Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

It's about the whole family, not just your kid. Silence before 0800.

Sorry OP, I've been through that phase with my children (now teenagers) and I'm not keen to do it again. Perhaps I will be if I ever have grandchildren, but I won't bet on it. I'm not an early morning person!

6 is a bit much for most people on a normal day, but especially on Christmas Day which is, for many, a busy full-on day. We go to church at 9:30 and will expect to be up around 7 with the children. My in laws are here and will definitely get up once they hear activity. I wouldn’t make them though.

Christmas really isn’t just about little children opening presents.

When I had grandchildren who woke up at the crack of Christmas dawn I would always be up too, it was a part of the fun, seeing their excitement.

You sound entitled. It's totally fine for them to lie in on Xmas day.

We did not start before 8am.
They all got told to wait in their beds until 8am.

They could then open their Santa sacks (which contained gifts that were specifically to occupy them for a while) in our bedroom and then they had to wait until after breakfast for the main present opening (around about 9am-ish) with everyone together.
And that was whether we were at home, at my parents or in-laws.

We are not morning people though and, in our family, nobody's day would be enhanced by a 6am start.

I wouldn't get up for anyone at that time. I think it's a big ask.

It's their Christmas too.

Put it this way, your kid is going to be more upset by me not caring about some plastic toy being aggressively shoved in my face at 6am than they are if they do it at 9am and I'm awake enough to feign enthusiasm.

My DD is 22yo , she was 6 months on her first Christmas .
I told her that DH and I had gone to Sainsbury at 6am ( me to the shop, DHt to the gym) on Christmas Eve

"Where was I "? she demanded .
"At home , asleep"

She was raging that I;d gone out and left her at 6 months .......... but my Mum and Dad were staying and my Dad got up at 5.30 to look after baby DD ( and DS who was 3yo) , he insisted . So she wasn't Home Alone as she imagined and was in fact very happy with her Grandad

When there's LOs in the house at Christmas , everyone mucks in . It's a time for children.

Getting up at 6 sounds miserable. Everyone will be knackered and grumpy all day. No one is going to care about your daughter the same way you do.

All extended family awake at 6am when our kids were young.

You need to keep your daughter entertained from 6am until a reasonable time, eg 8am. “It’s so exciting but we have to wait until everyone is awake before we can see if Father Christmas has been/open presents”. I get it as mine were early risers but I wouldn’t have expected everyone in the house to wake up at the crack of dawn for a toddler, even if it is Christmas day. Not too early to learn a bit of patience.

I wouldn’t be getting up at 6.30 on Xmas day. That’s why I chose not to have kids!
I’d happily look at her gifts at 8-9ish when I got up.

I’ll be perfectly honest, I don’t want to get up at 6am tomorrow. However I have children with SEN who don’t understand that at the best of times (my eldest loves banging on my door at this time on a Saturday telling me to get up…). Unlikely I’ll have grandchildren but if it ever was the case, this gran will be happy to see what Santa brings. At 8-9am when she’s feeling more human.

Oh, sod that! I agree with pps I'm afraid. When my dds were little and very early risers, we did the stocking opening in our bed when visiting family and then everyone else got up when they were ready. It's a long old day, there'll be tons of time to watch your dd and I wouldn't be remotely offended if extended family weren't as obliged excited until it suited them a bit better.

This!!

I totally get your sister not wanting to get up. But your mum and dad are strange not wanting to see their grandchild open presents. Don’t make your DD wait til they get up, let her open it all!

OP you are being a bit unreasonable.

I love our tradition of snuggling in bed together while the dc open their stockings, just the 4 of us. I wouldn’t massively want anyone else there (sometimes my mum joins in towards the end). Then the rest of the family get to join in the fun of a) hearing about it later (& this also gives dh & me a chance to get ourselves ready etc) and b) join in with tree presents which are the big ones anyway & far more likely to get the wows. Plus because they have all had more sleep than us, they can entertain the dc later while we flop for a bit.

We have relatives staying.

DD will no doubt be up at 6 as it’s her usual time (she slept till 7 this morning mind; felt like I’d had a holiday!) - if not earlier. She’ll open stocking in our bed and to be honest I’m hoping other relatives stay out of the way for that bit! For me, that’s a bit of the day that’s just for us, I don’t really want an audience. We’ll try to put off coming downstairs to see what’s under the tree until 7 ish, but if guests don’t want to come down at that point then fair enough, we’ll do their gifts from us, and from them to DD when they get up and that’s enough.

I think that's a shame OP. It's their call to make, but it's not one any of our parents would make. We do all presents downstairs so no stocking in the bedroom. We'll all get up when the first DC wakes and all go down together. The grandparents look forward to it as much as the kids I reckon.

yanbu to feel a bit put out but also, unless you would be up at 6 voluntarily when you didn’t have kids - you can sort of see why. My family are like this… they love my kids and are so excited but they just aren’t morning people.

I didn't get up at 6am when my dc were young. It was back to bed until at least 7am. I just told them it was still the middle of the night and Santa was still working and might not have been to our house yet.

When I was growing up when my brother & I were up, everyone was up. We'd go & waken Mum & Dad who'd then go & waken my Grans and we'd all go down together. This was regardless of the time, though we were always told not to get up before 6am

I can't imagine choosing to stay in bed while my nieces were opening presents. Its one morning, surely it's worth the early rise.

Our 4 yo will be up about 7 which is decent all things considered. Her brothers (14 and 17) will be up around 10 if we're lucky!

She is your child. It is your job to be up at sparrow's. No one else's. None of my parents or in laws have ever witnessed stocking opening. This is a parent thing to distract kids so people don't have to be up so early.

Growing up we only had Xmas at our house once, so we were always in other peoples houses.
Santa sacks were at 8am, everyone got up for it but it was a strict time. We had to read or quietly play till 8.
Tree gifts were after lunch. It was a nice way of stretching out the presents and gave us a chance to play with the gifts we had before being overwhelmed with more.

To be honest 6am is too early