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Why do people get massive amounts of lip filler?

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CobaltRewind · 24/12/2024 17:58

And AIBU to say it shouldn’t be allowed?

I would love to hear from someone who thinks it looks good on them and why?

Is it an addictive thing? Once you start you keep going bigger and bigger?

I have NO ISSUE with nips and tucks and women doing whatever makes them feel good but I do not understand lip filler it’s the one thing looks universally awful.

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stargazerlil · 24/12/2024 20:51

Pumpkincozynights · 24/12/2024 19:04

I do think the fake look is in vogue amongst certain groups of people.
For example massive duck lips, huge jet black spider eyelashes, slug eyebrows, long acrylic or gel nails, bleached hair with black roots, hair extensions, thick make up. Oh and fake tan.
In the past I think people made more effort to try and make all this look natural. So more effort was made to cover up dark roots etc. Nails might be painted but they were one colour or nude, not acrylic with all sorts of patterns painted on.

And teeth, the big fake white ones like Rylans

Twinklewonderkins · 24/12/2024 20:43

One of my friends does facial aesthetics. He’s a registered nurse.
Some girls literally say to him “ I want to look like a sex doll”.
So for whatever reason, some people do want that look.

Grapewrath · 24/12/2024 20:28

ehy do some women have bleached hair? Fake tan? Botox?
I’d guess it’s because they like that look. Others might not- because YOU don’t like it doesn’t mean it looks awful.
I personally don’t have filler but I don’t ever look at someone and think they look terrible for it. It’s personal taste tbh.

ppqqrrss · 24/12/2024 20:25

how much does it cost?

PerditaLaChien · 24/12/2024 20:22

I think a lot of this shit will backfire in 30 years time. You'll have a lot of folk walking round with faces like donatella versace.

I genuinely don't think the permanent "youth" look is very attractive. Lots of people manage to age naturally and gracefully just by taking care of diet & exercise etc. I find those faces far more pleasant to look at even if they do look older. There's nothing wrong with age.

Scully01 · 24/12/2024 20:18

It is quite addictive, I've had it done once and as soon as I got a little and saw the change I asked for more to be put in. It was a total low self esteem thing though, as I'd put on some weight and instead of addressing the weight gain I focused on something that could be changed instantly for a price. Never had it done again as I already have quite full lips 🤦🏾‍♀️Also people get top ups too often, my filler was done about 3 years ago and I still think there is still some in my lips.

largeprintagathachristie · 24/12/2024 20:15

I think people that have it done - including those on this thread who say theirs is oh so subtle - aren’t seeing the profile view. Which is duck like.

Catza · 24/12/2024 20:13

husbandcallsmepickle · 24/12/2024 19:43

I've often said, can anyone show me a before/after lip filler pic where they look better with filler? I've yet to see one.

I don't know... How about this?
Just to note that the dent in the middle is a scar from an accident and not botched injection.

Why do people get massive amounts of lip filler?
Crikeyalmighty · 24/12/2024 20:09

@avaritablevampire I disagree with you there, I know very few intelligent middle class women who spout this look-same goes for the pantomime eyebrows. If they do have a bit of filler or work on eyebrows it tends to be more subtle/ natural looking- I'm sure there will be some who like it very obvious , but I don't know them - same was true when we lived in Copenhagen - it just wasn't 'the look'. -

ItsCalledAConversation · 24/12/2024 20:07

Any kind of tweakment looks horrendously noticeable as soon as the face moves. Still for a photo - passably ok. Attempting conversation - horribly obvious, weird creases and slimy looking slick patches where the filler/botox is.

Catza · 24/12/2024 20:01

I am expecting a pile on but let me just tell you that my own mother didn't notice I have a lip filler and she is the person who practically disowned my aunt for wearing fake eyelashes at an event.
It can be done tastefully just to replace what is naturally lost with age. However, before I committed to my very first treatment I did a lot of investigation and there is such thing as loss of perspective when you see yourself in the mirror every day having had them done. Lips swell up after treatment and you sort-of get used to it. Then the swelling goes down and, comparatively, the lips look as if nothing was done to them. That's where people will often go to have a top up and so the obsessive cycle begins.
So what I did and still do, I measured across the middle of my upper and lower lip before the treatment and 10 days after the first treatment. I now have an objective measure. If I catch myself thinking "oh, it's time for a top up", I get my ruler out. I've had 0.5-1 ml put in approximately once every 2-3 years using this system and it worked brilliantly for me. No duck lips in sight.

Doseofdopamine · 24/12/2024 19:57

No doubt, they look universally awful. I know a young woman, very naturally pretty. Then I met her identical twin. Except she didn't look anything like her sister because she had massive lips and fillers, at 22. Her face is already distorted. It seems every other young woman has them now. I don't think lip skin has much collagen, surely it will stretch and they'll be left with shrivelled prune lips eventually?

Brinckly · 24/12/2024 19:50

avaritablevampire · 24/12/2024 19:02

I dont think class has anything to do with it, but agree about your point of 'sexy'.
It's what women are sold to enhance sexual appeal / attractiveness. Just the same as many bodily enhancements, or wearing makeup, or fashion trends. It's less prevalent for men, but becoming more mainstream for male models / TV stars to increase their perceived attractiveness and then the general population will follow.
It's just for women in TV / music or modelling industries we know critics are much harsher and competition much higher, so it's a wider phenomenon for women.

I think men just have the piss ripped out of them when they have anything that is not perceived as normal in their male world so they don’t bother.

JHound · 24/12/2024 19:50

SocksAndTheCity · 24/12/2024 18:49

And here we are again with the assumption that people who do whatever is being sneered at are doing so because they 'feel the need' to, rather than just because they like whatever it is and want to do it; the implication (as ever) being that such people (almost always women) are too stupid and brainwashed to form views of their own, and are not able to decide for themselves how they want to look.

See also the faux-bewildered threads about why people 'feel the need' to eat in the cinema/go out in pyjamas/wear designer clothing/take their children shopping with them. The snobbery and condescension just drips from these miserable fucking posts.

This. I would never get fillers because I have naturally full lips, the type that would be mocked as “rubber lips” when I was young. I do get long acrylics though and spent a fortune on my teeth (just Invisalign to close a Madonna gap and regular whitening. And it’s because I like it.

JHound · 24/12/2024 19:47

Lovelynames123 · 24/12/2024 18:45

IME it seems to be young women, often single parents, who like to look like they've spent money. So the natural look is no good as no one would know they'd had it done. Same with overly dark tinted brows and long acrylic nails. I don't know why they need people to think that, an insecurity I suppose. Same reason a colleague on minimum wage has just nearly killed herself with stress to spend £1k on her 9yo for Xmas, including a £350 Boss jacket - madness!

Holy fuck - YIKES.

husbandcallsmepickle · 24/12/2024 19:43

I've often said, can anyone show me a before/after lip filler pic where they look better with filler? I've yet to see one.

SpecialKate · 24/12/2024 19:42

@ShouldIEvenBother

Side note: beware the man who claims he doesn't like this particular look though! Those men who shout the loudest about this are sometimes the ones having sex behind their partners back with a lady who has quite visibly had work done to her.

Well earlier in the thread we were told that if men do like this look it's "because blow jobs..." so I guess they can't really win here. 😂

LindorDoubleChoc · 24/12/2024 19:40

LunaTheCat · 24/12/2024 19:33

I had some filler for the first time recently.
not lip but in the vertical lines above my lip.. despite never have smoked a single cigarette,. Play a wind instrument though which may have contributed.
I am 60 and was delighted,
The fuller although not in my lips made my lips look slightly fuller.. not trout lips at all!
I was delighted.. posted here before.
My ingector was a cosmetic dr.. she said that a lot of the awful looking lips and too much filler cheeks done by non Doctors with not good ethics.

@LunaTheCat did this really work for those vertical lines? I'd love to do something about mine but can't bear the idea of duck lips and looking ridiculous. What was the specific name of your treatment?

MolkosTeenageAngst · 24/12/2024 19:36

Because they want to.

I can understand thinking it looks awful (I agree) but it seems odd to therefore think it shouldn’t be allowed if you don’t feel the same way about other types of cosmetic surgery. There will be other people who think the idea of women having a ‘nip and tuck’ is awful and having actual surgery is more invasive than fillers so I don’t really know why you think fillers shouldn’t be allowed but are fine with other cosmetic procedures. Do you think they should be banned purely on the basis that you don’t like the look? How egocentric!

LunaTheCat · 24/12/2024 19:33

I had some filler for the first time recently.
not lip but in the vertical lines above my lip.. despite never have smoked a single cigarette,. Play a wind instrument though which may have contributed.
I am 60 and was delighted,
The fuller although not in my lips made my lips look slightly fuller.. not trout lips at all!
I was delighted.. posted here before.
My ingector was a cosmetic dr.. she said that a lot of the awful looking lips and too much filler cheeks done by non Doctors with not good ethics.

cuteyfluff · 24/12/2024 19:33

Got a bit of a wonky mouth so even it out a bit

JHound · 24/12/2024 19:33

TheHateIsNotGood · 24/12/2024 18:37

@Bluebellsnbowbells good question. Why do some see 'fuller lips' as being more beautiful? It's a trend obviously but doesn't answer the wider question of who sets the barometers of 'beauty' and why do so many people feel the need to follow it.

I like it. Years ago fuller lips were the subject of ridicule (depending on the community) so nice to see things go full circle!

Greycatclub · 24/12/2024 19:30

Because they want to or because they go to a bad practitioner. Either way, nothing to do with me.

MaggieFS · 24/12/2024 19:28

Because they're too young to remember Leslie Ash.

DeathoftheEndless · 24/12/2024 19:27

I went to ask about gummy smile Botox because my top lift raises so much when I smile and is also thin. The Dr told me I'd be better off with a small amount of lip filler. I left without getting anything because I hate the lip filler look so much.
It may be possible to get subtle filler that looks natural, but the awful, smooth, overfilled look is so ubiquitous that I'm completely put off.