DH having a rant at me

so you know the car doesn’t heat up for a while, it’s the only car currently available to use and you know it isn’t your DHs fault that it’s chilly and yet you complain about it. What, precisely, would you like him to do about it ?

I bet if the roles were reversed this thread would eventually degenerate into you being told LTB

Merry Christmas to you too.

BUY A BLANKET FOR THE CAR

I suspected she meant hypothyroidism, so that's why I put it in my post.

You are right though. Hyperthyroidism (I've been there too) generally makes the sufferer feel too hot, amongst other things. Hypothyroidism tends to cause them to feel cold.

If OP’s husband comes here to make a thread please can someone tag me

You're constantly moaning expect your husband to put up with it.

But what would being ‘there for you’ look like in this situation? You moaned you were cold. He put the heating on. You moaned again. And again. And suggested your children were suffering. What did you want him to say or do?
No doubt he’s aware his car is cold, he’s the one who has to drive round in it.

Absolutely. Marriage is about give and take. But he’s telling you that you are complaining to him about something every single day. How many times is he ill or bedridden? You are taking far, far more than you are giving.

Sorry but you do sound like you were just moaning for the sake of it. I’m sure your children would survive the school run! You can put on extra layers if need be. What did you want him to do, get out there an hour in advance and warm the car up for her Royal Highness?!

YABU, YABU, etc.
Hyperthyroidism?
The general rule is you are hot as hell most of the time.
I have got both your conditions as well. They don't come with tendency to complain a lot. 😉

My DH does this, it drives me insane. First time he says something we may discuss it, second time I say, yes I know. Third time or onwards, I just repeat ‘you’ve said’.

As someone else said, there is literally nothing he can do about it. The kids won’t die going to school in a cold car. I imagine it’s warmer than walking.

What were you hoping to achieve by telling him you were cold so many times? Did you think he didn’t hear you the first time you told him?

Living with a moaner is so draining. Nothing is ever good enough. There’s no occasion that can’t be turned negative by someone who treats you like you’re their personal complaints department and there to fix all of life’s ills. You might think that you’re just commenting on how you feel and all you want from him is to tell you that he hears you, he feels sorry that you’re unhappy and it will heat up in a few minutes. But what you’re actually doing is chipping away at him, bit by bit, and getting him to the point where he can’t bear to listen to you for another minute.

I don’t think he should apologise. It sounds like he’s rapidly coming to the end of his tether with you and, in your shoes, I’d be looking to make some serious changes before he starts thinking about how peaceful his life would be without you in it. You need to apologise to him.

just Ask the children to wear their coats on the school journey until the weather is warmer. There, fixed that for you.

But it sounds like you get upset at absolutely non events… you knew the car was cold. Take some personal responsibility. You’re not a child.

Are you going to continue being a martyr or take on board that many others agree with your husband that you are being unreasonable?

No, you were insulting him about his car and covering up by claiming it was about your “feelings”.

Op, why bother with an AIBU if you’re not going to listen?

You asked MN's opinion - and 96% have said you ARE being unreasonable.

Will you apologize to him now you have your answer?

Most people on this thread think you sound like an irritating moaner.

Are you taking any of this on board?

If it is cold, double your socks, use layers, hat, gloves etc etc

And to and from the shops or a school run is just a few minutes, nobody is going to freeze to death

How do you think people standing in bus stops waiting for the bus survive?

The only problem I see here is that your H has been holding his feelings for a long time and now it exploded - humans do that - I guess if he mentioned before now you would play the victm

DISCLAIMER - my teen daughter is autistic and has severe MH issues - sometimes this fact is a reason for something, sometimes can be used as excuses - just saying…

Kids get cold. Won't kill them.
They'll be colder in the playground at playtime... and they won't notice

Christ! No one likes a whinge-bag! Poor bloke.

Taking an aside from the argument, have you thought of getting a heated body warmer / gilet they are really cheap on Amazon and work really well. They work off a usb battery pack in the pocket.

I have hyperthyroidism and cold is one of my symptoms when under medicated. The heated layer makes the world of difference. Wear it under your coat and switch it on when you're a bit chilly and soon you'll feel like you're sitting in the sunshine

Well worth it in my view, great for outside but also indoors if you don't want to put the heating on and no one else is chilly

If could prevent these niggles in the future

If my DH acted like you did then I too would have lost it with him.

He would have been cold too.
Why did you repeat it and why did you bring up the kids?

Maybe you should swap cars when he’s taking the kids to school, if you are so concerned about them being cold.

Your complaint was pretty pointless Op, his car is cold because it's older no one can change that. Your kids will survive! Some kids walk to school in the cold and cope!
I imagine he is frustrated by a complaint about something he can't do anything about.

This really.