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Will Dh wake up in time

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 22:43

He’s really pissing me off

As usual I’ve done every single thing for Christmas
It’s our normal thing that if we’re at our house on Christmas eve, I go to bed with dd..Christmas stories etc and fall asleep. Dh then brings all the presents downstairs, sets them up, eats the mince pie and carrot, drinks the milk and so on.
Dd fast asleep for ages, I couldn’t hear Dh milling about at all, trying not to nod off as so tired. So i creep downstairs and he’s fast asleep on the sofa. I woke him up to remind him (he sometimes falls asleep on the sofa until the morning and dd goes down)
I reminded him to put them out, because if he doesn’t wake up and she comes down, she’ll obviously be devastated, I also ate half the bloody mince pie, drank the milk etc. He sat up
half asleep and said he would. Ive come back up to bed and still can’t hear any moving about. I cannot relax and fall asleep until I know he’s done it, just cannot rely on him at all, If I go down and wake him up, he’ll probably be angry as in ‘I told you i’d do it’ but what if he doesn’t wake up
Shall I just bloody well do that also?

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Cece92 · 24/12/2024 23:58

Also Scottish and it's always been whiskey here lol! I don't like whiskey or milk so either does half down the drain lol! Hope your husband has done Santa duties xxxx

poormenagain · 24/12/2024 23:56

... eats the mince pie and carrot, drinks the milk and so on.

I see SO many posts on here asking what's the point of this or that seemingly useless and unhelpful man that some other disgruntled poster is keeping around the house and complaining about.

Thank you, OP, for finally solving the mystery!! 👞👞👞🎄👑

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:53

umberellaup · 24/12/2024 23:47

When my dc were toddlers/ old enough to understand Santa, they had been in their own room since they were 6 months old, so when they were asleep they weren't disturbed.
Dh and I would do the gifts together.

It sounds as though you don't both co sleep, you sleep with your dd and your dh sleeps on the sofa. Of course he's tired if he doesn't sleep in the bed. Why are you allowing a child to dictate your evening routine and hold you hostage in bed for fear of waking them?
When do you spend quality time with your dh without dd?

Eh??

Dh does normally sleep in bed, we all do, sometimes if he’s up late, he’ll fall asleep on the sofa.
Sone put their Dc on their own at a young age, some prefer to have them with them, we get time together. We’ve had years and years just us, Dd comes first for now

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Moonlightstars · 24/12/2024 23:51

Hesonlyakidharry · 24/12/2024 23:43

I’m Scottish. It’s whisky here (or sherry!). I thought the English did sherry.
Milk is American. I’m guessing you’ve done milk and cookies because you saw it in American films?

English here. Never drunk sherry. Hate whiskey. So we do mince pie and carrot.

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:50

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 24/12/2024 23:46

My DP is also asleep on the couch. I'm in bed ill with 1 year old. I'm just going to take a leap of faith and take the presents down in the early hours!

If you’re ill, shouldn’t he help you?
I dunno, maybe it’s me being too uptight but i’d be scared we didn’t wake up, I prefer just get it done, then relax.

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:48

Hesonlyakidharry · 24/12/2024 23:43

I’m Scottish. It’s whisky here (or sherry!). I thought the English did sherry.
Milk is American. I’m guessing you’ve done milk and cookies because you saw it in American films?

No, not because of that, never had sherry in my life. I think we did wine as kids, but my dad is a big drinker, we’re not so much anymore. I think that’s why we just go with milk 🤷🏻‍♀️a mince pie and a carrot

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umberellaup · 24/12/2024 23:47

When my dc were toddlers/ old enough to understand Santa, they had been in their own room since they were 6 months old, so when they were asleep they weren't disturbed.
Dh and I would do the gifts together.

It sounds as though you don't both co sleep, you sleep with your dd and your dh sleeps on the sofa. Of course he's tired if he doesn't sleep in the bed. Why are you allowing a child to dictate your evening routine and hold you hostage in bed for fear of waking them?
When do you spend quality time with your dh without dd?

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 24/12/2024 23:46

My DP is also asleep on the couch. I'm in bed ill with 1 year old. I'm just going to take a leap of faith and take the presents down in the early hours!

Hesonlyakidharry · 24/12/2024 23:43

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:37

What do you give instead?

I’m Scottish. It’s whisky here (or sherry!). I thought the English did sherry.
Milk is American. I’m guessing you’ve done milk and cookies because you saw it in American films?

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:39

Sux2buthen · 24/12/2024 23:28

Is he doing it now? Hope so!

Yes! Just called by messenger asking which goes where etc, so now I have to remind of the whole procedure and try to get to sleep 😴

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:38

devilspawn · 24/12/2024 23:27

Big tree presents aren't from Santa, little stocking presents are from Santa.

Ahh ok we don’t do that

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:37

Printedword · 24/12/2024 23:34

Re milk - I'd no idea Father Christmas drank milk these days.

Regarding the presents, hope it all works out

What do you give instead?

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Printedword · 24/12/2024 23:34

Re milk - I'd no idea Father Christmas drank milk these days.

Regarding the presents, hope it all works out

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:33

devilspawn · 24/12/2024 23:26

But you went downstairs to be passive aggressive so surely you could have taken presents down with you. You weren't worried about waking her then.

If the cupboard is next to the bedroom that's a problem regardless of you or him doing it.

It took two seconds to nip down and wake him, longer to get all the presents out and put them in the right places and stockings etc. We do the whole thing-short letter from santa thanking for the mince pie, footprints etc. It’s his thing not mine, I do everything else!!

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:30

devilspawn · 24/12/2024 23:25

Eh? You said in your original post you drank it. What a waste.

Edited

I couldn’t drink it all it’s gross

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:29

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 24/12/2024 23:26

Has he been drinking or something?

Why wouldn't he just put the presents out and then go to sleep afterwards?

How incompetent.

Not been drinking, finished work yesterday and tired apparently

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Sux2buthen · 24/12/2024 23:28

Is he doing it now? Hope so!

devilspawn · 24/12/2024 23:27

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:25

But how do you then say that Santa came on Christmas eve? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Big tree presents aren't from Santa, little stocking presents are from Santa.

devilspawn · 24/12/2024 23:26

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 22:50

Because we co sleep with dd and if i’m
not there she may wake. Also, the cupboard is right next to the bedroom, the bags are heavy and basically ive done every other thing!!!

But you went downstairs to be passive aggressive so surely you could have taken presents down with you. You weren't worried about waking her then.

If the cupboard is next to the bedroom that's a problem regardless of you or him doing it.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 24/12/2024 23:26

Has he been drinking or something?

Why wouldn't he just put the presents out and then go to sleep afterwards?

How incompetent.

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:25

DappledThings · 24/12/2024 23:22

We put all presents out under the tree days before whenever they arrive. Apart from stockings which are just the little bits and take 5 minutes to set up.

None of this faffing about with piles of presents up to the last minute.

How long will it take you to put a few bits out that you can't risk DD waking up in that time frame?

But how do you then say that Santa came on Christmas eve? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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devilspawn · 24/12/2024 23:25

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 22:51

She’s smart, she made a special mince pie and would see it was back in the fridge or bin, I threw the milk down the sink as can’t drink milk like that

Eh? You said in your original post you drank it. What a waste.

TeenLifeMum · 24/12/2024 23:23

Our gifts are already under the tree as they’re family ones. Stocking ones are done at about midnight (dh and I do it together usually but he’s working so I’ll do it). Need teens to stop getting up and about though 🙄

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:23

Coffeemmmmcoffee · 24/12/2024 23:20

If be furious and upset and not able to sleep anyway.

Im slightly worried that you don’t feel you can go down and wake him again without him getting angry though. He's a dick and he should be apologising not getting pissed at you .

I can’t sleep/won’t be able to
I just cba with having any issues over Christmas
I hear coughing so hopefully he’s getting up!

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janfebmar87 · 24/12/2024 23:23

Get up. Go downstairs and shake him
Awake. The. Right back to bed.

Don't let him ruin it. He will make it your fault.

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