra things I’ve to do on Christmas Eve and on the day all on my own. The kids start squabbling and there’s never seems to be any happiness even though they get most of what they ask for.

I feel like the worst mum in the world wishing Christmas never happened at all!

Am I the only person who feels this way?

"Of course that's not it, this is just the gifts from me! What did you get them?"

Ask him what he has got them

Lets see what you bought the kids dear.

The world suddenly seems to be rife with fuckwit men! I know they've always been a part of society but they're becoming a huge problem, like an infestation of cockroaches 🫤

Wine or no wine, you're not being unreasonable. Mostly women who have to deal with the sorting/buying/wrapping/clearing up/decluttering etc etc and no keeping it minimal is totally fine and is good for the kids not to have too much which is overwhelming

Brilliant!