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To think wtf? Me and ex finished end of November & he's having Xmas dinner with a girl in a restaurant? Ahah

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twentytwentyfour2024 · 23/12/2024 19:42

I mean, he's a narcissist so therefore I believe he is almost definitely love bombing a girl right now, however the cheeky bugger😂😮😂 I'm offended but this is hilarious. Having Christmas meals out with a girl he's only just started speaking to? WTAF😂

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princesspadam · 24/12/2024 12:38

I'm going against the grain here but I think you're right to feel this way

3 weeks to find a girl willing to spend Xmas day with is fast work

Honestly responses on MN are so fucked up it beggars belief

StormingNorman · 24/12/2024 12:19

Elfmademedoit · 24/12/2024 12:02

How do you know?
Stop stalking him, it’s really creepy.

😂😂😂

Elfmademedoit · 24/12/2024 12:02

How do you know?
Stop stalking him, it’s really creepy.

jolies1 · 24/12/2024 10:00

It maybe seems a bit soon but this could be as simple as them having a chat on a date or text “so what are your plans for Xmas day,” “nothing” “oh I’m on my own too shall we go for dinner?” I went for a walk on Xmas day during lockdown with my now DH (we had not long started speaking) as neither of us could travel to family.

CitiesInDust · 24/12/2024 10:00

That is fast.

How do you know?

StormingNorman · 24/12/2024 09:56

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/12/2024 06:48

So what if she is?

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It doesn’t matter what she is. My post was about the man’s attitude, not the woman.

StormingNorman · 24/12/2024 09:53

cuteyfluff · 24/12/2024 06:47

How rude. She's done nothing wrong here

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I wasn’t talking about the woman. I was talking about the ex’s approach to moving on.

AsTheLightFades · 24/12/2024 07:16

twentytwentyfour2024 · 23/12/2024 19:42

I mean, he's a narcissist so therefore I believe he is almost definitely love bombing a girl right now, however the cheeky bugger😂😮😂 I'm offended but this is hilarious. Having Christmas meals out with a girl he's only just started speaking to? WTAF😂

How does love-bombing someone prove they are a noecissist?

mnreader · 24/12/2024 07:15

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AsTheLightFades · 24/12/2024 07:12

twentytwentyfour2024 · 23/12/2024 19:44

No I know!! It's totally silly of me I know!! But I'm quite offended😂😂

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Is it because it's Christmas dinner, or would any dinner be as offensive?

ChampagneLassie · 24/12/2024 07:04

Broke up with my ex husband in November, in Dec he took his new GF to the Caribbean for a holiday to meet her parents 🫨
they’ve been married a few years now so it must have been the right call but astonished me at the time. And I felt very hurt

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 24/12/2024 07:01

It is a bit galling when you see them on a date so soon after you've broken up. He is free to do what he wants as he is single etc, but it can still feel upsetting like you meant nothing to them.

CookieMonster28 · 24/12/2024 07:00

That is weird. Hopefully he'll get bad wind from the sprouts and put her off.

LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 24/12/2024 06:59

One of my pet peeves on MN are people who declare others to be narcissists without any examples of said narcissism.

I really never have given a shit how any of my exes spend Christmas as long as it’s as far away from me as possible.

YoYoYoYo12345 · 24/12/2024 06:57

twentytwentyfour2024 · 23/12/2024 19:42

I mean, he's a narcissist so therefore I believe he is almost definitely love bombing a girl right now, however the cheeky bugger😂😮😂 I'm offended but this is hilarious. Having Christmas meals out with a girl he's only just started speaking to? WTAF😂

End of November is almost a full month ago. You've finished, he's moved on.

GRex · 24/12/2024 06:55

Some people have bad relationships and need time on their own to break a pattern. Others feel better moving on straight away. It's perfectly reasonable for a single man to go to dinner with a new date. OP, all this bitterness is not good for you, move on yourself and you'll feel better.

Dobbythechristmaself · 24/12/2024 06:52

There’s something very wrong with the people on this thread. You can feel the enjoyment of the sneering.

leia24 · 24/12/2024 06:51

My ex was in court for a non mol hearing with me on 4th September and on holiday with another woman on 6th September 👍

FancyNewt · 24/12/2024 06:50

I'd feel a bit put out too OP. People don't immediately 'move on'. As some weird posters here imply. Just count yourself lucky that you're not sat with him.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/12/2024 06:48

StormingNorman · 23/12/2024 20:30

Some men can’t be alone. She could be any old lump of lard in lipstick and a pretty frock.

So what if she is?

cuteyfluff · 24/12/2024 06:48

icelolly12 · 23/12/2024 20:22

Is it only me that would also be hurt by an ex moving on so quickly?

Also this isn't a coffee in Costa, it's Christmas- a time spent with your significant other/s

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On christmas eve eve?

cuteyfluff · 24/12/2024 06:47

ChristmasUsername2024 · 23/12/2024 20:03

I wonder if it's more restaurants get booked quite far in advance and they must have had this arranged a while back?

Probably meant to take op

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/12/2024 06:47

There’s nothing wrong with him doing this.

How do you know anyway?

You do post about him a lot, try to move on.

cuteyfluff · 24/12/2024 06:47

StormingNorman · 23/12/2024 20:30

Some men can’t be alone. She could be any old lump of lard in lipstick and a pretty frock.

How rude. She's done nothing wrong here

cuteyfluff · 24/12/2024 06:45

Going on a christmas dinner date isn't love bombing. It sounds cute.