Silent treatment for Christmas… again

Actually you need to stop feeling hurt & start to feel outrage.
He can ruin Xmas over a choice of film.
What kind of bully does this ? (We all call out in unison, a controlling bastard)

Yes I would go out on Christmas Day, no Turkey, no present, no Modem. (Take the back door key so he can't lock you out)
Just Go. Do not respond if he calls
Just go & think about what your life looks like & what it will look like from now on if you stay & if you leave.
Life is too short, even the short term misery he will cause over a divorce is better than the long term waiting to die in misery he will procure you

I think you’ve written this post knowing we will tell
you to leave him. I think/hope you know it’s not acceptable. You didn’t like the film, it’s not a reason to make you feel shit.

Great idea.

Sulking over a movie FFS!
Its the behaving as if nothing happened later that drives me mad as well. Not acknowledging that he behaved like a c**t at Christmas is unacceptable. The resentment builds up every time they do it to you. Youre supposed to suck it up but its abusive and invalidating. I had a mother who did this to me and an ex. Its narcissism at its finest.

I would confront him but that would mean more stress for you so definitely extricate yourself from this situation. Do whatever you have to do. And in the NY resolve to get shot of him. He's repugnant.

If this is how a man treats you, it's not acceptable.

Either try talking and seeing what he has to say, and make sure he knows he's never to do it again.

If you've talked before and this isn't a one-off, you should divorce him.

Plenty of Airbnb places you could book to check into tonight. Load the car up with food from your kitchen and take yourself off to spend Christmas Day in peace and quiet

Hand him a Christmas card tomorrow that reads 'your gift from me is a divorce', then on the 27th of December start to contact divorce lawyers

This! Called by Gottmann one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse.
Cab you not go to him and say ‘you’ve ignored me for 24 hrs, when do you intend to let go of this?’ If he ignores you, book into a last minute hotel / go to a pub whilst planning your escape. Unless you want a lifetime of this. Miserable emotional blackmailing f*er

Please do ask you friends if you can go to them. Ask them to get in touch with a time slot that suits them. I’m sure you’ll get offers.
Failing that, I’ve seen on Facebook in my city that there are meet-ups for people who are on their own but don’t want to spend the whole day on their own.
Please tell people what he’s like and get away, on Christmas Day and after that. You can do it. You deserve more.

He knows he's spoiling your good time. He doesn't care. He wants to.

How bloody awful for you.

He is an abusive twat. Give yourself the best Christmas present ever and leave him.

This is abuse. He will never change. The only thing you can do is LTB.

I grew up with my father doing this. He would glare in silence and just shut down sometimes for days or longer. It terrified me when I was young (only child) and had an extremely negative effect on my relationship with both my parents.

He is elderly, frail and alone now and needs me. I try to help him but I cannot forget years of that and it affects how I feel. He still does the glaring even now if something isn’t right for him.

If there are children involved it wil be affecting them too. I really hope you’re okay, it’s an absolutely horrible way to behave. People that do this can’t deal with conflict and expect everyone to tread on eggshells. W

Haven't read the full thread but do you have children? If not just leave. Silent treatment is emotional abuse, it's used to get the victim to comply with them.
How childish he has given you the silent treatment because you had a difference of opinion on the film. So silly of him!

Have you confused op with yourself? Because she sounds fine, whereas you.....

What a complete arsehole. He must have been looking for something to sulk about.

You don’t say if you have children but for their sake (and your own ofc) you need to call time on this. My DP grew up in a house where this behaviour was and is rife, and the damage it does is awful.

I grew up with the silent treatment used for any and every imperceptible slight. It’s not ok. Get rid.

This. Give yourself the best ever Christmas present and dump his sorry arse.

Please leave, we are in Liverpool if you really have nowhere to go tomorrow come to us we’ll budge up and feed you.

This is narcissistic behaviour,a way to control you.Narcisists have to spoil special events,birthdays,Xmas,days out with family.Please get rid of this childish controlling man.Might sound extreme but your whole life will be miserable,walking on egg shells,second guessing what mood he will be in causing you great anxiety and making you ill mentally and emotionally.

If you can make any other plan today then do it, and make it the last miserable time you spend with him

If you can find a friend to go to, please do! I think many would be glad to have you. Getting the silent treatment is the absolute worst feeling, and to do it at Christmas is especially controlling.

I really hope you manage to have a good Christmas somehow. Maybe next year you could have it without him. x

I’ve assumed no kids, btw, from your post.