DH having a rant at me

Beg to differ. Most can tell the difference between a bitter and twisted man who must annoy women for the sake of it and a woman who disagrees and offers her opinions

Only a man would make a sexual joke

See how dumb it is?

No. Not only men. Because I'm not a man. But you are suggesting women are somehow magically protected from being wrong because of their gender.

I would hazard most of the replies here are from women. You just want to expand your ridiculous man hatred with no proof at all that men are involved

OP isn't asking for consideration, she's looking for reassurance she is right.

Thanks man have merry Christmas to you and yours!
My gorgeous Dh brought me joy in his Santa sack

Christ on a bike.

I hope Santa brings you a head wobble overnight

Only a man would feel the need to use capital letters to make very clear their position of superiority over women

Only a man would say “ women aren’t automatically right just because they are women “

And Op is asking for consideration being ND and wants to learn from opinions, but not to be taken down a rabbit hole and being presented unnecessary personal insult s from bitter and twisted men

It is of course possible that OP's husband is a bellend... it's not the law that only one person in a couple can have behavioural flaws or negative behaviour patterns. Its possible t hey can BOTH be dicks.

But it is the OP posting, she can only alter her own behaviour, not someone elses.

Calling her out for her unreasonable behaviour is not vitriol

I doubt the op returned passed page 2 after the vitriol spouted

I am most definitely a woman, and I think the OP is being unreasonable.

Women can and should call other women out for being unreasonable
Women aren't automatically right just because they are women

Or maybe it’s a good example of a woman asking if she was being unreasonable and being told that she was BECAUSE THIS IS THE CASE.

This thread is a good example of the fact that women, including ND women, cannot chat with other women on a public forum. We all must sit up and be corrected by the many men on mumsnet waiting to pounce.

Yes you're right, men are always wrong, never woman. That's equality, right?

My sister does this and I call it Shit Weaselling. Pointing out the negatives, things that are shit, where there is no practical way of altering that. Stuff that has already happened and cannot be undone, stuff neither of us can actually change.

Only you can change and stop being a Shit Weasel - so before you open your mouth, think:

Does he already know this?
Do either of us have the power to change this?
Is this constructive?

If you answer no to any of those things then shut up. Revisit it if you come up with a solution to the problem.

Some people are Shit Weasels because they subconciously want others to join them in their misery, some genuinely have no idea that it irritates others when they bang on and on about negative things that can't immediately or ever, be fixed. Some think it is just normal conversation (it isn't) and some are doing it to intentionally upset and piss off or bring down others.

I'm absolutely not judging why you do this - but have a think about how often you make such negative comments, where there is no constructive purpose or solution... vs how often you make positive comments.

There is a world of difference between a passing comment:

'Bloody 'ell it'd freeze the balls off a brass monkey in here, ooh I do like your winter gloves, do you fancy chips for tea?'...

And a constant drip of negativity:

'Bloody 'ell it'd freeze the balls off a brass monkey in here, I've told you its too cold for the kids on the way to school they must freeze every day, I can't stand being this cold all the time its horrible... '

Only you can change this.

Also can we please take into account on this thread that OP really may well not realise how they are behaving.

If they don't realise it after 11 pages of MNers pointing it out, there's little hope.

Whilst a very high proportion of negative male behaviour is due to misogyny, not everything is. If you've ever lived with someone who constantly complains about everything, you'll know it's akin to a dripping tap, a subtle yet consistent form of almost torture. Its hardly surprising he went on a rant - that was probably the drip that broke the camel's back.

What a load of bollocks

You're correct. In a life or death situation, your husband should be there for you.

This isn't a life or death situation. The car was cold and it would have warmed up soon enough.

What did you hope to achieve by complaining to him about something that can’t be helped? Fair enough to comment ‘’ooh, it’s cold in here!’’ as an observational remark, but to repeatedly mention it and then bring the kids up to make him feel bad? What did you want out of it? He’d already turned the heater up. You were complaining for the sake of it. You can always take the kids to school in your car instead 😃

I dony blame him if you keep nagging about the heat. You know it’s an older car that takes time to heat up, why go on about it?

Your illness has nothing with it you are using it as an excuse. The car would have warmed up eventually or you could have managed for the little while you were driving, and I say that as someone who also has hyperthyroidism

If you are like this all the time then ND or not you sound like hard work and maybe he had had enough.

LTB LTB LTB LTB LTB

There is no bad weather only bad clothes.

With the kids in the morning being cold for a short journey isn't a massive issue really
Cars just don't heat up quickly