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If you were invited "for Christmas Day"

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Gracelet · 24/12/2024 13:58

Would that mean to you for the whole day, staying for lunch, etc. Or would you take it to mean you could just pop in for some of it and make other plans for the rest of the day?

This is the situation with my best friend who was invited "for Christmas Day", so planned and catered for, but she's just said "Oh don't worry about feeding me" (she's a vegetarian) But DP has already got in veggie options. Presumably she isn't going to sit and watch us eat so I can only assume that she's made other plans for the afternoon. If she's done this I'll be really annoyed and upset :( I was looking forward to spending some Christmas time with her.

FWIW she's our only visitor invited "for Christmas Day"

OP posts:
FoxtonFoxton · 24/12/2024 14:04

I think you just need to ask her. She may be trying to cause you the least stress/time/money with having to cater for a veggie. Let her know you've catered for her.

KilkennyCats · 24/12/2024 14:04

God, that’s very rude of her. Coming “for Christmas” absolutely includes Christmas lunch/dinner.
Very odd of her.

Original poster
Gracelet · 24/12/2024 14:04

Yes you're all right, I should just call her but I think I'd be slightly embarrassed at assuming she was here for the whole day, and a bit stupid.

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Catza · 24/12/2024 14:02

When I am invited for "Christmas Day", I assume dinner. Unless I am invited to "pop round on Christmas day", then I just expect to be served tea.
She may also have implied that she will bring her own meal.
Seems like bad communications all round. I'd call and clarify her plans.

PromoJoJo · 24/12/2024 14:01

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PermanentTemporary · 24/12/2024 14:01

That does sound upsetting. Trouble is, even if 200 of us say that we would have assumed it was for the while day including Christmas meal, she didn't. Tbh she might think she's being nice? Call her and lay your cards on the table - you were hoping to see her and share a meal.

Alwaystired2023 · 24/12/2024 14:00

Tricky - has there been no discussion re dinner time / options etc? Maybe she didn't realise. Probably worth clarifying ? 'Hi friend sorry cross wires I thought you were coming for Christmas dinner! Do you have other plans? Let me know what time you plan to be here and when you need to be off x'

georgepigg · 24/12/2024 14:00

Oh that’s sad! I would automatically assume mid morning to early evening but would definitely ask for confirmation long before Christmas Eve!