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Non Santa presents under the tree?

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Builtforspeednotcomfort · 24/12/2024 15:46

My DP and I have very difftent ideas about Christmas presents. I like to put the presents around the tree, how we had it as children ( obviously Santa presents were in a sack at the end of our beds). DP wants them out of sight until.Christmas morning and never around the tree! DP gets annoyed when I make a compromise of only presents for family under the tree. Ours out of sight until the morning. For context, no Santa presents as DC's all grown up. We have this same argument every year. Am I being unreasonable?

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CandyLeBonBon · 24/12/2024 19:54

Kids put their presents to each other under the tree and presents from family/friends go under as they arrive.

I still do a stocking for all 3 lady thing on Christmas Eve even though they're teens/young adults and all presents from me go under the tree at about midnight!

Thewrongdoor · 24/12/2024 19:50

All presents turn up on Christmas morning. Father Christmas brings the stockings, but the tree presents from us and family also are placed there Christmas morning/Christmas Eve night.

Builtforspeednotcomfort · 24/12/2024 19:46

TotallyTwisted · 24/12/2024 16:35

All the presents go under the tree from the minute they are wrapped/handed to you before Christmas Day. Santa then adds his when he delivers on Christmas Eve. Your DP sounds like a bit of a Grinch.

Yes the ultimate Grinch. And we are hosting, so everything to DP's exacting standards. Kind of sucks the fun out of the day. We usually all have a great time, so I'm sure it will all work out fine . Merry Christmas to all

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Lossyfloss · 24/12/2024 17:27

Everything stays hidden here. Father Christmas brings it all from the north pole. Stockings go at the end of the bed, presents under the tree. I used to love switching the tree lights on in the dark and seeing all the presents left underneath!

But the presents are from us, he just delivers them. We don't do any presents 'from' FC himself.

I'm also strict about calling him Father Christmas but bloomin Santa is everywhere!!

SeaDragon17 · 24/12/2024 17:16

I’m with your DH. As kids the best memories were coming down Christmas morning and all the presents had appeared, delivered by Father Christmas (but he only delivered them on behalf of the givers). The sight of them all twinkly and surprising and promising was just so wonderful. I couldn’t do anything different than that with my kids so that’s all they’ve known too

cherish123 · 24/12/2024 17:13

OliveWah · 24/12/2024 16:16

Presents from Father Christmas into stockings at the end of the DC's beds once they're asleep.

Presents from everyone except immediate family (me, DH, DD1 & DD2) are placed under the tree as they arrive, but we only put the rest of the presents under the tree on Christmas Eve. The DDs enjoy arranging them, but as our tree is on a big ledge in our huge bay window, I don't really want a tempting array of presents on display to passers-by for longer than necessary!

Exactly the same for me.
I've always worried about presents being on show from a theft point of view.

bluebee17 · 24/12/2024 17:12

All the presents go under the tree/Santa hidden until Christmas morning

RenegadeKeeblerElf · 24/12/2024 17:11

Everything goes under the tree as it is wrapped, Santa only brings presents for the stockings, which get hung by the fire Christmas Eve and then move to their door handles once filled. Even when the kids were little the presents went under the tree from mid December, the poking and guessing is part of the fun!

Randomlygeneratedname · 24/12/2024 17:03

We usually do everything under the tree except Santa gifts (pillow case at end of bed) but as we have a 1.5 year old running riot, we haven't put anything under the tree yet and will all go under tonight once the kids are in bed. We did the same when eldest was the same age.

EveryDayisFriday · 24/12/2024 17:02

I love reading how everyone does things differently. We don't have Santa gifts here. Everything is from us/ other friends and family, Santa is the delivery driver.

purpleme12 · 24/12/2024 17:02

Always hide the presents til Christmas eve in the evening. Then we get them out and put them under the tree. So she puts them under the tree with me. So she can see them wrapped then

smallest2largest · 24/12/2024 16:59

Never under the tree until Christmas morning. Santa only delivers one present and we put the others under the tree, but it’s kept out of sight until Christmas morning so there’s no temptation to open them.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 24/12/2024 16:59

Sorry to be late to the party. I've never heard of Santa presents.
Aren't presents from relatives and friends.
Sorry to be a bit thick.

Mokel · 24/12/2024 16:58

I often see people having presents under the tree for weeks. No wonder there is a spate of break ins when Christmas presents are as accessible as this.

doodleschnoodle · 24/12/2024 16:52

Sorry, double post!

doodleschnoodle · 24/12/2024 16:52

This is a compromise we had to work out! Growing up, presents appeared under the tree throughout December as and when they were received or wrapped. For DH, nothing was under tree until they came down Christmas morning and all the presents had appeared.

We did it my way for a couple of years and then last year I agreed to try it his way and I actually really liked it! No worries about the dog eating any of it or 2yo getting into parcels etc. And it did make the entering the living room on Christmas morning a lot more exciting I think. So we are doing it again this year.

doodleschnoodle · 24/12/2024 16:51

This is a compromise we had to work out! Growing up, presents appeared under the tree throughout December as and when they were received or wrapped. For DH, nothing was under tree until they came down Christmas morning and all the presents had appeared.

We did it my way for a couple of years and then last year I agreed to try it his way and I actually really liked it! No worries about the dog eating any of it or 2yo getting into parcels etc. And it did make the entering the living room on Christmas morning a lot more exciting I think. So we are doing it again this year.

Fireworknight · 24/12/2024 16:48

Father Christmas delivers presents to the stocking. All other presents under the tree, or at least until two years ago when we got a dog.

Nephthys21 · 24/12/2024 16:46

We never put presents under the tree before the big day growing up because we had cats and dogs who would attack them. Even now, we have a cat who would delight in trying to dig her claws into wrapping paper 😂

MereDintofPandiculation · 24/12/2024 16:44

All presents under the tree as they are wrapped. Everyone can feel, shake, sniff etc as long as no wrappings are disturbed. If a present is opened before Christmas Day, you don’t get it - the threat was enough that I as a child and DC from toddler age never went hunting for presents or prematurely opening the ones under the tree.

Stockings always included books, puzzles, chocolate to occupy Christmas morning.

The appearance of a tree is massively improved by a stack of nicely wrapped presents. And why bother to wrap if they’re not on display? You might as well hand them over in a supermarket bag.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 24/12/2024 16:43

Surely this is what the tree is for! It collects presents over the course of December, and then looks naked for the week after Christmas as a result

ChiliFiend · 24/12/2024 16:40

We have presents from everyone but Santa under the tree, but tbh this is one of the only things my husband and I agreed on when we first had children - he wanted them to lay out pillowcases for their presents from Santa, whereas in our house Santa's presents were under the tree and in stockings. We've blended our ideas over the years (pillowcases and stockings!) and no doubt our kids will grow up and argue with their partners about whose tradition is right :)

Gumbo · 24/12/2024 16:38

I agree with @Katy232425 , not worth falling out over.

DH and I both had very different Christmases as children, so we created new family traditions and agreed on different way of doing things for our own family. Nothing is right or wrong except perhaps where Santa gets all the credit for every gift your DC receives from anyone, as per another thread

Floralnomad · 24/12/2024 16:36

We did presents under the tree until we got our dog , then stopped because he unwrapped without reading labels . He sadly passed away in November but in the intervening 14 years we’ve acquired various Christmas animals that live under one tree and a Christmas train that sits under the other . There is no right or wrong and it doesn’t matter .

TotallyTwisted · 24/12/2024 16:35

All the presents go under the tree from the minute they are wrapped/handed to you before Christmas Day. Santa then adds his when he delivers on Christmas Eve. Your DP sounds like a bit of a Grinch.