Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

Same here

6am is the middle of the sodding night as far as I'm concerned.

What? 6am?! No way. 8 am onwards.

My PIL are like this. It really does put me off going to stay with them.

Typically what happens when we stay at theirs or they stay at ours (not Christmas specific) is - our kids wake up at 6am. They get up at 9, waft around in their dressing gowns drinking coffee and reading the newspaper, at about 10/10:30, they take long leisurely showers and appear fully dressed at 11:30 and say "oh, weren't we supposed to go out for the day? Why are you getting lunch ready?" "Well, the children have been awake for almost 6 hours.."

And then at the end of a visit "gosh we have hardly seen the kids, we'll miss them" "maybe you could have adjusted your routine a tiny tiny bit so as not to miss half of their waking time?!!!"

I don't expect them to get up at 6am, though, it would be lovely to have a lie in once in a blue moon when we host them in particular and do everything for them. But even the tiniest bit of adjusting their routine would be nice.

I wouldn’t want to be harassed at 6am by someone else’s kid either

Kindly, I never understood what's the problem with getting up early and the obsession with lie-ins.
Probably goes back to my upbringing.

Your kids, you get up. Noone else has to get up or do whatever they dont want to do. I hate my own kids getting me up early,and I certainly wouldnt want anyone elses kids getting me up, family or not. So personally i think they are fine to say that, it is their christmas day too to spend how they like it.

"if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later."

What is wrong with that? The whole day stretches ahead to have family jollies. They don't have a small child, you do.

I hope you made sure your daughter didn't disturb anyone else with her getting up early. She could open her stocking in bed with you.

If I had to get up at 6am I'd be knackered and uncommunicative, like a zombie.

I think you are being unreasonable. It’s nice if your family want to get up and watch your child open her presents, but it’s completely understandable that 6am is too early for them. I know you’re excited, this is the first Christmas she probably understands what’s happening, but that’s for you, her parents to enjoy. Other people simply won’t care as much, no.

Meanwhile, I have a 19 nearly 20 year old and I’m trying to get him up. We need to be at my mums for dinner, but he’s resisting an ‘early morning’ at 11am! You have this to come.

Everyone gets up together. X

I think that's a bit unreasonable. If they want to get up at 6 more power to them, but they don't need to drag everyone else up. You can't expect them to wait in their room until 10am or whenever. I wouldn't mind someone getting up before me as long as they didn't insist I got up at that time.

if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later.

That's what we used to do.

Kids would bring their stockings into our bed & we would ooh & ahh over everything😂

Oh god everyone expected to get up at 6am ,what a palaver. Its a true saying that your kids are only interesting to you.

When you are at someone's house you go with their flow. I was up at 9am and I wouldn't want anyone else was up before me, I'm The host. Things run to my s schedule. Bacon sandwiches, coffee, presents at 10.30 and even the teens need to be up. It's a fair compromise. I have compromised and we will be eating at three rather than 6pm.

So unless the entire household dances to a 3 year old's tune and gets up at 6am op should boycott Christmas Day with them entirely?
Gosh, I hope we're not related...I've done the ridiculously early starts when my own DC were young. Now I like to enjoy my precious annual leave with a slightly longer lie in than 6am.

Stocking opening on Christmas morning, make it a tradition to open in your bed. Little one can get excited unwrapping and playing, you can snuggle down and enjoy their excitement. Everyone else gets some more sleep, especially if it’s very early.

None of you are wrong for your expectation but an early morning is draining especially if you’re not used to it and have a full day to entertain with a house full.

6am is hard enough if you have young kids!! Sorry op but although I’d do it for you I totally get it- they don’t want to be falling asleep by the afternoon!!

Good lord you want everyone to at 6?! That's your job as the parent.

I get so excited, I'm the one who drags my DD (5) out of bed at 6 😂😂😂😂. She's naturally a late riser. Gets up at 10 in the holidays 😳😂

its times like this that I remember there are two types of parents in the world, those that are horrified by this and those that permit it.

Frankly I’m pleased to be one of the former.

mine tended to get up around 4 am!
ha ha
often vomiting with excitement

Getting up at 6am Christmas morning is a parents job. It comes with small children territory. Nobody without toddlers needs to be up at 6am tomorrow. I say this as a parents of a 15 & 13yr old.

Absolutely!

Only parents need to get up! Your dd can show everyone else her gifts at 8am. YABU here.

Personally, I'd use this info to decide where I'd want to be waking up on Christmas morning, whilst DD is in the young-fun years.

It's only a few years they have that super-early morning excitement, don't waste it waiting around for others. Stay with the family that will get stuck in and enjoy the excitement! :) Maybe your family will be better for a boxing day or Christmas PM visit?