Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

Gift them the lie in. No reason for them to be up early. It's not mean spirited. She's not their kid.

No way my child would have been allowed to wake anyone that early that is not fair on anyone

YABVU. I'm staying with parents and told my 5yo and 1yo we will not open presents until 9am when the rest of the family will get up. DH and I will be up at 6 with them, open stockings and play games but no way would I expect other adults without kids to be up so early. It's a bit self-centered imo.

That’s what stockings are for, to keep little ones occupied before everyone else has to get up. They can then enjoy her opening the rest of her presents at a more suitable hour. Also it is nice time for just the three of you

You are kidding!!

No doubt the grandparents will be full on all day cooking and hosting. You are seriously suggesting that not being keen on a 6am start makes someone an unloving relative?

good grief. You are mad.

Why can’t parents just delay the gifts and entertain their own kids for a bit?

Id be very happy to say yes I’d love to see the kid open her presents BUT AT A REASONABLE HOUR

Honestly op id tell you to get in the bin.

I would hope that I would get up for my grandchild.

I understand your disappointment, I don't think I'd stay with them again next year, the pressure to keep a small excited child quiet and not allow them to show off their stocking gifts would be too much for me 🤣 no point doing Christmas together if they miss one of the main events.

Having said that my mum is always more excited than my youngest I think, she loves watching him open his stocking. Even my eldest (22) pretends to be awake and lucid for the event. Though it is always quick and if too early we all enjoy going back to bed afterwards while he admires what he's got and waits for the other gifts at a more reasonable time. They are little for such a short time, I can't imagine wanting to miss that as a grandparent.

I think you’re unreasonable to expect the entire household to get up at 6am just because your dd is up. I would never expect that off my family. Especially if your parents are hosting and need to do all the cooking too

I may specifically buy things because I know they will keep DS occupied until a more humane hour!

I wouldn't allow my child to get up at 6 a.m., let alone allow her to disturb the rest of house. 8 a.m.is reasonable for weekends or holidays, 7.30 at a push.

8am is sensible! My DCs have a grow clock and are not allowed out their rooms until 7am.

My parents are staying so they'll get woken up first and hopefully I'll get to sleep in til 8am!!!

I make my own child (5) stay in bed until at least 7.30. No way would I get up for anyone else's child.

When my own kids were little I wouldn't get up at 6am with them!

8 or 9 is fine OP.

Exactly this.

So if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later

Jeez, it's not like they are staying in bed until mid-day. Let the poor people have their lie-in on Christmas day - 6am is way too early to wake up on what will be a busy day. In our family, parents always do the stockings with their own kids and wider family presents later on with everyone else there. I couldn't imagine expecting anyone else to get up while it is still dark.

I always felt that the point of a stocking was to provide a child with enough small presents to keep them entertained and in bed for a few hours so that they would not get up until the adults were ready for them to do so.

We are also staying with DParents, DCs will get up stupidly early and open just the stocking presents first. They will wait until everyone is up to open the rest of the presents.

I'm with you OP...but then, before I had my own children I would drive to my sisters for 7am to watch my nephew open his gifts!

if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later.

erm....yes. that's normal. What's the issue?? You r the parents.

I'd never dream of waking my in-laws (or mum before she died) up before 8am on Christmas morning. Usually I hoped they and other family members could sleep in after 9am. They deserve a lie in on Christmas day.

Kids wake early, their parents help them with opening stocking etc.. and then when everyone else is up later in the morning, do all the other under the tree presents etc..

I think you sound incredibly selfish wanting to wake the whole house up early. It's their Christmas too.

I agree they should go along with the child that's who Christmas is for. Maybe suggest stocking in your room when she wakes and then cuddles in bed until 7 and then everyone get up.

Tbh if they spoil it for your dd it would be last Xmas I do there

If your DD was 13 I’d understand but she’s only 3….. I’d be overjoyed to be getting up and seeing the Christmas magic effect.. I bet she’ll be giddy with excitement. I think your parents sound pretty miserable. I’d be tempted to stay at my own home if this was how my Parents behaved. Christmas is all about the kids.

If it was my grandchild I’d want to be awake and participating in the magic even if it meant a 6am start. (I think - my dds have never really been up before about 7am so I might not feel as positive at 6 in reality!)

If it was a niece I think I’d rather have the sleep and see the presents later.

Personally, I’d prefer to have the excitement of opening the stocking and initial aftermath to ourselves and then everyone else can get up at a more normal. They can still share your DD’s excitement when they do surface by asking what she’s got, etc.

I think if you go downstairs to open the stocking, you need to be quiet as possible leaving your room and going down the stairs so not to wake everyone else.

I would absolutely not be getting up at 6am for anyone but my own child. Absolutely not