To feel a bit disappointed that he didn't get me anything for Christmas?

I wonder if he's lying about the gifts he's bought for other people, the way he said he was buying you perfume? Maybe he's so tight he doesn't buy gifts for anyone but pretends he does to save face. Bin him.

And I aren't saying you are wrong but there is still time for him to do something and if he doesn't she can decided then.

Like I said, we will see. But I do feel that myself and other posters are going to be correct here. He has had plenty of time to buy op a gift and give it to her. And op has already said they both have other commitments tomorrow so won’t be seeing each other. It also doesn’t look like he has arranged with op to drop any gift off and not sure why he’d post it through her letterbox when he can just knock on her door. But anyway I’m off to bed now so I’m sure we will find out tomorrow.

But it isn't Christmas yet. Maybe he's going to surprise you!?

Chocolate will fit through letterboxes, as will some types of jewellery etc, never say never.

All I am saying is its still early to write him off, it could appear anything tomorrow.

You seem to be getting very annoyed with me about this but my opinion is my opinion and I'm not going to change it just because you disagree.

Well we will see but I highly doubt a present will have miraculously made it under op’s tree without 1. Op noticing the present in bf’s hands when he brought it into her house 2. Op noticing a present had been placed under her tree without her knowledge and 3. Op received present through her letterbox in the morning without all the gift wrap being shredded off during the process.
My I thought I had a big imagination but yours absolutely trumps that lol.
BTW you keep saying it’s not Xmas yet but in just over half an hour it will be officially Xmas lol!

He might of visited her house when he last saw her and slipped it under the Christmas tree as a surprise.

He could drop it off on his way somewhere tomorrow, depending on the size he could put it through the letterbox - it ain't Christmas yet!

And if he doesn't, she then gets to decide if he is worth it.

Do you seriously think this guy is santa and managed to get in op’s house and slip in a present under her tree without her noticing? Really?

I agree and that is her choice, all I am saying is its not too late and there maybe reasons and only she is in a position to judge when she knows the outcome.

Maybe @Feelingabitsillyatxmas1 wants a partner not a project!

You are just jumping to conclusions and making the post about my opinion and not the questions the OP asked. I stand by my comments and it has to be taken on a case by case basis whether they are male or female and only the OP knows if he is worth it or not.

And if he hasn't, he may have been burnt in the past or didn't want to be too keen - he will of realised his mistake by now if that is the case

Here we go again if a man says he has been burnt in the past , "used" for money all sorts of excuses are made if he treats his next partner as if shes going to do the same.

But if a woman has been burnt in the past (usually cheated on) she is hauled over the coals on here if she dares to even mention that she has trouble trusting her next partner and told that he is a different person Good ol" MN double standards.

Well even if OPs boyf has been burnt in the past SHE is a differrent person.

No you wouldn’t after 4 months and it isn’t being coy either ffs

he should be on his best behaviour and want to impress he isn’t stupid and knows what tomorrow is. Token pressie would suffice.

Actually howled at this. (I've had a number of brandies so am feeling tipsy and happy anyway! 😆)

I didn't tell her to hang onto a useless man - I said there is time yet, and if he doesn't, only she knows if he is good in all other respects and just needs some training - some men just need educating!

I just think people are jumping the gun a bit. If he doesn't produce a present then fair enough but there is still time.

Yes. Why the hell not say? You want a present and roughly what that would look like. Or even a small list with a variety of price point items on it. Why be coy?

They've been together for months, are exclusive, and are in a sexual relationship. There is NO excuse for him not to get her a small gift at Christmastime.

YANBU
After 4 months, I would expect a gift and give a gift. Not a huge one, but something. And a card for sure.
I would reconsider dating him. This would not sit well with me. He should be pulling out all his cards to impress you at this point.
Does he know where you live? Is there a chance he will pop in with a present and card tomorrow morning?
If nothing happens, I would plainly and directly tell him I was well unimpressed and good bye. He could have made you a card. Write you something cute, a poem. Make you something if he had no money. No way a man who wants to make you feel special is going to miss Christmas day as the perfect opportunity.

Okay well let’s see if he arrives tomorrow to place a gift on some Xmas tree outside op’s house 😁

If in the UK no one is delivering now unless he appears at midnight with pressies like Santa

I’ve known men who idolise their mums and yet are awful partners.

This is quite a common combination to be fair - some decent men do have toxic mothers.

And we all know of men who worship the ground their mother walks on, but disrespect their wives and women in general.

But it is of course something that may be taken into consideration as it can (not always) impact relationships.

She asked for opinions and I gave mine as she wanted, it doesn't matter whether it aligns with yours or everyone elses, I am not that insecure. She sounds a lovely lady, I wish her well.

Are you a New Zealander by chance ? 😅