Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

Sorry but you’re being very unreasonable.

I would never, ever be getting up at 6am on Christmas Day for anyone’s child who wasn’t mine. I think them getting up at 8 is very reasonable and normal. When I was younger we got up around 7 on Christmas Day and our parents gave us our stockings then and relished in the excitement with us, but would never have expected any extended family to do the same! Especially 6am, bloody hell.

@HennyPenny42 my MIL was like yours when dcs were little. Totally doting as was FIL. Dm not so much. She wouldn't offer to babysit. She loved dcs just cba 🤣

These responses make me feel really sad. My Nan was always so excited to see us get our santa presents, I'd be very disappointed if our parents weren't the same with their grandchildren.

I think you're conflating two things here - whether it is reasonable to allow your dd to wake everyone up to show them her stocking presents at 6am (which it isn't, imho - and which seems to be the majority opinion on this thread) and whether or not you should be offered a lie in every now and again when you stay over (still should not be an expectation - more of a "nice-if-it's-offered" but not a big thing if it isn't. Both my dm and my mil offered to have ours
so I could go back to bed for an hour or two but I don't think any of them (incl df and fil) volunteered to get up at 6am on any day to provide childcare, tbh)

I have seen loads and loads of posts about this - mostly from people who don't want their mil to have their baby or toddler overnight (which naturally includes the early morning the next day)

My parents and PIL between them have only done one night of childcare when I was in labour with our second but I don't think that's the norm

Yep, my parents and my husbands parents would never offer a lie in and actually will hatdly ever baby sit except in an emergency, host dinners but ask us to leave shortly after and continuoulsy ask us to look after their pets and run errands. We aleays moan about them haha, as we would love them to actually offer to help, they do occassionally do something but it is very few and far between. I think some grandparents are naturally like second parents and can't do enough but others are more in the mindset of they have done their child rearing. We have the latter type but we don't love them any less we just have to respect their life choices even though it can be disapointing.

I have heard of grandparents treating and / or spoiling their grandchildren, babysitting for an evening and offering/providing childcare if the parents both work

but offering/providing a lie in - never seen that on MN

Doting on grandchildren and offering help is absolutely normal OP, I guess everyone's ideas of what that entails will differ? Being a grandparent and a parent is different; I feel that the parenting bits should be left to parents.

Mine don't offer but if they did offer once in a while - I would be grateful but I don't see it as such an enormous deal. They are late 60s in good health, retired and get plenty of rest. Once a year waking up at 6am doesn't seem so extraordinary.

I'm a little surprised that many people would be happy to let their parents get up so that they could lie in. I've always felt that my parents already did all that with us when we were young. It's their turn for the lie in now.

I wouldn't expect anyone else to get up with my kids unless they expressly wanted to - we've got my dad staying with us and I was actually pleased he stayed in bed a while after the kids got up so we got to enjoy them opening stockings and have a bit of time just the 4 of us.

I know lots of people too whose parents will get up with the kids. And similarly I have friends and colleagues say things like "oh it'll be great staying with the parents/PIL, get some rest and relax" when the reality with my PIL especially is not like that

I would consider spending more Christmas mornings especially either at home or with your MIL who sounds a lot more engaged

I always find if you tel anyone you’re going to visit your parents, people often say things like: ‘enjoy the lie-ins’

I have literally never heard anyone say that-i think your friends must be unusual

Sane here. It's never occurred to me to ask or expect a lie in from grandparents.

Thanks for the update OP I hope you all had a lovely day.

My parents were very doting grandparents, but would never have done many of the things you mention. They wouldn't have given us a lie in for example and looked after our DCs. Mainly because it just wouldn't have occured to them and it wouldn't have occured to me to expect it either. All family dynamic are different though aren't they.

Even my own children... no. We told them not before 7:30am today. They're 4 and 6. They had no problem with that. We all got up at 7:30am with them. 6am, not a chance.

I don't think any is BU here - 6am is early and Christmas Day is always a long, busy day, especially if you are hosting.

I'm lucky that DS (now 9) never woke up super early, always around 8 from when he was little. He's excited but not a morning person

YABU, sorry.

Nope I don't expect anyone to get up pre 8 am and once our son was over 10 no one got up before 9.30

Precious First Born syndrome.

I think it goes both ways. I started getting up early naturally after becoming a parent but I can still appreciate that other people may not want to.

The issue is expecting the rest of the family to do it when it’s not an habit for them.

Ditto