DH having a rant at me

> Shouslnt your husband listen, just listen, without exceptation.

I’m sorry but absolutely not. I’m not saying it’s your case, but sometimes people get so wrapped up in the habit of complaining non stop that they don’t even realise how draining it is to people around them.

I currently live with someone like this and I’m struggling massively with it. Imagine working all day only to come home and listen to someone whine and complain 24/7. No. Get a therapist.

Constant moaning and whinging = nagging in my book and that would get a VERY short shift from me.

Yeah you sound like a pain in the arse. Can’t stand people who complain all the time.

It’s cold, it’s December. Stop complaining about it to your poor husband and put some thicker socks on.

I probably would have ranted at you as well.
I think it's time for a bit of self reflection. Have you got into the habit of moaning and then repeat moaning without realising it. It sounds like your Dh finally had enough!!

Why did you keep saying it's cold when there's nothing he can do about it? Of course he was annoyed

What’s the other belittling stuff he does?

Considering many children walk to school I don't think a car being slow to heat is an issue. They are going to be vastly warmer than those outside.

Say you're stuck in traffic. I'd rather be stuck in traffic talking about The Beatles or lemurs or what you're having for tea, than being stuck in traffic listening to the other person moan about how bad it was to be stuck in traffic.

It is rude to comment on things that people can't change, and it's extremely draining for other people to have to listen to complaints and moaning, constant negativity. Even if they're in an annoying situation! Make the effort not to complain.

Going forward, you can drive everywhere in your car and do the school run. Problem solved! Or you could buy him a new car for Xmas?

But outside of that, just shut up. Quit whining at him. And don't use emotional manipulation to get your own way. Refusing to speak to him and planning to not 'forgive him'? For what exactly? It should be you asking for forgiveness.

You know the car takes longer to heat up so why keep commenting it was cold, he couldn't exactly make it warmer any quicker and he wasn't keeping the car cold on purpose.
YABU

What do you expect him to do?. You either swap cars or you drop off the kids instead. It's extremely draining to listen to someone complaining constantly!

But you complained three times in a short journey about the same thing. I'd be fed up too!

Sounds like you need to listen to your h: he is fed up by the amount of complaining you do.

Maybe you could pay attention to what you say and count for many sentences are complaints, how many are praise, etc?

Is anyone else thinking that a 15 reg car isn’t that old?

The OP and others on here are acting like he’s still driving a Ford Escort from the 90’s!

Well...are you a moan? I don't mean to be harsh...I don't know you after all. Do you have to complain about something to him every day?

In my experience, people who moan a lot aren't always aware they are doing it. They think they're making conversation. It just so happens that their conversation includes inconsequential moaning.

It can be draining to the listener.

How very sensible! I like this!

A comment is once.

You are now abusing him by giving him the silent treatment. It's classed as domestic violence Although he's probably enjoying the peace.

You need to stop. He doesn't need to apologise to you.

What can he do about the cold on a cold winters day other than put the heat up in the car.

You were moaning and being impatient, repeatedly, about something he can’t help. What good would him ‘just listening’ do? He can’t change the weather.

If it’s that much of an issue you should have moved the cars around so you could take yours.

What was the point of posting ? You clearly don’t want to listen.

Pretty obvious, innit? She can’t moan at him ‘cos she’s not talking to him (bet there’s plenty of PA eye-rolling and tutting going on though). So she’s come on here to moan about him.

Will probably start a new thread moaning about the Vipers of Mumsnet™️ shortly.

I have hypothyroidism for which I take thyroxine. Are you appropriately managed for yours, because if you are, you shouldn't be feeling the cold any more than someone without hypothroidism.
I also put on lots of layers if I think it's going to be overly cold.
As for old car heater - how many times do you mention this when in Dh's car? He knows it's old. He knows the heater takes a while to rev up. Perhaps give him a break?

But she also complained about the children potentially being cold. So unless they all have thyroid issues too, that’s not seeking sympathy and support

You said it once... no need to say it again and again.

What was the point of posting @Bettib00 ? You clearly don’t want to listen.

you probably moan way more than you think you do. I mean, everyone likes a little whinge every now and again. What we don’t all do is moan constantly about things that can’t be changed. I might have said “blimey it’s parky this morning isn’t it?” and that Would be that.

Nope, you sound draining, going on and on about something he has no control over, poor bloke.

Being around someone who constantly complains, especially over really minor things, is so emotionally draining. Instead of sulking over this, why don’t you try and consider how HE feels? He’s obviously trying to tell you something, you don’t seem to care.
Also, it won’t kill your kids to be in a cold car in a journey to school. How do you think kids who walk to school
cope for gods sake?