To not invite mum to my graduation

Tell your mum you have plans with your husband and / or tell her you’re mistaken and it’s only one for dinner. Invite her to a later celebration.

Congratulations on your achievement @Frazzledmum77 it’s a big deal
take who you want to,it’s all about you
Go for a meal after graduation with your mum,way more contained in term managing any post drink comments.

Yes, this is what strikes me too. I can’t imagine be8ng swayed from my own plans by what someone else opined.

Would your mum fall for a little white lie? such as you've checked and all the tickets are now sold out. Such a shame.

I didn’t find DD’s graduation boring at all. Sure, I was only really interested in seeing her walk across the stage, but the whole atmosphere of joy and optimism brought a tear to my eye. All those students, many of them very young, on the threshold of life and full of hopes and dreams, and others more mature brimming with pride at what they had achieved. There was an incredibly moving posthumous award as well. Not boring.

Enjoy your time celebrating with only your husband. & congratulations 🎉

Congratulations on your graduation! And the prize, what a fantastic achievement.

Stick with your plans to have an overnight stay in a nice hotel with your husband.

Arrange a family meal to celebrate all together later. This is one day when you can be selfish. Having teens and older parents there means you won't switch off and will be in mum/carer mode all day. Not what you want when it's YOUR celebration.

Ignore the 'it's your mum crowd' - it's great that there are people who have lovely mums and lovely relationships with them, those of us that don't understand!

In fairness, they are boring. I've been to 3 of my own, one for each of two dc and work related ones when I'm course director.

It's less boring when it's yourself as you know a lot of the graduands but there are usually a few other classes that you don't know. As a parent, the bit with your dc is obviously super exciting but the rest is not.

Amazing achievement op ! Outstanding infact

very well done 👏

I think you are dh deserve a romantic night together and not have your day overshadowed- if your mum is financially dependent on you then you are already doing enough imo.. this is about you

enjoy 🎓

I hadn't even left home when I finished my post grad. I still took my husband-to-be rather than my parents, because he was the one who had supported me throughout. My parents came to my first graduation.

You do what you want. It sounds as though your mum will complicate things too much for you to really enjoy yourself, which is a shame as you've earned a celebration.

I agree - have a celebration family meal the week after.

Sorry, didn't mean to quote anyone!

When your friends achieve their own MSc and win a prize too, they can invite whoever they want. They don't get to tell you who you should invite. People get very weird about this kind of thing.

I thought this was going to be the case from your first post. I suspect a friend has maybe said to her, oh why aren’t you going? Aren’t you invited? Which is why she has sudden interest in the first place. Don’t give her it. This is your event and you can do a family celebration at a more appropriate time.

Didn’t even go to the first two so can’t comment. First one I was partying in a foreign country, second one I just CBA. Attended my MBA one as it had been a hard slog and I was proud of it. Took my exH, no one else. He had put up with the blood, sweat and tears, no one else. It’s no one’s business op, take who you like and don’t feel guilty, it should be all about you on the day, no one else.
And congrats btw!

That's a shitty comment, but I see that's your thing.

You know you don't have to bring other people down to make yourself feel good, right?

OP, well done on your achievement, I think I would probably just take DH and leave it at that.

Wow you really do have no filter.

First the Oscar comment, now insinuating itll be boring.

Are you always so nasty, rude and negative?

I feel sorry for your kids. Yes, a graduation can be lengthy, but usually, attendees who triumph their relatives, who are filled with pride will have an amazing day, as it will be for OP.

I'd just go with husband. Too much hassle for a special day.

Congratulations on your Masters and especially on the prize!

I didn’t even go to my own graduation in order to avoid the complications of inviting/not inviting my parents.

So I don’t actually have a degree because in those days they didn’t do a ceremony in absentia unless you asked specifically, and I didn’t know you could.
It hasn’t held me back though..

Congratulations on your masters! Sounds like a good occasion to celebrate with your DH and have a nice time together. Graduations don’t need to be an event for all the family, especially if you’ve been there done that before.

@Frazzledmum77 saying it’s going to be a bit boring is understatement of the year

When I went to my eldests graduation the boredom was off the scale!!!

I literally couldn’t wait to get out of there!!! I was not the only parent who thought this

If you were my DD id be avoiding the subject all together and praying you didn’t invite me

Jealous of a stranger on the Internet... not a good look. Have a break.

I echo @OchonAgusOchonOh
Winning a prize for coming top of your class is quite an achievement and deserves to be celebrated.

OP, take DH, enjoy the day as you see it, don't listen to anyone telling you to take mum or the kids. Have an amazing day.

I went to my MSc graduation on my own, and not having to worry about children / husband / mother was such a nice break, I enjoyed it more than I would have done if I had to worry about anyone else. It’s really boring for guests I think. Do whatever you like. And huge congratulations on your degree and your prize. An amazing achievement.

Wow, did you mean to be so rude?

Congratulations on your graduation OP. I would tell your mum that you and DH are making a little holiday of it and arrange to see her when you get back, show her photos etc and be regaled with the tale of her prize!

My BSc - my parents
First MSc - didn't have anyone i wanted to share with so didn't go
MA - took my husband. Decided my teen kids would be bored.
Second MSc - went by myself to catch up with coursemates.

All options are available. Do what makes you happy.