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Will Dh wake up in time

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 22:43

He’s really pissing me off

As usual I’ve done every single thing for Christmas
It’s our normal thing that if we’re at our house on Christmas eve, I go to bed with dd..Christmas stories etc and fall asleep. Dh then brings all the presents downstairs, sets them up, eats the mince pie and carrot, drinks the milk and so on.
Dd fast asleep for ages, I couldn’t hear Dh milling about at all, trying not to nod off as so tired. So i creep downstairs and he’s fast asleep on the sofa. I woke him up to remind him (he sometimes falls asleep on the sofa until the morning and dd goes down)
I reminded him to put them out, because if he doesn’t wake up and she comes down, she’ll obviously be devastated, I also ate half the bloody mince pie, drank the milk etc. He sat up
half asleep and said he would. Ive come back up to bed and still can’t hear any moving about. I cannot relax and fall asleep until I know he’s done it, just cannot rely on him at all, If I go down and wake him up, he’ll probably be angry as in ‘I told you i’d do it’ but what if he doesn’t wake up
Shall I just bloody well do that also?

OP posts:
drspouse · 25/12/2024 04:30

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:25

But how do you then say that Santa came on Christmas eve? 🤷🏻‍♀️

He doesn't bring all of everyone's presents! He brings the stockings. End of.

Jinkslinger · 25/12/2024 04:21

Father Christmas was partial to sherry in my day

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/12/2024 03:49

thaegumathteth · 25/12/2024 02:27

God people are desperate to blame OP for her husband not doing his part of Christmas. Unreal.

Should rename this place Martyrnet. Only three months until mothers day......

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/12/2024 03:48

In our house as kids it was sherry, my mum likes a sherry.......

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/12/2024 03:47

Regarding "his" snack.....the teenagers once stayed up to leave Santa a mushroom pizza and a glass of single malt after "he" fell asleep on the sofa as "he" did most years out of sheer exhaustion. And very nice they were too!

Or so Santa told me......

curtaintwitcher78 · 25/12/2024 02:53

Hesonlyakidharry · 24/12/2024 23:43

I’m Scottish. It’s whisky here (or sherry!). I thought the English did sherry.
Milk is American. I’m guessing you’ve done milk and cookies because you saw it in American films?

English here, and when I was a kid it was whisky and a mince pie. Then again, that was because my great grandma liked whisky and she used to visit on Christmas Eve 🤣

Candy24 · 25/12/2024 02:51

Printedword · 24/12/2024 23:34

Re milk - I'd no idea Father Christmas drank milk these days.

Regarding the presents, hope it all works out

My dad said Santa only likes beer.....lol

thaegumathteth · 25/12/2024 02:27

God people are desperate to blame OP for her husband not doing his part of Christmas. Unreal.

notthatoldchestnut · 25/12/2024 00:59

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:14

How do others do it in your homes?

Santa brings 1 present off the list that they send, and 1 smaller gift plus a stocking with an orange, socks, pen and some chocolate.

All other gifts are from us or family members

DappledThings · 25/12/2024 00:55

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:25

But how do you then say that Santa came on Christmas eve? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Because he brings the contents of the stockings

Blueuggboots · 25/12/2024 00:51

We always had Baileys!

Didimum · 25/12/2024 00:51

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:38

Ahh ok we don’t do that

You’re making such a rod for your own back.

StarlightStalagmite · 25/12/2024 00:48

We always put out sherry as kids. Milk this year as we don't drink and a glass of water seemed a bit stingy!

Anywherebuthere · 25/12/2024 00:43

Why wouldnt you just trust that he will wake up on time and sort it in the morning?

I would be annoyed as hell if I was being woken for this. Or if I was being shaken awake as some people are suggesting.

CherryBlossom321 · 25/12/2024 00:33

It sounds like you would be experiencing far less stress in your life in general, if you weren’t having to ensure he participated in family life…take some time after Christmas to consider the future of your relationship.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 25/12/2024 00:27

devilspawn · 24/12/2024 23:27

Big tree presents aren't from Santa, little stocking presents are from Santa.

This is what we do too

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 25/12/2024 00:21

Just heard dp go the toilet. Will he take the hint at the massive bag I've taken down and get the rest of it?

BrieHugger · 25/12/2024 00:17

Do people not leave Santa just whatever their Santa happens to like? Ours liked a large baileys on ice and some Ferrero Rocher (because he must get really sick of mince pies, mustn’t he)

MerrilyOnhigh · 25/12/2024 00:14

Santa definitely gets sherry or port in our house.

OrangeSlices998 · 25/12/2024 00:10

He doesn’t know where the gifts go? Do they not just go under the tree?

He sounds like a useless wet blanket OP

Hesonlyakidharry · 25/12/2024 00:07

Cece92 · 24/12/2024 23:58

Also Scottish and it's always been whiskey here lol! I don't like whiskey or milk so either does half down the drain lol! Hope your husband has done Santa duties xxxx

Whiskey? If you’re Scottish, why aren’t you serving Santa proper whisky?

Hesonlyakidharry · 25/12/2024 00:06

Moonlightstars · 24/12/2024 23:51

English here. Never drunk sherry. Hate whiskey. So we do mince pie and carrot.

Edited

Well, we don’t do whiskey so that’s moot.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 25/12/2024 00:05

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:53

Eh??

Dh does normally sleep in bed, we all do, sometimes if he’s up late, he’ll fall asleep on the sofa.
Sone put their Dc on their own at a young age, some prefer to have them with them, we get time together. We’ve had years and years just us, Dd comes first for now

I co sleep too
And my DP has always preferred couch sleeping since even before we had children!!!

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 25/12/2024 00:03

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyea · 24/12/2024 23:50

If you’re ill, shouldn’t he help you?
I dunno, maybe it’s me being too uptight but i’d be scared we didn’t wake up, I prefer just get it done, then relax.

He's pretty much done everything for the last week including the wrapping. Just took a big bag down to see if he'd done it while I was asleep before. He hasn't. I'm not waking him up, he may have an alarm set or something, but if not il wake him in the morning to help me. Its too cold right now, il probably throw the heating on at 5am. Ds is a late sleeper I'm chancing it!

invisiblebark · 25/12/2024 00:02

How old is DD?

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