Silent treatment for Christmas… again

Can you book into a hotel?
Pack a bag and treat yourself.
Life is too short for this.

You are being abused.
So much better to be divorcing than this.
It doesn't sound like you have children?
Pack and leave.
Give him nothing.
Return his gifts.
Let 2025 be the year you choose you.

Do it !
He wants to punish you for having a voice then just cancel it all.

I really would!

Yes, but it depends on whether the OP has made it clear what she won’t tolerate and if generally she feels the relationship is worth trying to save.

If you were friend I would have you at my Xmas in a shot. Don’t put up with this !

@Rubytuesday77 this is good advice for you too

If you were my friend I'd be delighted to have you fit christmas and under these circumstances I'd insist. This isn't petty behaviour he's displaying,it's abuse.

Let 2025 be the year you divorce him.

And call your friends.

There's a place between apologising when you've done nothing wrong and passive aggressive retaliation of your own. The place is assertiveness. So when he starts with the sulking you go in direct and firm. You tell him that refusing to speak to you and withdrawing from you is abusive behaviour that you won't tolerate. So he has an hour to collect himself and then you expect him to speak to you normally, and if he won't then you will do (whatever) instead. If he chooses to continue to sulk then you move to your solo plans. That way you are completely clear that it's his behaviour that 'ruins Christmas' not you doing something else (which he will otherwise claim to put you in the wrong) you give him the opportunity to change and you communicate clear boundaries and consequences.

My first boyfriend did this to me. I walked out him when I was 22. I sat there in the house we'd not long bought, as he completely ignored me over nothing and I literally just felt myself snap. I went to my mom and asked if I could move back in, she said yes, and I left with just the clothes on my back. Later went back to get my stuff and he threw himself down the stairs in a bid to manipulate me into coming back. I'm 45 now and I look back at that time in my life as if it happened to someone else. He was wrong in the head. I had some amazing young single years after left him and am now 45 with three kids and have been happily married for 15 years to the kindest man.
There can be a happy ending. Don't settle. Wishing you strength and happiness.

I'm in Lincolnshire OP. Roast lamb tomorrow and a seat at the table. I would gladly host you.
You will be expected to participate in the taskmaster crackers challenges though!

Go to a friend’s. Ask on FB is anyone fancies an extra one for Christmas and pack a bag and go or book a local hotel. Being on your own is easier. What a nasty ex partner you have.

I can sympathise, it’s the we same with me. DH ignoring me because of a very minor tiff last night. I’ve done the usual just being nice and not hanging on to the argument but he’s being cold and acting badly done to. Oh well another very merry Christmas. 😟

I'd say 'you are ignoring me because I didn't want to watch the same film as you - you are pathetic and this relationship is over'

My ex was like that. If I didn't enjoy the things he did, I got ignored for days. Or If I liked something he didn't I got ignored for days. I had to watch so much football and cricket! Oh my days! How boring! Thank goodness my now husband hates sports. Anyway, I'm sorry to tell you this but you are in an emotionally abusive relationship and you don't deserve to be made to feel like shit for not sharing an interest. spend the day doing what makes you happy. Ask a friend if you can come over. Chances are, they already know what a prick he is and would be more than happy to have you over to help. Love to you xx

These "adult" males ought to be sent to some sort of a "camp" to grow up and start appreciating their partners.
Curious how many would last ...😜

This is exactly it. In the middle of the latest nearly week-long silent treatment episode (10 years of this and I was never told what I had done ‘wrong’ during any of these, just left to suffer like a ghost in my own home), I finally woke up and realised I was being treated like shit and found my anger and blew up at my exDH and told him I was done being treated like that, and wanted a divorce. He was shocked and said he thought I’d never leave him. Amazing how the silent treatment suddenly vanished and I existed again! Abusive childish bastard. Like some PPs, I too grew up with the silent treatment being used by my father and it messed me up with regard to taking abuse in relationships. I’ll never accept abuse ever again. It’s so important for children not to grow up seeing this behaviour modelled.

This! The subsequent behaving as if nothing has happened - i know it well. If an apology had been offered afterwards then we could have discussed it and I could have forgiven it. But usually, after a period of silent treatment, typically extending into days, STBEX would act as if nothing had happened and expect me to snap back into jolly behaviour when it suited him. If i bought up his behaviour at that point it would be twisted back on me and all end up being my fault some how. Urgh, am so pleased to be free of the spell now. I feel sad it's taken me so long, but I wasn't set a good example by my mum and dad unfortunately. Am trying to model clear communication of feelings and anger to my DC now...
Break that spell OP

He's an emotionally abusive bully. He's manipulative and subjects you to controlling behaviour. Don't suffer in silence. Put yourself first from now on and free yourself from this marriage and from his appalling behaviour. File for divorce and take the first steps to a brighter 2025

Obviously it’s more about her behaviour than when he was watching the film! Like I said - they clearly don’t like each other.

I left my ex husband in the middle of his final lengthy sulk. Strangely enough, also a special Christmas sulk. Silent treatment is abusive. He thinks you'll stay, so he'll always use this tactic until he realises the consequences.

Is this really how you want to spend 2025?

He's punishing you.

Make plans to leave. He sounds like a bullying shit.

Please get yourself out of such relationship. You dont deserve be treated like this.

I am so sorry. This is abusive behaviour. It is not normal and it is not ok. Time to plan for your future, OP.

Take yourself away if you can, and when you're feeling calm, start planning your exit. 👍

In my opinion, give him the sack. He's giving you the silent treatment because you didn't want to watch a specific movie? Unless you said something like, 'your movie sounds fucking awful and shit' (which I'm sure you didn't), his behaviour is completely out of line. Sorry you're going through this - I know you say that you don't want to be a burden to your friends, but there's never any harm asking (especially if you know they're having other friends etc over) - you could always bring a dish yourself, some drinks, and games, so you don't feel like a burden or like you're putting them to more trouble.