DH having a rant at me

I thought the same. Mine is 2009 reg, yes it takes time to warm up so what... all cars do, in my experience.

What I imagine of OP

Yes I was wondering that?
It might just be a typo but if she does have hyperthyroidism then they might be over treating it, happened to me several times as I seem to react faster than normal to Carbimazole.
Oh and a 15 plate car isn't old in the scheme of things.

Sorry OP, but you sound very annoying. Moaning about something your husband has no control over.

He proceed to recounted everything I had complained about that was which was a complete exaggeration.

I'd love to hear his side of this, because I'd bet significant money he doesn't think he was exaggerating one bit.

You get my first ever "you sound like hard work".

Honestly it can be quite draining listening to someone complain about something you can't really do anything about.

Similarly you might have made him feel guilty when you bought up the kids being cold in the morning, another thing he can't really fix.

I know it's not idea that he ranted, but maybe he felt like you were ranting at him, sounds like he listened a few times then he also told you what was annoying him.

Ffs it's December and it's cold. Yabvvvu and you owe your dh an apology. Not the other way around.

You being cold is on you. Wear thicker socks, take a blanket if it bothers you that much.

As for the kids on a school run, my dds primary school still makes them do daily mile, play outside and do outdoor learning in winter....the high school makes them do cross country and no coats allowed...your kids will be fine for a short car journey to school.

You need to get a grip.

But you absolutely owe your dh an apology because you were out of order repeatedly complaining.

If this is the biggest issue in your life, how do you manage to live at all? Come on, it's totally trivial and you sound like a pain. All cars heat up eventually unless the heating system is broken (we drove for years in one such car). A bit of cold for a few minutes won't hurt anyone and children, of all people, are the last to notice they're cold.

Did you expect your DH to produce heating from somewhere or to take you in his arms and sob with you over it?

It's December, it's cold, wear more layers if you're worried about the car being cold.

You are the one who needs to apologise!

Maybe you could offer to take the kids to school in your warmer, newer, better car during the winter?

I miss the old days when you had to build a log fire in the car to take the kids to school... cars took even longer to heat up back then.

I have hyperthyroidism too and get cold. You told your husband twice you were cold, he turned up the heating and then you complained that your feet were cold. There was a problem and he tried to fix it and you complained again. Honestly you are being unreasonable on this. Stop moaning.

I would just forget about it, OP. It is a trivial argument at a time of year that can be stressful.

“Shouldn’t your husband just listen without expectation”

no, no he shouldn’t. Your husband is not a verbal punch bag. You sound like the most hard work.

A lot of kids walk to school get a grip. It’s December.

Whilst in the car I twice mentioned it was cold and I also expressed concern that the car is probably cold when he drops our children off at school in the morning

This isn't reasonable...it's cold in the mornings in winter, it takes a while for most cars to heat up and children play in the cold whilst at school.

At best it's not constructive and at worst it's criticism. f you are not talking to him, instead of apologising then you are stonewalling him.

I think this is on you to fix

Shouslnt your husband listen, just listen, without exceptation.

What outcome did you want? You wanted to keep telling him you're cold over and over when he's already upped the heating and you both know the car is slow to warm up? And for him to just listen, as you keep on and on?

This is completely not related to your OP, sorry! But I've just started a thread about possibly having a mouse or rat in my loft! And I saw the title of your OP and thought it said "DH having a rat with me".

I'm terrified of the blighters and now I'm seeing rats and mice everywhere, even in your post title!!!!!

Help!!!!!

Be grateful he's having a rant and you haven't got rats!!

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"Shouldn't your husband listen, just listen, without exceptation?"

Without exception?

No.

Nobody should.

What were you wanting from him? For him to sympathise and agree it was cold? For him to make it warm enough for you?

Repeatedly complaining about something is not an effective method of communication. You need to say what it is you want.

Ihave been in OP position, you ask yourDH how he’s doing and get nothing back, or very little, or as in my case, repetitive stuff that you can’t help or change, just reassure and support. It sounds like a communication breakdown is happening in this marriage, time to seek outside help in learning how to communicate . You should be there for each other to support, reassure and make life better for each other, solve problems together.

You sound like a pain in the bum. You need your meds checking as if your thyroid is under control you shouldn't feel the cold any more than anyone else (I have Hashimoto's so i know what I'm talking about). Your kids presumably don't have underactive thyroids so shouldn't feel the cold like you. I'll be honest this is the first time I've heard someone blame feeling cold on being ND though.

Maybe you should listen to his frustrated feedback and not moan relentlessly.

You mentioned it too much. Once is fine. More than that will make people think you’re making a hurtful dig at them or their things. Yes it’s cold but what were you expecting him to do?

Why has he got the old car? Has he made sacrifices for you and the children so you all have good things and he generally gets the old shite things?

If so no wonder he was pissed off at being unappreciated.

Disclaimer - I too have a condition that makes me cold so I know how awful it is. I layer up in advance. I walked to school as a child (in a skirt as trousers weren't allowed except in snow) and survived. And my car is older than your DH's car. Although I confess it's got heated seats that REALLY work.

You to sound pretty wingey tbh OP. I can kind of see you husbands point. As someone who lives with a moaner (though probably not as bad as you sound) it can get annoying.