Mil opened presents with toddler while I was at work

Why on Earth not?
It was only a couple of presents 🎁 from
Granny on Christmas Eve-
If Granny isn’t seeing her grandchild Christmas Day, then why not let the Granny see her gifts opened?

I can understand the annoyance and in a way its taken something away from you like first time opening Christmas gifts, however these gifts were from her that she brought over , so to open a couple , really isn't unreasonable at all and especially if she won't t be there tomorrow to see gc opening presents . All the magic will be there with the santa gifts tomorrow

I think your being unreasonable and it was only a few had she opened them all that would have been different.

I'm with you on this one OP. I think it's off. I don't think I'd lay all the blame at your MILs door though. Had you and DH discussed this previously?

That’s not right at all. Your DH needs to make sure it doesn’t happen again. She’ll be hijacking birthdays next. If she wasn’t with you on Christmas then fair enough, also if she asked then fair enough. But Xmas presents get opened together on Xmas!

I let my children open gifts as they receive them generally. A friend came to visit last weekend and left a Xmas gift for them and I let them open it when she was there. You will still be there on Xmas day it doesn’t take anything away from that.

I don't think you're being at all unreasonable op. It's not her place to decide when your dd opens presents - whether or not it might be a good idea to spread the excitement.

Yes your dh/her son was there and has a say. But so should you.

I might be a bit biased though because my MIL had form for overstepping the mark.

YANBU in that case! What was the rush?? I suspect a bit of one-up man ship here OP. But just let it go and maybe don’t invite her Xmas morning next year…

They're family and have their own relationship outside of you. Just let them be, it clearly was a fun moment for them together.

You aren't being unreasonable, she should have waited. It was rude and thoughtless/unkind IMO.

It is if that's the family's tradition

I thought she'd opened gifts you'd prepared!!!

Once my husband did that and I let rip, he has never done it since! I mean the cheek of it!

Personally, I'd have absolutely no problem with that. If someone delivered a gift on Dec 10 and wanted the recipient to open it immediately, while they were there with them, why not? Is it really that important for the child to open every gift at the same time?

I don't think it worth getting worked up about - your child other parent was present and okay with it. Perhaps it a special moment father, daughter and grandmother. The present were from grandmother and not you.

If your MIL is there in the morning then you are YADNBU!!! So rude of her.
Why couldn’t she wait until Christmas Day like everyone else ?
The least she could have done was ask if it would be ok with you.

Might as well start opening them on the 10th of December then..

I think it's reasonable to be a bit miffed. There's no reason she couldn't have waited until you were there to see it, too. I'm sure DC will be just as excited about Christmas morning (or whenever you open gifts), but I understand being disappointed that you missed that first gift of the season experience.

YABU little ones are easily overwhelmed with all the gifts, so spreading them out is good. Hopefully she only opened the ones MIL had brought with her.

Bit odd that MIL gave her gifts to her grandchild today when she will also be seeing the grandchild tomorrow and could hand them to her then and she could open them after she had opened her Santa presents. That way MIL would be able to clarify they were from her and not from Santa (something that matters a lot to many people who gift presents).

But it isn't worth getting hot and bothered about.

Her dh was there. You know other parent? So obviously he didn't have a problem with it, and you know as her other parent he can also make decisions.

Getting her told? What does that even mean.

Our kids can open gifts when ever they are given them by the person giving them. Shock horror it could even be earlier in December.

And since Santa comes on Christmas day I couldn't care when anyone else who has been kind enough to buy them a present gives it to them. Unless she gave her something she knew she was already getting tomorrow I would have thanked her and got on with it.

Maybe she thought you might not want a shit load more presents overwhelming her with all her other stuff.

If your MIL is coming tomorrow then YANBU. Why couldn’t she wait?!

…. And it’s Christmas MIL bingo. I’m sure there’ll be more incidences of MIL behaving appallingly and stealing those precious moments.

I would be annoyed too.

DH needs to have a word with her.

If MIL and DC were opening gifts that MIL brought, I see absolutely no problem with it. This is between MIL and DC and YABU to try to try to make it all about you. However, if MIL was having DC open gifts from other people, she's overstepping and you have every right to be upset.

That's ridiculous then. She's done it spitefully