To feel a bit disappointed that he didn't get me anything for Christmas?

God what an ass. Just so mean. Im sure you very hurt I would be.

The fact that he has bought presents for those he cares about should tell you everything.

I don't think it's petty. You spent £200. He gave you squat. He should have brought something.

Heck, it was dinner at your place, he should've brought wine or dessert or flowers, plus a Christmas gift.

Did he bring ANYTHING with him? Contribute to the meal at all, a bottle of wine as a bare minimum?

bin him off, he’s not even bothering now, he won’t get better.

oh ffs ! I was so hoping.
I really did think he would turn up with your perfume !

Please tell me you are getting rid of him? He sounds like a complete prat.

This isn't about the stuff. If he'd said "I'm not into big gifts, can we just exchange cards and plan a lovely day together?" that might be fine. But he lead the op to believe he was getting her perfume, so she reciprocated, but then he didn't live up to his words.

Well £200 is a lot to lose, but cheap compared to divorce lawyers. At least you found out he's a stingy bugger now OP.

Hope you have a lovely new year.

Hi op, did you see him today? Did a gift ever materialise?

People in relationships can usually manage a conversation.

"So... what's the plan for Xmas? Shall we do our celebration on X seeing as we both have family bits? How shall we do presents?" (This could be a discussion of budget or both paying towards a special day out / trip)

@2Rebecca

The Op has spent a fortune ! and the bf now knows it !!! as he received his birthday gift days/weeks ago and he would know how much that was worth and he opened his Christmas present and will know it's almost £200

and so far...

the Op has nothing !

The Op at least deserves the perfume that was mentioned !

or the bf does the decent thing and returns his gift explaining that it was far too generous of her and he can't accept it.

Have you read the thread? That is not what is going on here.

This is sadly materialistic. Romance isn't just about men buying women stuff. I've never ended a relationship because a man has/ hasn't bought me stuff

This is the honeymoon period. If he doesn't treat you like a queen now he never will

Why? He’s ruined her Christmas, she’s posted on MN, he’s caused her sadness, hasn’t acknowledged it at all. Why would she be meeting up for some sale perfume that he probably won’t even have? The damage is done, he’s shown how he will treat her. In the bin.
Op I know you have caught feelings but really hope your head rules your heart this time, you sound lovely and deserve better

Me too.

You absolutely need to finish with him, it’s no reflection on you that it hasn’t worked, he’s shown his true colours an imo you need to run a mile. Sending hugs 🤗 you are worth more

Ltb

It’s only been 4 months and he’s proven himself to be selfish and insensitive, so I wouldn’t even meet up with him to end things. A text or a call would be enough and I’d do it before the end of the year.

I would wait

until tomorrow happens - if it is going to ?

and I suppose that depends on him getting in touch to confirm / make firm arrangements

as he has all day today, and some of tomorrow to buy the perfume he had initially mentioned and he may even get it in a sale !!!

then I would take the weekend to consider the ' relationship '

Take it as a blessing. A lesson that cost
you a bottle of aftershave. You know who he is, and you know he is not worthy of your time.

I wish you could get your money back for the cologne, OP. If he hasn't opened the cellophane then you should be able to. Could you text him saying that you did get carried away and that on reflection it was too much, and if he hasn't opened it, could you please have it back? You can deal with the relationship part later, but letting him know you'd like it back is time-sensitive because of the packaging. Then at least you would get your money back.

Even if he's opened it and you can't return it, I'd get it back from him and give it to a male relative instead.

The relationship needs to end anyway, seeing as he's upset you so much at Christmas, so even if there's no truly graceful way to get the gift back, it doesn't matter because things are ending anyway (from what I can tell), and at least HE won't have it.

Even if he rocks up with the perfume he promised in the next few days, I think you should stand firm. Just think about the game-playing and how he was happy to upset you on Christmas.

OP, as an aside if you don’t have kids you’re better off dating men without kids anyway. Even men without kids may fail to do things for women due to selfishness and laziness but I feel it often escalates once they have children.

It kind of gives them a legitimate reason to not prioritise you which they will gleefully use to explain why they can’t do x and y for/with you.

They often go on about how much they do for their kids, as if excuses how little they do for their partner. I’m sure he’ll be along soon to tell you how much he spoilt his kids.

I see this all the time on here and some women actually fall for it, excusing their partner from doing the bare minimum due to the man having kids.

When you date again start afresh with a man in a similar situation with you. It’s less complicated.

Wow he sent you links knowing full well the implications of that. And he did buy for others, so his GF would be assumed too! Sorry op, you deserve better. You didn't do anything wrong. It's all on him. He should feel absolutely ashamed of himself