DH having a rant at me

Buy yourself a couple of pairs of pure wool socks and some ugg boots. Seriously, you need to look after your feet if they are so painful when cold.
Dress as if you are at a ski field.

Oh come on, we don't live in Iceland. Loads of kids WALK to school in the car. They'll be fine.

Also can we please take into account on this thread that OP really may well not realise how they are behaving.

I went from a placid almost horizontal character to having to be told at work to leave my boss at work as I wanted to tear him a new one - I was awful and for the people around me they struggled with my change. Its bizarre

I expect he was cross/upset about the comments because there is nothing at all he can do about it. I'm a 'fixer' and your comments would make me think that you were expecting me to fix it. Unless you're proposing buying a newer car, then there is zero point commenting on the temperature in the car and instead just dress appropriately for the car (knowing it's cold).

There's quite a difference between just commenting.. 'I'm cold, it's cold, my feet are cold, the kids are cold' and... 'we're going to be taking your car, so I'll go and warm it up before we need to leave' or... 'I didn't realise how cold your car is, did you want to look at replacing it so it's more comfortable?'

I struggle with this, so I try to say something more positive if I'm going to be saying something negative. It also means I take more time to think before speaking and therefore don't blurt out as much.

Absolutely! You don't know cold until you've got dressed in a house with no central heating then walked to school in the snow!

It's OP who should apologise. Not him.

You are getting terrible advice in this thread OP. Your husband had no right to be nasty to you because you said your feet were cold. Don't doubt yourself. If your husband has form for this, then write a more well-rounded post on mumsnet in the future which more accurately captures how your relationship plays out, as you've given a tiny snapshot and people are making possibly incorrect assumptions based on that.

Things is OP will not realise she is being so irritable and negative if she is not being treated correctly and on the right level of medication

Best thing you can do Op is get your gp to do a blood test and see whats happening

Obviously he should take your needs into account generally but this isn't exactly a disaster is it, and you mentioned it more than once, so tbh I'd be frustrated too.
One of my mottos for life is " Don't sweat the small stuff"

This may be where your ND is making you blind to just how rude you were in this situation. Yes your DH did react rudely back to you, but not to be childish, you did start it off. I would expect you to apologise first and reflect on how complaining 3x about the car being cold is OTT when the person has already responded to the 1st complaint and done the best they can to fix it. Try and apply this, don’t keep complaining when it’s being fixed rule to other parts of life.

Also, if you are genuinely concerned the children are cold going to school in the morning, offer to swap cars for the winter and plan to trade his in for a newer one in the next year.

What did you actually want him to do though? The heating is on. There is no more to say. Very dramatic to be concerned about the kids going to school.

I would agree/sympathise first time you mentioned but after that it is annoying.

Problem with your thyroids can effect your ability to regulate - I have Haisimotos disease can make you feel either.

Its not like that - hypo makes you feel cold hyper makes you feel hot

Hashimotos is the opposite of hyperthyroid - if you are hyper, you can literally live with the heating on at 14 degrees and wonder why every other fucker is complaining

Don't be daft. These replies are so dramatic. I have a really easy going and happy relationship with my partner. He doesn't lose his rag when I say it's cold. I complain here and there and he ribs me for it. But I'm also incredibly joyful, I bring positivity, and stimulating conversations, and share great experiences, and we have lots of quiet time together which we both get a lot from, such as reading together, or each of us pursuing our separate activities. People are really inferring a lot more from what the OP than what is written, which is that she expressed she was cold when she was feeling a bit cold. It is possible to have a well rounded relationship in which you can express yourself honestly. Lots of assumptions are being casually thrown around, and posters are inferring that OP is continuously being negative and grumpy, that she is complaining 100% of the time. I don't think that's a fair assumption at all. Posters are also making the assumption that it's all the OPs fault they haven't been speaking for 2 days (that she is giving him the silent treatment). She didn't say that, that is another inference. If someone went off on an angry rant at her it's possible she is in an autistic shut down phase due to the emotional overload. It may also be her husband who initiated the silent treatment following his abusive rant.

Two of the symptoms of hyperthyroidism is being very irritable and feeling hot.

I was particularly irritable before diagnose, now I'm just a fucking grumpy old lady so make sure I try and switch it off as its really draining rot be with someone negative all the time

So ironic when she makes out she's such a great listener!

Whingers are always so defensive. My mum’s reply is always “I was only saying” with a little pout and puppy eyes brimming with tears of self-pity.

Do you have any idea how draining it is for people around you. Sometimes people just have enough

OP: AIBU?
Majority of replies: Yes. Yes you are!
OP: No I’m not

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Contrary to what others are saying, I would perceive that as being abusive, not what you are doing

Of course you would, because you behave the same way and don’t want to accept it’s shoddy behaviour.

What's being nd got to do with this?
My car takes ages to warm up . No amount of telling me it's cold will heat the car quicker . It drives me mad when people say it all the time

Gosh sorry you're getting slated OP. I really feel for you. I am a bit of a complainer and luckily I have a partner who takes it all in good jest. He might slightly rib me and we will have a laugh about it. But he's never ranted at me and got angry. Contrary to what others are saying, I would perceive that as being abusive, not what you are doing. All you did was express your opinion that you're feeling cold, and then empathically wonder if your kids also feel cold in the mornings. That's being a good, caring mum. I think posters here are reading too much into what you did (assuming you're being overly grumpy and negative) as opposed to the reality which was that you were expressing some mild feelings (feeling a bit cold). There are definitely people out there who can react to this nicely and it isn't too much to expect. I am also ND so maybe I am more understanding of you than other posters here. My partner is also ND which is perhaps why he's a good match for me in that respect. He can say anything to me about how he is feeling/thinking, and I can say anything to him, we don't attach more to it than a genuine expression of feelings.

Some of these replies are unnecessarily unpleasant - suggesting that your husband will leave you etc. HOWEVER like a couple of posters here I have a mum who moans and complains incessantly. Go for a lovely meal and she complains that something isn’t on the menu, or it’s draughty when someone opens the door, or the food is taking too long or the music is to loud or all of them! Go to the theatre and she will nitpick every minor thing even though everyone else had a great time. We make a family joke of it but the truth is, it is a real drag. It’s depressing and spoils things when someone complains relentlessly especially if there’s nothing you can do about it. I honestly believe it has become a habit for my mum and she doesn’t realise how much she does it or the effect on other people. Could that be you? I know you feel upset that your husband lost his temper with you but maybe reflect on how pointless moaning makes him feel. I also know that autistic thinking can be very black and white - ‘a good husband listens with exception’. But while we all vent at our partners from time to time, being married doesn’t make one partner a limitless receptacle for complaints.

You sound tiresome as hell OP.

Please consider:
having a blanket you can grab by the front door ready for when you go out
always having gloves in your coat pockets - thicker ones in the winter
wearing thermal trousers and warm boots
woolly hat
hot water bottle - I take one of these if car is going to be cold
In addition to all of the above, starting the car 10 minutes early and giving it time to warm up.

Sorry but that would get on my nerves. Don't you think he's knows the car is cold? Unless he's driving with the air con blasting and the windows down, YABVU.

He has turned the heat up, to the best of his ability, there's no point moaning on. If you're like this about other things it really does sound like you're a pain in the arse.

Who on earth voted this person is not unreasonable?!
Even if you like listening to whining about nothing, stonewalling is abuse.