To feel a bit disappointed that he didn't get me anything for Christmas?

Exactly this. Honestly… dump him if he’s at the point of future-faking a bottle of perfume already!

You are trying far far too hard OP.
A tiny token perhaps for his birthday.
Likewise for Christmas if you must.
Tiny being the word.
Spending large amounts is not wise.
Learn from this.
If he doesn't get you anything and doesn't at least say I am bringing you out for a special night or something I suggest you pull back big time.
Tight or thoughtless.....neither are a good look.

I sure as hell wouldn't be sleeping with him anytime soon if he is tight and thoughtless. Ick.

Oh ok I take back my earlier comment / that would annoy me tbh and I would feel a way about continuing.

You shouldn’t have to tell a guy you’re shagging that you want a Christmas present. It’s a bloody well given! The end!

Dial back the generosity massively.

If the promised perfume doesn’t materialise then he’s a tight arse Scrooge.

Stop paying for anything extra until you know his character.

Nah, don't feel like a tit.

You just behaved like yourself, which you should be able to do in a relationship.

The fact you gave him a birthday present should have clued him in you were likely to get him a Christmas present too. The fact it didn't occur to him - or he just didn't want or felt the need to get you one - isn't good.

Regarding talking about it - I think I might have said "are we doing gifts?" Rather than state baldly i was expecting a christmas present. It's entirely possible to talk about this.

If you don't feel comfortable saying "I'm starting to make my list, remind me, are we doing Christmas presents for each other this year?" you can bring it up when you're discussing Christmas plans: "Since we aren't seeing each other on CD or BD, when were you thinking we'd exchange Christmas gifts? The XXth?"

After 4 months I would get someone a token. Eg fancy chocolate or a (not hugely expensive) aftershave. I would expect something even a boots gift set and a card or similar. So a token for £10 would be fine but I would find nothing a bit odd. I actually think it would be fine to get nothing in an established relationship if you said to each other we are skint, let's not do presents this year. But with no discussion I would expect a little something.
How did he react when you gave him a present?

So in 4 months you've got him two gifts, and he's given you none. whilst buying for others. and this is meant to be him wooing you.

The only one who should feel like a tit is him. Never regret being kind and thoughtful. You know now he’s not worth it.

I’d wait and see. If he hasn’t got you anything, I think I’d end it to be honest. It’s not being grabby, it’s about being on the same page. Enjoy the next few days and let him show himself.

I was going to ask about present giving but clearly it is a custom for him too.

I dunno - tbh even if I had the “talk” with a guy I am not sure I would buy a present for somebody I had only been dating for 4 months.

This makes it even worse! I'd be gutted, and I'd be looking to end the relationship, tbh.

💯% or what's the point? 4 months is plenty of time!

I think that’s a bit crap OP. He’s had time to pop out and get you something in return. It’s mean not to.

He's had it since Thursday and hasn't reciprocated! Whilst telling you what he's bought for other people. Throw this one back, OP. Hope Santa brings you a better boyfriend next year.

You're not a tit, you're a lovely considerate person, unlike him, I'd wait until tomorrow to see if he got you something, after that I'd bin him off and find someone who really appreciates you

See it as an investment in your future. Now that you know he's tight, you can think about dumping this investment and moving onto someone else who will give you a much better rate of return.

Sometimes you need to make a loss to gain something better.

I’m telling you right now from massive amounts of experience - get rid. That’s just bullshit. It really is. I’m telling you, if you accept that… seriously, don’t accept it. If he doesn’t get you a Christmas present honesty, dump him. I can 100% guarantee you that he’ll be useless. Throw him back and tell him why. You deserve someone who gets you a Christmas present. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

If he doesn’t get you anything when he sees you Friday, especially after seeing what you e given him, then dump him. You shouldn’t need to tell him you expect a gift. Men aren’t a different species; if he wanted to get you a present he would.

Why though? Why do you feel like a tit for being a nice person?

The only person that should be embarrassed is him.

Unless he’s planned some sort of amazing surprise gift that he’ll be hand delivering to you tomorrow, time to get rid of this stingy git OP.

He didn’t even get you a card FFS 😵‍💫

As others have said, it’s a tale as old as time. The first few years are supposed to be the honeymoon period and he can’t even be arsed to get you a damn card let alone a present at Christmas?! He’s quite happy to tell you what he’s bought others though which again shows just how little he must think of you that you aren’t even an afterthought to him.

If you stay with him you’ll end up like those women who get nothing for birthdays, Mother’s Day etc and get upset about it, but why they expected any different when their partners have never bothered from the start.

Well, he’s made it clear that he’s not worth your time. So you can stop wasting it on him.

I would be disappointed to not get something - just something to indicate he was thinking of you. If he doesn't give you anything at all - I would take it as a sign of things to come - if he can't make an effort when things are fresh he won't bother later.