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To think a 3:20 finish is absurd?

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Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:28

It’s mostly mums at the school gates. Because the 3:20 finish worked well at a time when most women stayed at home.

now most women work, which means two parents working, why does school finish ar 3:20?! Yes I know there are after school classes etc but some don’t go on for too long and they also cost.

what actually is the reason why the school day isn’t aligned with a work day (like it is with most private schools!)

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crackofdoom · 23/12/2024 20:42

Danikm151 · 23/12/2024 19:54

You’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
I work full time 9-5 so my son has wraparound care until 6. If I worked part time to pick up from school at 3:30 UC would be questioning why I don’t work more hours. I need the UC to pay for wraparound care but others judge me because my child goes to wraparound every day.
The most frustrating is that school finishes at 12:30 on Fridays so I need to use a combination of childcare care and family help into order to work.

My son loves going to wraparound but in an ideal world I could work 25 hours a week but my employer and my budget wouldn’t allow that.

I couldn't agree more. I wish someone would tell the DWP "school isn't childcare", because the moment your child turns 5 they expect you to work 30 hours a week. I guess it would be do- able if you worked at your kids' actual school (except then you'd have to find some extra work in the holidays to satisfy their requirements).

Oh, but it's OK, you can use some of this magical wrap around care! Which sometimes exists and....sometimes doesn't. There's not a single childminder in our village, or nearby.

But as a low income single mum you soon learn you don't count as a person, so hey 🤷‍♀️ Feminism doesn't concern itself with the likes of us, obviously.

SnapdragonToadflax · 23/12/2024 20:42

There needs to be better wraparound care provision. We are still on the waiting list for after-school club in Y1 - last time I checked I was 13th in the queue for a Wednesday. Thank goodness I managed to find a childminder before mine started Reception, but many weren't so lucky. I know three women in my son's class who aren't working the hours they want/need to because of the lack of childcare.

Yet when we visited the school they didn't mention the waiting list at all - just said to call as soon as we had confirmation he had a place. Which we did. They also say there isn't much call for wraparound care 🤯

JaninaDuszejko · 23/12/2024 20:42

craigth162 · 23/12/2024 19:29

Because school is to educate and is not childcare?

Wasn't that theory blown apart by the pandemic? School absolutely is childcare and it's just snobbery that makes teachers claim it isn't.

School was designed for a world where women didn't work and children worked on the land in the holidays and a serious look at the best way to revise the school year and day is long overdue.

Chronicallytired · 23/12/2024 20:42

My private school finished at 4.00 if we wanted to stay later they had extra activities like netball club etc but these where all extra and added onto the school bill. Prep was free but only until 5.30 and you had to be a certain age I seem to remember. We also had longer holidays but there was no holiday clubs when I was off school unless our holiday dates matched the local state schools. My parents worked in London and still had to arrange childcare to pick me up.

TouchoftheTism · 23/12/2024 20:42

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 23/12/2024 20:40

So if schools carried on until 5 who is paying for that? You can’t just ask people to work an extra hour and a half and not be paid?

whoa whoa whoa teachers already work till 5 and beyond. So they may as well teach kids. Perhaps give the kids a 2 hour lunch and teachers can do prep work then.

Honeycrisp · 23/12/2024 20:42

80smonster · 23/12/2024 20:33

They privately fund extra staff by charging fees. It’s not really that complicated. Would you be prepared to pay fees?

It's also a self selecting group, in that people who don't want their DC in for longer days won't go private even if they can afford it.

MermaidEyes · 23/12/2024 20:41

spanieleyes · 23/12/2024 20:31

Given it has been the same situation for at least the last 60 years that I'm aware of, you think about how you will manage BEFORE you have children. Then you do what every one else does- find after school care, or a childminder or a nanny or a kindly grandparent!
Or you pay for private school which sources the childcare for you.

This.
When you decide to have children you know for an absolute fact that in 4 years time they will be starting school. If you
A, don't have the means to be a SAHM
B, don't have grandparents/family members to help out
C, can't afford childcare
D, can't change your working hours
Then don't have children.

80smonster · 23/12/2024 20:41

Itsr · 23/12/2024 20:38

@80smonster i don’t want to have to pay fees but feel like I’ve got no option

Generally the prep school day ends at 4:15pm and extra curricular clubs run until 5pm. After school clubs vary in end time. Both extra curriculars and ASC’s are charged in addition to the fees. So might not be cheaper than a state school with the same offerings?

Marblesbackagain · 23/12/2024 20:41

FenellaFeldman · 23/12/2024 20:39

Don't they have longer summer holidays in Ireland as well?

Yep.June 30- 1 Sept up to age 12 then three mons I. secondary.

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 23/12/2024 20:40

So if schools carried on until 5 who is paying for that? You can’t just ask people to work an extra hour and a half and not be paid?

FenellaFeldman · 23/12/2024 20:39

Marblesbackagain · 23/12/2024 20:37

You would lose your mind in Ireland for the first three years it's 1:20 and 2:20 after that.

I work full time I rely on after-school, childminders and nanny at different times.

Don't they have longer summer holidays in Ireland as well?

Rewis · 23/12/2024 20:39

I think school should be more like daycare and actual school would start when the kids are older. The daycare would be from 7-5 or whatever is deemed the best timing. There would be school like activities during core hours. The other hours would be less formal. Kids would have to be in during the core hours but otherwise could be dropped off and picked up within opening hours. And when the kids are older and start formal school then they'd have after school club to those who need it and soon enough they'll be old enough to get themselves home from school.

NiftyPeachDreamer · 23/12/2024 20:38

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:52

@TheFairyCaravan

  1. how do private schools teachers and students cope with a longer day then? By magic?
  2. im not expecting ‘childcare.’ I’m expecting a full day which isn’t 6 hours including lunch and a morning break.

But you are expecting free childcare.

The tax payer can’t fund everything for you.

Itsr · 23/12/2024 20:38

80smonster · 23/12/2024 20:33

They privately fund extra staff by charging fees. It’s not really that complicated. Would you be prepared to pay fees?

@80smonster i don’t want to have to pay fees but feel like I’ve got no option

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Marblesbackagain · 23/12/2024 20:37

You would lose your mind in Ireland for the first three years it's 1:20 and 2:20 after that.

I work full time I rely on after-school, childminders and nanny at different times.

CurlsandCurves · 23/12/2024 20:37

My kids secondary school starts at 8.30 and finishes at 3. Earlier finish was decided because they appreciate that kids have extra curricular activities and homework to fit in.

Theres never going to be a one size fits all to this.

FenellaFeldman · 23/12/2024 20:37

@cakeorwine 8-5pm would not have suited me or my husband to a tee.
Not everyone works traditional office hours. We never did.
We paid for a private school and extra provision.

ElBandito · 23/12/2024 20:37

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:54

@Housefullofcatsandkids ive just googled the private schools near me and the earliest finish is 4:30, other three at 6pm if you choose an extra curricular activity at no extra cost

Now Google how many weeks holiday they have and work out how you'd cover it.

TheHateIsNotGood · 23/12/2024 20:36

After 3.20pm teachers should be able to get on with all the myriad of tasks that their SLT demand of them; as they do seem to post incessantly about it - although most problems seem to eminate from their SLT (teachers with promotion) so not really your mainstream working parents just tring to keep their own bosses happy and their dc educated, warm and fed.

No one has suggested that teachers lengthen their day working at the 'coal face' of education merely that the ordinary 3:20pm school finish doesn't co-exist so well with the widely-accepted 5-6pm finish that many employers demand.

And that's without throwing in the variations of shift workers and the restrictions on leave entitlement that many non-educational working parents endure/live with.

cakeorwine · 23/12/2024 20:35

I think schools should only be closed for 25 days a year including bank holidays just so it fits in with the annual leave available to parents.

This plus the 8am - 5pm would suit working parents to a tee.

It might have some effect on pupils and teachers though,

FiveWhatByFiveWhat · 23/12/2024 20:35

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:28

It’s mostly mums at the school gates. Because the 3:20 finish worked well at a time when most women stayed at home.

now most women work, which means two parents working, why does school finish ar 3:20?! Yes I know there are after school classes etc but some don’t go on for too long and they also cost.

what actually is the reason why the school day isn’t aligned with a work day (like it is with most private schools!)

Because kids would be absolutely shattered by then.

snoopyfanaccountant · 23/12/2024 20:35

TouchoftheTism · 23/12/2024 20:25

All jobs have shit parts. For some reason primary school teachers think its harder than going down the pit.

Anyway the point i was making is that they generally remain at work till 5ish so would be a good idea to teach kids till then. I agree it would be better for families who want to work full time.

Teachers are there until 5 (and beyond) to prepare for following days and mark classwork. If they teach until 5pm, when do the teachers prepare their lessons for the following days? Are you willing to spend your evenings preparing for your next work days?
I'm not a teacher but I come from a family of teachers (2 grandparents, both parents, aunt and uncle, MIL) and I have a DD who has recently had to quit teaching due to severe anxiety

chillycat · 23/12/2024 20:35

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:52

@TheFairyCaravan

  1. how do private schools teachers and students cope with a longer day then? By magic?
  2. im not expecting ‘childcare.’ I’m expecting a full day which isn’t 6 hours including lunch and a morning break.

Because private schools are businesses that fund their operating model through raising funds via fees.

State schools are currently under funded and rely on the government. They work often in much more challenging catchment areas than schools in the private sector and the brings further drain on resources and then what they can offer as wrap around. For teachers, larger classes, more challenging children.

SchoolDilemma17 · 23/12/2024 20:34

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:54

@Housefullofcatsandkids ive just googled the private schools near me and the earliest finish is 4:30, other three at 6pm if you choose an extra curricular activity at no extra cost

Private schools have longer school holidays too

purpleblue2 · 23/12/2024 20:33

So essentially you’re saying your child should do the typical 9-5 at school? I think not