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Accidentally insulted neighbours by cursing about the parking

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desiringtoremainsane · 23/12/2024 20:53

I have a house that sits next to only one other in a semi-rural setting. We have one short access road with a turning circle at the end. Since I moved in the neighbours had two project cars parked in the turning circle, meaning both me and the neighbours had to either back down the drive (reversing from a main road) or turn the car by driving over part of my lawn. This was not ideal but they were new neighbours and it was important to me that we get along. So I politely enquired about the cars to my neighbour and he worked out a plan to move them into his garage. So far, great.

However, his grown kids tended to now use the turning circle for parking when they dropped by for the weekends. So I got use of the turning circle for most of the time.

Here's where I may have been unreasonable. I got back from some frantic shopping this evening and there were two cars parked in the turning circle. The drive being pitch dark, I got out of the car and ranted to my self "urgh, its not a f**king car park". As I got the shopping out of the back I heard a door shut. One of the neighbours kids was out in the dark and had hopped into one of the cars! He MUST have heard me. He probably thought I was talking to him!!

I now dont know what to do. Do I apologise to my neighbours? How the hell do I bring this up without sounding like an awful human. I much prefered the softly softly approach. Advice please.

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tilligan · 24/12/2024 09:16

Easiest solution is to purchase a "turning circle, no parking" sign, easy to find online!

HopingForTheBest25 · 24/12/2024 09:07

Mine do this - I think they think their drive is in line with their front garden, so they park with their nose over the bump which marks the start of the turning circle! They are lovely people but it's not great having to do a million tiny manoeuvres to get out!

Butchyrestingface · 24/12/2024 08:10

WinterCrow · 24/12/2024 07:05

Well then you can tell them you've done nothing wrong and to get tae fuck wi' their shite parking.

I concur. Don’t be so wet, OP.

Offer them a square go if they give you any snaff. 🥊

ueberlin2030 · 24/12/2024 07:57

Pixilicious1 · 23/12/2024 21:00

Well you’re right, it’s not a car park and they should be be parked there.

This.
Perhaps they need to realise how frustrating it is. Venting isn't the same as swearing at them, they just happened to hear.

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 24/12/2024 07:52

Why would you apologise? They're being incredibly selfish.

BarbaraHoward · 24/12/2024 07:28

Good for you, you've been ridiculously patient.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 24/12/2024 07:22

Hey, they unexpectedly got told. Do nothing.

WinterCrow · 24/12/2024 07:05

desiringtoremainsane · 23/12/2024 21:34

It's the accent, I'm Scottish 😉

Well then you can tell them you've done nothing wrong and to get tae fuck wi' their shite parking.

itsgettingweird · 24/12/2024 07:04

Well it's not a fucking car park.

Hopefully they'll have realised you're right and stop taking the piss!

CookieMonster28 · 24/12/2024 07:02

Don't feel bad. They're being selfish! I'd have to say something if it continues but hopefully this might have given them a much needed hint!

LookItsMeAgain · 24/12/2024 06:59

Do NOT apologise. They are causing their neighbour (you) unnecessary stress at a very stressful time of the year (or at any time of the year when they are doing it really).

Perhaps if they realise that they are pissing their neighbour off, then they will stop parking there?

Is there any way that you could park where they are parking and cause them some issues?

DarkForces · 24/12/2024 06:56

pestowithwalnuts · 23/12/2024 21:22

Id like to know what 'urgh' means

Hmmmm

What Does Urgh Mean?

For those who think it's easier to annoy you than to Google 'What does urgh mean?' themselves.

https://letmegooglethat.com/?q=What+does+urgh+mean%3F

FarmGirl78 · 24/12/2024 06:52

pestowithwalnuts · 23/12/2024 21:22

Id like to know what 'urgh' means

I'd like to know what 'id' means. 😉

Gettingbysomehow · 24/12/2024 06:30

My neighbour heard me bitching about his smoking to a friend. I was saying my house smells so bad he may as well come over and smoke in my living room.
Well result, because he's dome something snd I can't smell it as much any more.
You don't need to apologise or explain yourself.

Swannyb · 24/12/2024 06:24

Hopefully they’ll get the message now!

Honestly, you’ve done nothing wrong. I wouldn’t worry about it, carry on as per usual.

LynetteScavo · 24/12/2024 06:19

pestowithwalnuts · 23/12/2024 21:22

Id like to know what 'urgh' means

urgh exclamation
/əx/
/ərx/
(also ugh)
the way of writing the sound that people make when they think that something is horrible
Urgh! There's a dead fly in my coffee!

I'm baffled that someone is asking what "urgh" means and also that they don't have access to a search engine (a web-based tool that enables users to locate information on the World Wide Web) such as Google.

OP, you are quite right it's not a car park, and hopefully whoever heard you will pass on your irritation to the owner of the house, and they realise the inconvenience they're causing you. You have nothing to apologise for.

WearyAuldWumman · 23/12/2024 21:52

desiringtoremainsane · 23/12/2024 21:34

It's the accent, I'm Scottish 😉

In that case, as a fellow Scot I'm bitterly disappointed that you didn't add "ye bwbag" to your exclamation of displeasure.

PuppyMonkey · 23/12/2024 21:48

You accidentally insulting them isn’t half as bad as them being inconsiderate knob ends OP.

MerrilyOnhigh · 23/12/2024 21:36

Suggest to your neighbour that you have "No parking in the turning circle" signs made.

desiringtoremainsane · 23/12/2024 21:34

m00rfarm · 23/12/2024 21:30

You don't know what "urgh" means? It is another way of writing "ugh". Been around since mid 1700s apparently.

It's the accent, I'm Scottish 😉

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m00rfarm · 23/12/2024 21:30

pestowithwalnuts · 23/12/2024 21:22

Id like to know what 'urgh' means

You don't know what "urgh" means? It is another way of writing "ugh". Been around since mid 1700s apparently.

MumChp · 23/12/2024 21:24

It was the truth. I wouldn't apologize.

comedycentral · 23/12/2024 21:24

Assume they didn't hear, send your Christmas card as usual. It might make them consider their parking a bit more.

pestowithwalnuts · 23/12/2024 21:22

Id like to know what 'urgh' means

WhoopsNow · 23/12/2024 21:22

Do nothing. They shouldn't be parking there.