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MIL gave heirlooms to favourite son

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Gpates · 23/12/2024 22:07

I'll try to be short.

Very recently found out that MIL gave all her family heirloom jewellery (quite valuable but more sentimental) to her other son (she has two sons, I'm married to her younger son).

She gave it to him 10 years ago, as he has two daughters and she said she never thought DH would get married or have kids as he was a 'bachelor'.

He was 25 at the time!

We met, married and have a daughter of our own now. AIBU to feel this is unfair?!

She has history of favouring BIL, DH is very hurt.

OP posts:
RickiRaccoon · 23/12/2024 22:17

It's done. It's just stuff at the end of the day. Could your DH ask for something else sentimental for your DD instead?

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Gpates · 23/12/2024 22:17

lazyarse123 · 23/12/2024 22:11

You'll get weirdos on here saying she can give her belongings to whoever she wants but your dh is not wrong to be upset by it. Don't think you can do much about it though, especially as she favours bil anyway,

It's such a weird thing to do, to give heirlooms away while still alive, and writing DH off as a forever-single guy at 25! She's batty.

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littlemissprosseco · 23/12/2024 22:12

Inheritance destroys families

You’re falling into the trap.

Remember no one owes anyone anything.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 23/12/2024 22:11

Lamelie · 23/12/2024 22:09

Keep out of it.
Not a word.

Sound advice other than supporting your DH if he’s upset.

lazyarse123 · 23/12/2024 22:11

You'll get weirdos on here saying she can give her belongings to whoever she wants but your dh is not wrong to be upset by it. Don't think you can do much about it though, especially as she favours bil anyway,

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 23/12/2024 22:10

Do you really want someone else’s dusty crap?

Count yourself lucky you’ve dodged the pressure of having an heirloom.

I was supposed to be heirloomed a particularly ugly and clearly haunted doll. I declined. It went to auction. Goodbye, you creepy fucker!

Lamelie · 23/12/2024 22:09

Keep out of it.
Not a word.

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