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To be done with the bitchy comments?!

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happygrinchmass · 24/12/2024 13:31

For some reason my friend makes a big deal out of me being single (I absolutely don’t).

She made a comment last year about how she didn’t decorate for Christmas when she was single and living on her own. Which made me feel a bit shit as someone who is single and lives alone.

We met up for dinner last night with another friend and there’s was a beautiful Christmas tree and I just commented that I hadn’t put a tree up this year (because I donated my other one and then I forgot to buy a new one) and she exclaimed with gasp and a sympathetic head tilt “you didn’t put a Christmas tree up?!”

Like I can’t win. I’m sad and pathetic whatever I do apparently.

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Tittat50 · 24/12/2024 14:02

If you feel instinctively she's being a bitch - then you're right. Our instincts are always right. Dodge like an absolute bullet for the foreseeable!

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 24/12/2024 14:02

I know the type, OP. She sounds insufferable. I would just start spending less time with her.

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happygrinchmass · 24/12/2024 14:00

Arlanymor · 24/12/2024 13:50

Sorry, but how is any of this bitchy? Sounds like you usually have a tree and don't this year and that was surprising to her - nothing to do with being single.

And that was last night, but now you're bringing up another comment she made a year ago (so not recent at all) about not decorating when single - which is fine, I'm single, I don't decorate either, it's no reflection on anyone else is it.

Sounds like you are feeling sad about being alone at Christmas, rather than it being her comments specifically which are fairly innocuous. Sorry if you are feeling sad.

Edited

I’m not sad about being alone at Christmas ffs.

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happygrinchmass · 24/12/2024 13:59

ShortyShorts · 24/12/2024 13:45

I don't think her comments are bitchy?

She mentioned she didn't decorate when she was alone (plenty of people don't).

And then sounded surprised you didn't have a tree this year because presumably you normally do?

There was numerous times she’s brought up me being single. It’s relentless sometimes.

This is just a snippet to show that doesn’t matter what I do I’ll have some comment made.

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Tittat50 · 24/12/2024 13:58

I sat in a park with my son yesterday and just lie there in peace, in nature enjoying the experience.

Various families turned up, mums with their partners and kids. Never ever more in my life have i felt such appreciation and gratitude that I didn't have to contend with my own husband/ boyfriend. I felt absolute relief and freedom lying there knowing I have this Christmas day on my own. I actually felt for them! Maybe the look of misery on the women's faces wasn't a true reflection of things for them. Either way, at some point in your life you will possibly feel differently and so will your friend.

She is potentially just being tactless rather than deliberately trying to make out you're a loser. You're best just laughing it off and saying oh I love Christmas,can't pass on the tree.

If she's regularly being a dick just get some distance from her. If you're unhappy single, work on getting out as much as possible next year to meet someone. 🎄😘

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 24/12/2024 13:57

She hates herself.

Put up a tree and enjoy.

Arlanymor · 24/12/2024 13:50

Sorry, but how is any of this bitchy? Sounds like you usually have a tree and don't this year and that was surprising to her - nothing to do with being single.

And that was last night, but now you're bringing up another comment she made a year ago (so not recent at all) about not decorating when single - which is fine, I'm single, I don't decorate either, it's no reflection on anyone else is it.

Sounds like you are feeling sad about being alone at Christmas, rather than it being her comments specifically which are fairly innocuous. Sorry if you are feeling sad.

Oioisavaloy27 · 24/12/2024 13:47

Not a very nice friend.

ShortyShorts · 24/12/2024 13:45

I don't think her comments are bitchy?

She mentioned she didn't decorate when she was alone (plenty of people don't).

And then sounded surprised you didn't have a tree this year because presumably you normally do?

KrisAkabusi · 24/12/2024 13:43

She made a comment last year about how she didn’t decorate for Christmas when she was single and living on her own. Which made me feel a bit shit as someone who is single and lives alone.

Why would that make you feel ahit though? She was saying that she didn't do as much as you. You should be feeling smug at that, not self-pitying!

MabelMora · 24/12/2024 13:35

Sometimes people say irritating things. You're making it bigger than it needs to be, IMO.

Couldyounot · 24/12/2024 13:33

Bin her off, I would

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 24/12/2024 13:32

It sounds like she might just hate Christmas trees