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Why do people get massive amounts of lip filler?

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CobaltRewind · 24/12/2024 17:58

And AIBU to say it shouldn’t be allowed?

I would love to hear from someone who thinks it looks good on them and why?

Is it an addictive thing? Once you start you keep going bigger and bigger?

I have NO ISSUE with nips and tucks and women doing whatever makes them feel good but I do not understand lip filler it’s the one thing looks universally awful.

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 24/12/2024 19:23

Lovelynames123 · 24/12/2024 18:45

IME it seems to be young women, often single parents, who like to look like they've spent money. So the natural look is no good as no one would know they'd had it done. Same with overly dark tinted brows and long acrylic nails. I don't know why they need people to think that, an insecurity I suppose. Same reason a colleague on minimum wage has just nearly killed herself with stress to spend ÂŁ1k on her 9yo for Xmas, including a ÂŁ350 Boss jacket - madness!

Wondering if you're in Liverpool. There are so many women in in Liverpool like that.

XWKD · 24/12/2024 19:23

I'm sure that 99% of people with filled lips look perfectly normal. It's going overboard that looks ridiculous. It's the same with facelifts. Most won't look like Mickey Rourke.

Createausername1970 · 24/12/2024 19:21

Pumpkincozynights · 24/12/2024 19:04

I do think the fake look is in vogue amongst certain groups of people.
For example massive duck lips, huge jet black spider eyelashes, slug eyebrows, long acrylic or gel nails, bleached hair with black roots, hair extensions, thick make up. Oh and fake tan.
In the past I think people made more effort to try and make all this look natural. So more effort was made to cover up dark roots etc. Nails might be painted but they were one colour or nude, not acrylic with all sorts of patterns painted on.

There is a generic look. There are three young adult females in the office who all look the same to me. I don't go in to the office very often so it was a while before I realised there were three different people.

I don't wear make up. Never have and never will. Couldn't see the point in all the faff. So this next level is totally beyond my comfort zone and I just don't see why everyone wants to look the same.

But in reality, it's nothing new. In the past people have had the same haircuts or worn the same fashion items, nowadays you can go further than just hair and clothes, you can now tweak your facial features too.

godmum56 · 24/12/2024 19:19

Do I think its weird? Yes
Would I do it? Hell no
should it be banned? Of course not.

ShouldIEvenBother · 24/12/2024 19:15

The lip fillered lips all look very, very, very similar. Folks lose their own individual features with lip filler, which seems so strange to me personally - I can't wrap my head around why anyone wants to look like a clone of everyone else who has the procedure. And absolutely no one with lip filler has a mouth that remotely looks like Angelina Jolie's, if that's what they're hoping for!

All that said, people who get lip fillers must really like that specific look - each to their own really isn't it.

Side note: beware the man who claims he doesn't like this particular look though! Those men who shout the loudest about this are sometimes the ones having sex behind their partners back with a lady who has quite visibly had work done to her.

ChanelBoucle · 24/12/2024 19:13

Wasn’t KK pictured coming out of a clinic once, having just had lip filler done? It was quite a new thing back then. I think there were some before and after pics in Heat or something showing how different her lips looked before - IIRC she had virtually no top lip. Whatever she’s had done looks good though.

Greyrockin · 24/12/2024 19:10

My neice has lip fillers and is quite open about the fact that she wants them to look 'done'. They don't look good. On the other hand, I've just watched Black Doves and was a bit mesmerised by Kiera Knightly's lips. I think she's had something done, but not sure that it's filler? They looked good IMH though.

Greyrockin · 24/12/2024 19:09

My neice has lip fillers and is quite open about the fact that she wants them to look 'done'. They don't look good. On the other hand, I've just watched Black Doves and was a bit mesmerised by Kiera Knightly's lips. I think she's had something done, but not sure that it's filler? They looked good IMH though.

Jaehee · 24/12/2024 19:09

LittleSoo · 24/12/2024 19:04

What I want to know what will happen to the lips after there is no filler?

Say someone has gone overboard for a couple of years, really big, has that weird line like a lil shadow tash, then the filler is removed, does the skin shrink back down? Does it look like ball sack skin?? A deflated balloon?

If someone goes overboard, from what I've read they tend not to go back to baseline. The filler can stay put for a long time and scar tissue can build around it. You can get them dissolved apparently but I've read there's a risk that some of your own HA gets dissolved in the process. There's threads on reddit from people who've had filler in various areas of their face, had it dissolved and now they're left with a lot of loose skin.

tillyandmilly · 24/12/2024 19:09

Sorry when I see these lips on women I laugh ! They look ridiculous ! What a waste of money! Not a good look

Sinkintotheswamp · 24/12/2024 19:08

It seems to be quite cheap and accessible these days. Lots of dodgy looking people advertise it on their Facebook pages.
Never looks good. Lots of young women at the gym and office have it. Looks like they have duck beaks.

Jaehee · 24/12/2024 19:05

The plastic surgery subreddit is interesting https://www.reddit.com/r/PlasticSurgery/

There's a lot of threads from women who say they hate their thin lips, accompanied by a photo of themselves with average or above average lip size. Maybe years of fillers being popular has altered some people's perceptions of lip size and shape? Makeup and clothing all seem to be modelled by women with lip fillers and the lips were obviously large to begin with. I just did a search for makeup brands off the top of my head + 'lipstick' and all the official photos show filled lips. This Mac one is a bit strange...

Why do people get massive amounts of lip filler?
LittleSoo · 24/12/2024 19:04

What I want to know what will happen to the lips after there is no filler?

Say someone has gone overboard for a couple of years, really big, has that weird line like a lil shadow tash, then the filler is removed, does the skin shrink back down? Does it look like ball sack skin?? A deflated balloon?

Pumpkincozynights · 24/12/2024 19:04

I do think the fake look is in vogue amongst certain groups of people.
For example massive duck lips, huge jet black spider eyelashes, slug eyebrows, long acrylic or gel nails, bleached hair with black roots, hair extensions, thick make up. Oh and fake tan.
In the past I think people made more effort to try and make all this look natural. So more effort was made to cover up dark roots etc. Nails might be painted but they were one colour or nude, not acrylic with all sorts of patterns painted on.

XWKD · 24/12/2024 19:03

The 1970s had glittery platform shoes. The 1980s had mullets. Now there are trout lips. In a few years people will be laughing at their old photos.

avaritablevampire · 24/12/2024 19:02

TwigletsAndRadishes · 24/12/2024 18:54

Because they have bad taste and no class and usually because they think it looks sexy, whereas actually, it just looks cheap.

It's the same with anyone who completely overdoes any look or trend to the point where it becomes a daft, tacky parody. Ridiculously heavy sharpie eyebrows. Very obviously fake tits that are enormous but don't move. Too much botox. Bad taste, no class.

I say that as someone who sees nothing wrong with lip fillers per se. I may even get some myself. They just won't come in the door 20 seconds before the rest of me.

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I dont think class has anything to do with it, but agree about your point of 'sexy'.
It's what women are sold to enhance sexual appeal / attractiveness. Just the same as many bodily enhancements, or wearing makeup, or fashion trends. It's less prevalent for men, but becoming more mainstream for male models / TV stars to increase their perceived attractiveness and then the general population will follow.
It's just for women in TV / music or modelling industries we know critics are much harsher and competition much higher, so it's a wider phenomenon for women.

TheHateIsNotGood · 24/12/2024 18:57

@Lovelynames123 not sure where the 'often single parents' analysis comes from; the most attractive thing that most single parents have is somewhere to live.

As a single parent of decades I feel qualified to observe and opine. My broad shoulders have held me in good stead building that massive 'wall' around my home.

Not sure that filled lips has helped any woman, married or single, with or without kids build and protect their own home.

Truth is - the fat lipped-look is to look sexy for men who think it gives a better blow job. Innit?

SocksAndTheCity · 24/12/2024 18:57

Floralnomad · 24/12/2024 18:44

Because they think it looks good and it saves having to keep trying to pout when they are putting photos on tik tok or whatever it is nowadays . For some reason lots of teens / young women think that they have to pout in photos, no idea why .

Did these teens and young women not tell you why when they explained that this is what they thought, which is obviously how you have this valuable insight since there is no other way you could possibly know the minds of others?

How many was 'lots', out of interest?

SpecialKate · 24/12/2024 18:55

I'm all for people doing whatever makes them feel good, given it's not hurting anyone else.

I have to say I don't understand the filler thing, though. We are usually told that women do "things" because it's what men want them to do. I'd be very surprised if that's the case with this, though.

Youllnevergetabetterbitofbutteronyourknife · 24/12/2024 18:54

I tend to think that when the lips are overdone, everyone starts to look the same. Apart from Lesley Ash. I was watching a Christmas special countdown show on channel 5 the other day and I honestly didn't recognise her! Her face was so puffed up and out of proportion. She looked like she'd been beaten up. Such a shame as she was so naturally pretty.

TwigletsAndRadishes · 24/12/2024 18:54

Because they have bad taste and no class and usually because they think it looks sexy, whereas actually, it just looks cheap.

It's the same with anyone who completely overdoes any look or trend to the point where it becomes a daft, tacky parody. Ridiculously heavy sharpie eyebrows. Very obviously fake tits that are enormous but don't move. Too much botox. Bad taste, no class.

I say that as someone who sees nothing wrong with lip fillers per se. I may even get some myself. They just won't come in the door 20 seconds before the rest of me.

ppqqrrss · 24/12/2024 18:49

Lovelynames123 · 24/12/2024 18:45

IME it seems to be young women, often single parents, who like to look like they've spent money. So the natural look is no good as no one would know they'd had it done. Same with overly dark tinted brows and long acrylic nails. I don't know why they need people to think that, an insecurity I suppose. Same reason a colleague on minimum wage has just nearly killed herself with stress to spend ÂŁ1k on her 9yo for Xmas, including a ÂŁ350 Boss jacket - madness!

"often single parents" nice bit of stigmatising there. As a single parent I have to disagree!

SocksAndTheCity · 24/12/2024 18:49

And here we are again with the assumption that people who do whatever is being sneered at are doing so because they 'feel the need' to, rather than just because they like whatever it is and want to do it; the implication (as ever) being that such people (almost always women) are too stupid and brainwashed to form views of their own, and are not able to decide for themselves how they want to look.

See also the faux-bewildered threads about why people 'feel the need' to eat in the cinema/go out in pyjamas/wear designer clothing/take their children shopping with them. The snobbery and condescension just drips from these miserable fucking posts.

ThejoyofNC · 24/12/2024 18:49

What do you mean it "shouldn't be allowed"?

People are free to make themselves look stupid in any way they choose, unless you're planning some sort of dictatorship society. I'd much rather ban bloody tattoos if we're going down that route.

Crikeyalmighty · 24/12/2024 18:48

My early 40s friend had it a few months ago - she's naturally pretty , but it made her look like someone had socked her in the mouth- I didn't say anything as I wasn't sure if she thought it looked good or not and she never mentioned it