Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

Yes YABU

No one wants to get up at 6am to watch a kid open stocking presents except doting parents.

Your family is right. They can see main presents opening at a civilised hour.

Perfect plan!

Everyone is different . What I don’t get is why are you staying there . ? Why do they want you there ….? And why not stay at dmil if it all works better the way you would like ?

If my kids were grown up I wouldn’t want to be up at 6am .

I don’t think you can expect anyone but the parents of small children to be up at 6 am on Christmas morning - it’s a pretty hellishly early time!

Maybe your MIL is a morning people but for most people that’s still firmly nighttime. I think if they’re willing to get up as early as 8 that’s a pretty fair compromise.

I certainly don’t expect my 10 yo to wake up before 8 tomorrow as I normally have a job to shake him awake at that time!

Christmas morning is for you, DD and DH. You can’t expect family members to be up at 6am to see YOUR child open her presents. Surely she can just show them her presents when they all wake up?! Don’t send her in to wake them all up FFS.

Your parents got up with you OP, they don’t want to do it with someone else’s kid - even if it’s yours!
I know I wouldn’t!

I won't get up for my own kids at 6am. Yabu

This is why we keep the kids up super-late on Christmas Eve. Mine went off to bed just before 11 and won't be up until around 10am tomorrow, probably after all the adults. At which point they will do their stockings surrounded by well-rested, familial, doting adoration. I realise this wouldn't work for all families though 😂.

Just enjoy a nice wee time with just your little family before the others get up.

Sod that. One of the best things about no longer having small kids is that you don’t have to get up early.

You might be excited for your child and happy to be up at 6, but don’t expect anyone else to be.

Kids are like weddings. Everyone thinks that theirs is the centre of the world and should be treated as such, but doesnt give much of a shit about anyone elses. I say this as a mother of a large family!

So, YABU.

Now I realise she just wanted the extra time in bed

Clever Mummy.

My mum always put a book in mine, a chocolate orange and one of my favourite drinks, I would open it when I woke up and start the book
Now I realise she just wanted the extra time in bed

Your parents are like mine were. We weren't allowed out of bed on Christmas day until they told us we could get up, then we had to eat breakfast and go to church before we were allowed any presents

That sounds joyless and depressing and makes me feel sad for you.

However, it's not anywhere near OP's situation.

Your parents are like mine were. We weren't allowed out of bed on Christmas day until they told us we could get up, then we had to eat breakfast and go to church before we were allowed any presents. I still dread Christmas now, and it's never been an enjoyable day for me. So your child is fortunate to have you!
If it's the first time they've been with your child for Christmas morning then it's a shame they won't be up to see her excitement from the get go.

I’m with your parents. They have all day once they get up to spend with your child

Yeah. They're your kids. Let the rest of us sleep.

I’m with your parents. They have all day once they get up to spend with your child.

When will parents realise that their child's reaction to festive gifts is of no interest to anyone else, apart from themselves? No, don't get me wrong, grandparents dote on the little ones, they are interested in their health, their school/kindergarten achievements, but not in the reaction to opening their presents. It reminds me of Timmy, the Spoilt Bastard in Viz and his routines.

Good grief. There are very few things that would get me out of bed at 6am and watching a kid being indoctrinated into the cult of materialism is definitely not one of them. I’m very glad I don’t have nieces or nephews if this is the kind of crap some people expect! Similarly I can’t bear this “Christmas is all about children” mentality, what, so everyone else has to have an annoying and tiring time just because they’re over 10? It’s meant to be a break for everyone!

Ffs 6am! I wouldn't get up at that time for my own children on Christmas Day

Must admit that when they were very little I probably woke at that time.
But I'd let them open their stocking stuff and then get them into bed with me to avoid waking the whole house up.

6 is far too early to get up to look at presents being opened. Especially when there is a long day ahead.

My dp’s mum would be so excited to get up with us and dd on Christmas morning and open her stocking

Are you sure? Doesn't sound like you've actually ever stayed there xmas eve.

6am is too early. Stockings with you then.

I would t expect the whole family to be up and ready to watch her open her gifts until 10 am.

When I was little the point of your Christmas stocking was to keep you occupied until it was a civilised time to get up!

Ffs 6am! I wouldn't get up at that time for my own children on Christmas Day never mind someone else's. It's the crack of dawn. I wouldn't expect other family members to be up at that time and be excited about it.