Silent treatment for Christmas… again

Leave him. Why choose this life?

What bloody film was it??

Ask him what his problem is, tell him you are not spending Christmas like this.

This is horrible as a teenager i lived in a house where no one spoke to me for months just ignored my existence so I know how unbearable it is. Please leave you deserve so much better. If you have time off over the festive period I'd be tempted to see if I could book a last min deal abroad!

My ex did this to me many many times in our 9 year marriage, eventually I left with two kids and two suitcases. You don't have to live like this.

If you were my friend and contacted me today,I would immediately invite you for Christmas day, no hesitation whatsoever. Always room at the table for a friend in trouble.

Good advice

Sulking is childish and manipulative. Ignore it. Bright and breezy. Pretend you don't care (fake it til you make it)

And, think if you want the rest of your life to be like this

Men like this get worse not better

This!

My FIL has got worse over time. Furthermore his previously private sulks have now escalated to open contempt of MIL. Over the last 10 years the silent treatment has become the norm and the days he doesn't sulk have become the rarity. I think he actually hates her.

Please, please don't become my lovely MIL. The only person who can change him is him. Leave (and mean it!) Maybe he'll plead with you and go to therapy and discover why he does this and change and you can be together again. Maybe he won't and you'll be free of his moods.

Just make this the last one with him.

Ignore him right back.

No presents.

Not a word.

Get your ducks in a row.

'he hasn't spoken to me for over 24 hours.'

The relationship is over. He's pathetic. I can't even big in to imagine a grown man acting that way.

Please make 2025 the year for you when you can set yourself free from the shackles of this truly awful relationship and be rid of this immature oaf.

You can’t negotiate with a stonewaller, this is what they want, to have you begging for a conversation, it is what they get off on, the power of denying you a rational way of resolving problems

the best way IS to show them that you don’t care at all, and carry on without them.

no mention of violence or anything so @StyleSiren should just do her own thing and ignore the fucker right back.

Ditto. Absolutely no question!

@StyleSiren please go for the walk/pub/fuck his presents. Silent treatment HIS arse too.

then, resolve to give yourself the BEST Christmas gift ever, the gift of being free of him.

make this your one goal and get it done. I promise you, you won’t look back.

never EVER spend a single second with someone like this again.

stonewalling IS one of the cruelest things you can do to someone

so try it out on him, don’t engage with him, please yourself, put the radio on or headphones and chill. Make your own food and pretend like HE doesn’t exist

it’s good practice for when you’ve got rid of him.

All over a film choice . Sorry I couldn't live like that , how on earth does he behave when important things don't go his way

Don't make my mistake and stay with him OP. I suffered exactly this for years. Made the mistake of "staying for the kids" but eventually he became abusive to them too as they grew up. Life is really too short to stay in an abusive relationship.

I most certainly would not be putting presents under the tree for him? Are there children? If not, I'd not be cooking Christmas lunch either.

The walk sounds like a good idea, or book into a hotel for the day/night. Time to get organised to get this loser out of your life, because it only gets worse.

My abuser died this year and this will be the first Christmas in many years that won't be ruined with his sulking.

In the short term please reach out to friends. I know I would be upset if one of my friends was going through this and didn’t feel they could reach out especially at this time of year and I would always have room in my house.

Then start thinking long term and make decisions. You do not deserve to be treated in this way, no one does. Thinking of you

This is not normal healthy relationship behaviour. He is a selfish narcissistic man child. The only way to deal with this behaviour effectively is to walk away.

sell his gifts on Facebook marketplace.

Then book yourself a hotel if you can, leave him to sulk on his own, and then make a plan to leave. You can do this op.

As everyone else has said (apart from that one goady Grinch poster), this is abuse and you deserve so much more. He has shown you clearly that he only cares about controlling you and making you unhappy, so you need to start caring about yourself. You can do it OP.

My dad does this - I remember one Christmas when my parents didn't speak to each other for an entire week because my mum dared to change the TV channel after my dad fell asleep watching something she didn't like🤷🏻‍♀️ It's so toxic and damaging - you don't mention any kids but if you have them you need to call this out for their sakes. It took me decades of therapy to learn that this wasn't normal and how to communicate properly. I would also absolutely welcome any friend of mine to join us for Christmas if their partner was behaving like this.

Unfortunately the silent treatment, by definition, precludes any attempt at communication.

WWID? Leave. It's abuse. It was one of the many techniques my ex had in his armoury of emotional abuse.

Leave. You won't regret it. A happier life awaits you. Make this your last Christmas with the abusive, sulky manchild. Of course it will all be your fault anyway (it's not), as he'll not take responsibility for his actions.

Start putting your needs first, it's the only way.

this is so unhealthy bless you

You don't have to put up with this. This is the first thread by a wonderful lady with a similar husband. There are a lot of threads but they are easy to find. It was a long, hard process but she broke free and is living her best life. They are worth reading even if just her posts.
You deserve better.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/3448545-Confronting-DH-about-his-sulking

The posts about some men ruining special occasions is interesting. They ruin weekends, too. The emotional abuse is always worse at weekends, and then come Monday morning, the cycle of abuse ends and they're all sweetness and light again.

There is no fixing men like this.

Are you serious? She didn't like his film choice so she's "shitty"?