Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

Normal in our house. My dc will be up at 7 - wouldn’t dream of waking my parents! They will be up at 9 or whenever. Db wouldn’t care either - he’ll come over later.

we have family presents later anyway, all together.

It's still pitch dark at 6am, not morning. If your DD is always up at that time I appreciate it may be hard to get her to deviate from routine, but I certainly wouldn't be encouraging getting up that early simply out of impatience for presents and definitely not disturbing the rest of the house bc you aren't able to get her to sleep to a reasonable hour. If she can't be put back to sleep and is unmanagable, a small present that won't be of interest to adults like some chocolate coins could be used to tide her over, but she shouldn't be waking others up or the grandparents missing out on the christmas morning experience bc you let your DD open your presents before morning.

I think it's ridiculous that you expect others to wake up at 6 am for ur child's stocking opening. I wouldn't be bothered about my nieces reaction that early in the morning. It's ur kid, you wake up but others will see when they are happy to be awake

I wouldn’t be keen, but I’d probably do it if I was staying with someone and their kids wanted to get up early.

We have family staying and I’ve said we’ll be downstairs for breakfast 8-8.30 ish. Kids will do stockings upstairs with us and we’ll have a coffee in bed to wake up a bit.

We're at my parents'. They've asked not to be woken until 8:30, and if the DC open their FC gifts before that so be it. I'm slightly disappointed they won't get up earlier, but on the other hand they're older and will be tired hosting all day. No biggie.

When my teenagers started emerging bleary eyed at about 10am on Xmas morning I was ecstatic. There's no way I would get up at 6am for tiny children now.

It’s one day.
She’s their only granddaughter.
I remember when my family sent the kids in to wake me up so they could start in on their presents.
Five little kids jumping on my bed and screaming wake up wake up wake up and yes it was early but it was Christmas morning and they were so excited and there was coffee waiting.
It’s one darn day.
It isn’t some gigantic sacrifice, is it.

We never did presents before 8am - discovered early on if you do presents at 6am it gets earlier and earlier as they got older and more excited.
Christmas is for everyone in the house and now mine are adults I want to sleep in till 8.
from your other comment about them not giving you a lie in I am guessing there is resentment from previous times and I think you need to let that go for Christmas. Take it easy there’s a lot of fun to come as she gets older and make sure you do not spend every year away from your own home - mix it up and enjoy

No way would I get up to watch someone else's child open a stocking. Presume there are other presents she'll open at a reasonable hour that others can witness

I think it's incredibly unreasonable to expect your parents to get up at 6 to see your daughter open her presents especially if you're staying in their home! I never got up before 8 when my daughter was little. I left some very small toys or games in her stocking and she knew that she wasn't to get up until 8.

This. The world does not revolve around you. Grandparents can still appreciate seeing what Santa brought at a more reasonable hour

Yes, this.

I am not a morning person. I suffer through early Christmas mornings for my own small DS. I'm not doing it for anyone else's kids.

And I hope my own DS will understand one day when he has his own kids that it'll be his turn to suffer the early mornings! I'll marvel and join in sometime after 8!

We are in a similar situation but family want to go and do parkrun before opening presents and having breakfast together and I am being unreasonable for suggesting presents at 8 before they go and saying that 3 year old will be getting some of theirs earlier and it’s up to them whether they join or not but that it’s not fair to make a 3 year old wait so long.

There doesn’t seem to be many morning people. I am a morning person so early Christmas wake up bring it on- but I would struggle with late night Christmas events.

The thought of missing that excitement of seeing that He has been, I wouldn’t be able to bear missing that. I’d be up at half 3 with a smile on my face and have an afternoon nap.

You're in someone else's house... you can't expect them to all bow down to your child's demands

There is no way you should be allowing your child to wake up the entire household. How selfish.
No doubt to then crash and tantrum by 4 pm and spoil that for the by now overtired adults too…

I have a similar aged DD and there is no way am I getting up at 6am never mind anyone else getting up at that hour. 8am earliest but hoping for later.

I am really shocked you think they would get up, I’d be trying to get the kid to stay in bed longer and if we got up early trying not to be too noisy!

Small presents in stocking don’t need an audience for opening. You and your DD can do that in the bedroom.

Main presents at 8am with the whole family will still mean your parents and sister will see her excitement.

My parents live next door and we prob won't see them til lunchtime. I'm in no way put out or hurt. They've done their fair share of early mornings and now they can enjoy the lie-in instead.

I thought the point of the stocking is that you can stay asleep for another hour or so whilst the kids are busy opening all the little prezzies.

No way anyone who isn't the parent should be at all obliged to wake up 2 hours before first light. Sod that.

Therefore YABU

Never got up before 8 with my own kids.

I get up with my own kids at stupid times to see them open their stuff but I wouldn't do it for anyone else's.

You're used to functioning on less sleep, or at least it comes with the territory. Not everyone is - and especially if they're older, night owls and/or set in their ways. It's perfectly reasonable not to want to get up at 6am. They may be mean or not care enough, I guess, but more likely they want to conserve their energy.

Ultimately, if people don't want to get up, what's the point in trying to make them? Get up with your DD and DP, go through the stocking, enjoy some time in bed together or watching TV. Is it ideal for you? No, but it's not the worst thing that could happen by a long shot.

I love getting up with my grandchildren, 6 is early but yes I would look at her gifts with her even if bleary eyed.

i love when they stay, they creep into my room and wake me up, by the time DS & DIL are up we are in the kitchen mixing pancakes or scrambling eggs, best part of the visit. They’ve even been known to sleep in and come down to the kitchen to find a note. - walking dogs with Nan