Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

It's only really the parents that are excited to get up at 6 to see their kids open presents, I did it with mine at that age but it did spoil the day as I was so tired by the end of the afternoon and so didn't enjoy christmas evening.

You say they usually get up at 8 which is fine, 3 year olds tend to take ages opening stuff anyway because they play with things before opening the next present, you'll easily fill a couple of hours before everyone else gets up.
You can always take a few videos of her opening anything that you think she'll be particularly excited about and show them later.

Well if it were my grandchildren I would be up, but I think that when you stay with other people you have to expect that things may not go exactly the way that you want them to. The only way to ensure that is to stay at home.

Hell no. I did the 'magic' with my own children at that ungodly hour. This one is down to the parents.

Take a video and show it to everyone over and over after they get up by themselves without loud child assistance and let them have their coffee too.

I find it a bit sad grandparents wouldn’t want to see the opening of presents, but my parents get up anyway around 6, so they’d be up before dd

If you were the GPs, I'd be disappointed that you didn't want to be part of the magic of your own grandchildrens Christmas tbh.

If you don't want an early rise, don't invite them.

You do know presents don’t have to be opened at the crack of dawn don’t you?

Parents can just give a stocking if they want their kids to open something immediately then rest of gifts are opened later on in the morning or even later that day when everyone else is up.

I think it’s so weird that the whole family is expected to all gather round at 6am to watch a kid tear into all their gifts as they can’t wait a single second.

It would also make the day feel extremely long.

I'd probably get up for my nieces, but 6am is a bit early for a full on day. I'd probably go back to bed after the initial rush!

If you want to get up at 6am with your dd to do the stocking business then book a hotel or airb&b next time. Not fair to inflict it on people who want to lie in especially tomorrow as it's going to be a long day.

I don't know. Growing up we always did stockings in my parents room at 7. We've carried that on with our children and I'd expect any guests to join in
6 is maybe pushing it but 7 is acceptable and what's the point of inviting you and their young grandchild if they can't be bothered to get up and see her open her presents?
Go to your ILs next year.

I don’t even wake up at 6 on a work day so I certainly wouldn’t be waking up much before 9 on a day off.

Let them lie in FGS.

I’m amazed you expect anyone either staying with you or hosting you to start their day before 8am just because your child wakes up early!

Getting up at 6am Christmas morning is a parents job. It comes with small children territory. Nobody without toddlers needs to be up at 6am tomorrow. I say this as a parents of a 15 & 13yr old. Hell would freeze over before I did the early morning Christmas wake up again.

I’m shocked that you expect the entire house to get up so early and be as excited as you!

I’m happy for my kids to open their stocking presents by themselves and let me sleep quite frankly. Plenty more presents to come later on. Appreciate your one is only 3 so maybe you still find it ‘magical’. Give it a few more years OP and you might appreciate your family’s viewpoint.

This would be totally normal in our family, we wake up at 6am with the kids but I wouldn't expect anyone else to wake up so early!
And they'll wait until everyone is up to open their presents anyway, probably 9-10am.

Why don’t you give stocking at 6 and then make breakfast and play til 8am - if your parents are hosting for lunch etc it’s unreasonable to expect them to lose a few hours sleep on what will be a tiring day for them

I’ve got two under 6 and I’m not getting up at 6am. You're being daft, they shouldn’t lose two hours sleep on a long day so you don’t have to entertain one by yourself.

So if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later.

What’s wrong with that? You get up with her, she’s yours, you’ll be with DP, she can do her stocking and play with her new things, you can enjoy that, she can open more things once everyone else is up.

You’re crazy OP. I have 4 YO and 1 YO and will be up at 6am. I don’t think ANY of our relatives want to be up before 9am ever without a good reason (work) and they don’t count anything small child related as essential. We do because we are parents, it’s in our job definition

100% this

I’ve done the 6am stint with my own kids on Xmas morning in years past and never want to have to do it again!

We always entertained our kids in our room when they first woke early (wherever we we were staying) with their stocking and some telly then joined everyone else at a much more reasonable hour.

Similar situation here but over the years we've kind of made our own tradition of it. Kids, DH and I open stockings in bed together silly o'clock when they wake up and it's just us. Then breakfast is made for 8.30am and that gets GPs and guests up for tree presents and fun.

It actually works out nicely - we get some special time just the four of us before everything else starts.

Can you do a happy medium of 7 am? If Dd wakes too early I try to get her to go back to sleep, if she can’t I let her have a small play of games on my phone. This doesn’t happen often at all, only in these type of situations
Kids can’t hold their excitement and I do find it a bit mean of your family, also it would feel a bit odd just for your little family to go downstairs and open all presents and then they follow later

I love my nieces but to say I would not appreciate being woken up by them at 6am on Christmas morning is an understatement. Thankfully their parents have some sense and would not allow them to!

Across three generations in my family. Kid wakes up, kid rips into stocking, with or without parent around to help, depending on age. Wider family expected to join in? Nope, nope , no way!

We would all be up including grandparents to share in the excitement BUT absolutely not before 6 am . Does she have a gro clock or something else to help her stay in bed til a reasonable hour ?

Nope 7am is the acceptable time for wake up in our house and no presents are opened before then.

we arent staying with my parents but if we were they wouldn’t get up before then, perhaps at 7 they would be interested, but I would imagine it would be closer to 8. They are in their 70s and going to be having a busy day cooking/hosting etc… I think pre 7am starts aren’t really reasonable.