To feel a bit disappointed that he didn't get me anything for Christmas?

So it's agreed that we're not naming him clubcard cnt in your contacts - you are just blocking him right, right *??? 👍 🙏

Merry Christmas btw 😘

He’s obviously a fuckin twat!

Just to add, OP, don't just be a little disappointed... I think you have the right to be downright hurt and furious.

Okay, he didn't have to get you a £200 gift. But a box of chocolates or something, or flowers, just as a noce gesture? Especially knowing you had something for him, AND especially as he had mentioned getting something for you? Of course he should have. I'm not one for gifts generally, but the way he has acted here is very telling and I'd be finishing with him ... not specifically because he didn't get you a gift, but because he has shown he doesn't really care.

Don't beat yourself up: you bought those gifts in good faith and because you wanted to. If he doesn't reciprocate somehow, that's on him. He's possibly been busy with family today and a bit taken aback by your generosity (it's Christmas, I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt).
However, I'd give him until Friday at the latest to either produce the perfume he was 'going to get you' (talk is cheap) or return the gift you bought for him. If neither of those things happen, I would write him (and Tom Ford) off as an expensive mistake. Like I said, don't beat yourself up: we've all done something out of character at the start of a new relationship with someone we like (well, I have anyway x)

Kick him into touch!

To be honest, it's only in the early days that I consider them important. Now we are married, my husband and I share our money- so if we buy the other something, it is both of us buying it. Presents are all about the kids now really. In the first year or two of our relationship was the only time presents really mattered to me. OP, YANBU to be disappointed to not have anything.

I predicted this would happen. What a twat!

He will probably contact you later today/ tomorrow/ day after pretending nothing has happened/ hasn’t done anything wrong. I would just block him. I would also advise that you don’t tell him how upset/ hurt you are as he is obviously getting a kick out of hurting you. He has done all this on purpose so don’t give away the bit of power over him you have left. Just leave the relationship and tell him you’re not into games and false promises and you’d like to find a real man, that he’s not the one for you and block.

I hope he's died of embarrassment and that's why he's not been in touch that much. Weird little man 🤢

Op not sure why you replied to him but don’t accept this behaviour as ok. Please just move on. Know your own self worth and don’t put up with these crumbs

That's awful! It's not about having a present either is it it's the thought and there was no thought on his side xx

Your turn to go quiet OP. Onwards and upwards. Enjoy your Christmas with your loved ones.

OP, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You're kind and generous and have no problem with commitment and showing your special someone that you care. He's the one who clearly has attachment issues.

I think the OP who reframed this as a 200-pound fee to smoke out bad partners is brilliant!

I'd leave it a couple of weeks and then dump him, saying you're not feeling a spark anymore. Don't say it's because of his behaviour at Christmas. Tell him you've gone off him. Prick his ego.

I've learnt something from this thread, and that's that presents should be discussed ahead of time.

But then OP wouldn't have seen what a colossal lump he is.

Never mind, OP! He's not for you. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Try to enjoy what's left of your Christmas. Hugs xxxx

Don’t be embarrassed about being kind and generous. He’s the one who should be embarrassed. It doesn’t matter in the scheme of things. Try not to overthink it.

I hope you're having a nice day OP. Merry Christmas xx

This. The false promises that never come to fruition.

No im not. I’ve given my advice! Anyone giving op false hope with far fetched ‘ideas’ about how he might have sneaked one under he tree in her house without her knowing is just ridiculous. It seems you are feeding off her misery and trying to build up her hopes when we both know your imagination is way too far fetched! This isn’t a romantic movie it’s someone’s life whom after being a victim of abuse myself I am screaming my knowledge at the op to tell her to get out while she can! He’s shown her who he is. If you want to downplay that then you go find a guy who you’re happy to have treat you like that while hoping and praying you find a ‘surprise’ gift under your tree that you’re never going to get!

He is actually a total embarrassment.

It like you are feeding off other peoples potential misery. No it doesn't look good but it is by no means over yet. Let her decide.

Awww if only you was correct in your naivety! Have a lovely Xmas 😁

You do realise these people show up as being ‘good’ in the beginning then their behaviour (usually over many months/ years) slowly deteriorates! He may appear good in other ways now but as early as 4 months into a relationship he is showing op who he really is.

Totally agree!

But he said he was buying her a gift and your saying your piece all well and good but he’s in the wrong here all because he said he was buying something and didn’t,

Ha ha I'm simply saying, if he's good in other ways, I would wait and see if he makes it up to her. I only got my husband a cd after the perfume. He could have assessed I wasn't worth the effort, but he didn't, and 22 years later I'm glad he didn't assess me as a waste of space. However only the OP knows what other qualities he brings to the table.